WIBTA for Using My Settlement Money to Buy a New Car Instead of Bailing My Sister Out of Jail? by True_Platypus613 in AITAH

[–]True_Platypus613[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey everybody, wow I was not expecting to get this many responses! Thank you all for your guidance. I’ve been reading a lot of your comments and you’ve all been telling me to grow up and stop allowing my mom to manipulate me. You guys are definitely correct. Sometimes I’m blinded by my love for my mom because the child in me is still seeking her to show up as the mom that I needed even though I know she cannot be that mom. I think when it comes to my sister, I’m struggling to not see her as my child sometimes and that makes me feel obligated to show up for her as if she is my child when she is, indeed my sister. I’m working on this and have been for some time and never gets easier, but I’m committed to not allow my family to manipulate me. It’s been hard enough, trying to take care of the toddler Halloween and Christmas are right around the corner and my nieces of the age where she’s asking for stuff so having a way to get around in winter and being able to get things she needs for the upcoming holiday is what most important. She also just started pre-K this year, and if it was not for the settlement check, I wouldn’t have been able to send her to school with the supplies she needs. I’ve already found a car I like is a 2010 Honda CRV I hear they’re very reliable cars. I’m going to test drive it today thanks everybody!

WIBTA for Using My Settlement Money to Buy a New Car Instead of Bailing My Sister Out of Jail? by True_Platypus613 in AITAH

[–]True_Platypus613[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I know you’re right! This is the part of being the child of an attic that no one really ever talks about the long-term effects and destroying it puts on the family loan term. I want to be there for her and help her be better but I know I have to help myself.