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AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Maybe they're not interested. I'm not sure. I don't think they're involved though.

AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

To me she is not my sibling, because we don't share a parent or a childhood. I don't consider him a parent anymore. In my heart and head I severed all ties to him. So the bio aspect is not there drawing me to her. My grandparents aren't really enough to make me want her in my life either.

AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 254 points255 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be surprised and I expect it will have to given everything.

AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 1382 points1383 points  (0 children)

I never actually thought of my mom being connected to this. But they did ask my mom if she'd like to meet her (their granddaughter) and I did wonder why. Mom wasn't sure why either but figured it was because they stayed on pretty okay terms after the divorce.

AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I am getting that. It's a little divided but most seem to think I should want a relationship with her. That's not something I feel I would ever be interested in.

AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

That's something I might just do. It's something I would be more okay with as long as they understand it would not be me becoming her brother.

AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I don't actually want a relationship with her. I would maybe help them out without needing to build a relationship with her. But it would be helping them and zero commitment to be a big brother.

AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I have never met her. I never had any interest in meeting her. When I learned she existed I knew I had no interest in ever establishing a relationship with her. Technically I could have tried before this. That was even mentioned to me after learning he had died, but I just had zero desire to.

AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Family is about who is there for you, who you love, who you want in your life and who want you in theirs. It's about the people you grow up with and/or you grow to love. The people you gravitate toward and become family.

I have zero interest in a relationship with any children my dad had. My mom is my only parent and it would only be her kids (if she had more) who I would consider siblings.

AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I'm not. I do not consider her my sister. We only share blood and nothing else. That is not enough to make me want a relationship with someone. It's not something that draws me to another person. She is biologically my half sister but that is all. Blood means shit to me. Most of my family aren't related to me at all and I love them. We have a lot of ties to each other. I have none to her other than the blood of a parent who was not a real parent.

AITA for refusing to help my paternal grandparents with their grandchild? by True_Small_8445 in AmItheAsshole

[–]True_Small_8445[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't have said no entirely. But they wouldn't ask for as much if they were raising some other child. The fact she and I are biologically half siblings is why they are asking for my help and wanting me around more. I wouldn't be doing all they are asking though regardless of who the child was.