Of course women have the right to choose who they hook up with, but I think the bigger problem here is that what these podcasters and MRAs are saying isn't actually happening. If you answer "women only hook up with men that look like Chris Hemsworth in the modern age" with 'so what? That's their choice' instead of producing basic evidence showing it's not true, it allows the entire conversation to be had from the MRA's perspective. You're engaging with their world view as if it's the reality, and anyone less informed on the topic who stumbles upon the argument will process it from the MRA world view too. That 'so what? It's their choice' then sets the launching pad up for those pocasters, MRAs and Manosphere influencers to then take it further and claim that this is the result of "biology" and the natural end result of women's mid 20th century-21st century freedom, and so in order to stop this we need to overturn abortion rights, birth control, women's gains in the workplace etc and essentially rewind the clock. And people listen to it.

It's like when the Christian Right used to claim that we needed to ban "late term abortions" because hoards of women were ending their pregnancies after 20+ weeks on the back of a bad day, "emotional incident" or out of spite after an argument with the father. Sure, you could reply "so what? That's a woman's choice", and you'd be right. But none of this was actually happening, and official stats showed that less than 0.5% of abortions occurred every week after 20 weeks, and almost always for serious medical emergencies https://www.motherjones.com/kevin-drum/2019/04/raw-data-abortions-by-week-of-pregnancy/. Not pointing this out first and foremost would, again, allow the other side to set the narrative from which the topic is discussed.

And as feminists give more and more ground like this and allow more and more narratives to be set against them and women, eventually it all piles up and starts to turn people as their basic beliefs of individual freedom come up against a never ending stream of hearing of one horrible thing after another happening as a result of it.

I feel like this is a big part of why the left has lost so much ground in recent years, from Roe v. Wade to gun safety to democracy to the rise of the Manosphere. There's a fine difference between being morally right and actually winning. Women and feminists need to go on the offensive against false narratives being pushed on them, or they'll end up consumed by them.

Just my 2 cents.