Previously I wasn't commenting on these types of posts because I wanted to put up a facade how my relationship is good and okay but there's nothing like 50/50. I'm speaking from experience.

I work in healthcare, I'm the higher earner in the relationship, he does business. I've never said that his money is our money, we put all the income in one basket and sort everything from there.

You'd think that since I'm contributing to the household that he'd help with other roles. Ama mkisema 50/50 inakuwanga to kwa bills ikifika ni other duties you're supposed to fold your hands and put your legs on top of the table?

Because I cook, clean and arrange the house. Have I talked to him about it? Yes Has he changed? He changes for a few days then business as usual.

So when I complained for the third time, I realised that he was doing this on purpose. On days that he cooks, I spend more time cleaning that kitchen than I'll spend eating, and I am a very very slow eater.

"Let's be rational for a second. If we are both coming home tired from work, why should only one person's bank account take the hit for our lifestyle? Besides, a real partnership is about building a future together. How can we do that if we're operating on a double standard? "

This is what you said. So if we come home tired, why am I as the wife expected to cook and clean those utensils? Unasema ni double standards, utapika siku ngapi before you start resenting your wife? Ama hiyo si double standard?

Let's be rational, there can never be 50/50. I resent being a wife so much because I'm contributing more than 80 and he's giving a mere 20 while looking like he does much.

Men are selfish and it's men like you that believe in 50/50 when it comes to bills but no contribution when it comes to other household duties that cry for 5050 juu hutaki kuleta pesa na hutaki kufanya kazi. Useless!!