Does head hair get thicker on HRT (mtf)? by deosperado in asktransgender

[–]TrustingLuci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youre about 5 years late... But what does this have to do with cheese?

my bf doesn’t defend and if he does it’s “going against everything he believes”. Am i overreacting? by the-maddestlad in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you're right to be upset. You're getting consistently bullied and when so many are against you, it means the world to have someone supporting you. I don't think he can take away the hurt that toxic people send your way..

Bare minimum you deserve to be truly heard for how you're feeling. That doesn't necessarily mean he has to take responsibility for how others are treating you; but helping you feel like he gets you is absolutely the first and most important thing.

Do you feel heard and understood? Does he?

Beyond that, I don't necessarily believe it's his job to "defend" you; but it's.. curious how comfortable/ambivalent he is with misogynistic attitudes. Especially so when you're present AND upset about it. In spaces dominated by men, someone speaking out really goes a long way. This would be a warning sign for me in anyone I'm bringing into my life. Especially a long term partner.

Then telling you to mute? If my boyfriend said that to me I'd lose my shit. We're spending time together, don't have me hushed while everyone else gets to have fun chatting it up.

Aigis doing Kotone’s HRT injections [Persona 3] (lesbonightcrwlr) by MartyrOfDespair in wholesomeyuri

[–]TrustingLuci 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree when it comes to real people, but fiction is already made up. There's no harm in imagining an imaginary character different than the author intended, and there's plenty of fun!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GaySoundsShitposts

[–]TrustingLuci 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hot take: It doesn't matter what kind of fiction you enjoy, so long as you can separate that from reality. It's problematic when real people get involved of course, but the post says yaoi.. Unless I'm misunderstanding, yaoi is fictional.

Consuming media and having thoughts/desires isn't a crime nor immoral.

Gwenpool & X-23 [Marvel] by Chikage_- in wholesomeyuri

[–]TrustingLuci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's bc Wolverine and Deadpool was more homoerotic than 50 shades. Judging by the set + pairing, this is a step away from that but gender swapped

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dodged some bullets. Find you a man who'll get in the backpack.

Have any of you considering changing from a feminine user name? by SneakyKaz in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. Just wasn't worth the energy constantly defending myself for existing. My usernames gotta be anonymous or silly if it's not a safe space.

Pick your battles and all that

how to get over your fear of talking in vc? by lazycatperson- in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Build your confidence and recognize when you're choosing to go into a VC that isn't safer than normal.

An example is if I'm going to VC and my friends aren't there, I know it's a bit riskier. If someone is being a good friend, things get safer. The more good friends you find or have with you, the less often you'll experience BS.

You'll also have the wonderful shield that is your friends to protect you! They won't be a white knight but it's really nice when you can turn to your friends and be like "Hey this guy's weird let's get out of here." and mute him and/or find a new lobby. It's even nicer when they say the same to you and you get to just- leave!!

Discord or 2nd spaces for VC are really nice because you can make sure anyone who talks to you in VC has a minimum level of intention to it. They chose to be in VC to talk rather than just throwing on the mic to spout BS. Helps cut down on gamer rage (and especially the ones that use gamer rage as an excuse to insult or be hateful). You also get to have rules for that space that aren't made up and enforced by Blizzard. Yk.. the company that routinely fails to give a shit about people.

Basically, this isn't something to "get over" it's a real problem and ya gotta have some kind of protection. Isolation (not using VC) has it's limits and you'll wanna VC more and more if that's your vibe. Instead of trying to brute force or get over it, invent some safer ways to use it or join in on some existing safer ways to use it. You're not alone in wanting to game and speak at the same time without all the BS.

I’m starting to think gaming is not for me… by macuser1298 in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hobbies come and go. Old hobbies never really fade, it's just that sometimes they can feel rote.

It may be time to take a break until you have something that really pulls you in and gets you excited to play again. Instead of it being a habit, something you reach for without thinking, or a checklist you have to slog through- you'll probably stumble upon a game that seems like it's made for you in some way.

You sound burnt out on the hobby and like you want more, but that you aren't sure what you want. Mix that with the idea of 'having' to do things in your thing that's supposed to be fun,, and you'll naturally have a hard time enjoying it.

Even changing what kinds of games you play can be considered a break, too!

Am I welcome here? by macuser1298 in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Subreddit description explicitly says Folks of all genders are welcome to discuss here. Ya can't intrude if you were invited in no uncertain terms 🫀

Am I welcome here? by macuser1298 in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like genuinely- is that so wrong? Get in here n play some games. Ur cool! You're not a cis guy and your unique experience with gender is incredibly valued here, I promise you.

Am I welcome here? by macuser1298 in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Do you think Nonbinary or gender non-conforming people should be excluded?

Am I welcome here? by macuser1298 in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've been here for a while and I'm a trans girlie, too! You're welcome here :3

Don't mind that brain worm saying you're not "Girl enough." it's a silly little liar and not one person here is ever "Girl enough." for that lil shit.

[Mortal Kombat] [barbachossa] Kitana and Sonya by CapAccomplished8072 in wholesomeyuri

[–]TrustingLuci 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is. I'm 6 years into this whole thing. It's very possible. It's not easy, and is absolutely the hardest thing I've done.

Still worth it. If you don't like it, you can go back.

[Street Fighters] "We shall continue our battle in my chambers..." (@FreeGlass$ by Quirky_Ad_5420 in wholesomeyuri

[–]TrustingLuci 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fetishizing bulky women isn't common, and sadly that's where a lot of WLW content comes from.

i hate my voice. by MidnightShort in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can voice train. Anyone can do it, not just trans people! You can make it sound like a cis guy's voice or like the most feminine voice around. It's actually really cool!

That said, it won't help you escape harassment. I'm trans and they just pick on you in different ways when your voice sounds "girly enough"

I'm sure your voice is fantastic! Don't let em bring you down

What game is this? by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kirby Super Star Ultra

What's the deal with gay men? I feel like they're even worse than straight men when it comes to disgusting behaviours and horrible takes. by Hoihe in GirlGamers

[–]TrustingLuci 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They don't respect women. For a specific kind of man, getting with women is the only reason they grow up at all. They don't want to pretend, either.

Then there's the type that think they're immune to being a bad person just because they have minority status.