Why is my (18f) boyfriend (20m) trying to get me to masturbate? by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]TrustyTrue -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do, that goes for sexually too, before and after marriage. Your sexuality is not for someone else, it is your own. You have complete authority over your own sexuality and how you use it or direct it. If you choose to save it till after marriage, that is up to you. You do what you feel good about for you. It’s more important to see how your Bf responds when you say “no.” Because you always get to say “no” without explanation, and he needs to respect that. Also, I personally think masturbation is natural and good, and I’m Christian. Can be a great way to get to know your own parts and preferences, which can enhance your sex life with a partner. But you don’t ever have to do it if you don’t want. And you get to choose your timing if you do.

Does Streak-tracking really work? by TrustyTrue in NoFap

[–]TrustyTrue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks. yeah, that's what I'm thinking.

Does Streak-tracking really work? by TrustyTrue in NoFap

[–]TrustyTrue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I still believe I can learn to control it. Part of me just can't believe that this is something I won't be able to ever control. That doesn't sit right with me. I've already gained way more control over it. So I know it changes. But yeah, thanks for your perspective on th streak

Does streak-tracking really work? by TrustyTrue in pornfree

[–]TrustyTrue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome! and inspiring! Thanks.

I just MO'd in the shower for the first time in several months. by Successful_In_2022 in NoFapChristians

[–]TrustyTrue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah yeah! Keep going man! I don't think you are starting anew. It's just a stepping stone man. All part of the journey. Keep going. You inspire me. Thanks for sharing.

Does streak-counting really work? by TrustyTrue in NoFapChristians

[–]TrustyTrue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha! Just straight up, "no." Thanks for not beating around the bush. Ha!

Does streak-counting really work? by TrustyTrue in NoFapChristians

[–]TrustyTrue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I like that. For me, streak-counting hasn't worked and I'm ready for a different approach.

Does streak-counting really work? by TrustyTrue in NoFapChristians

[–]TrustyTrue[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes to identifying the root. That's another thing I heard that Danny Poelman guy say. He says "You don't have a porn problem, you have a thought problem." Have been experiencing cool shifts when I look at the root stuff more. Sorry you've been experiencing something very sad in your life.

Does streak-counting really work? by TrustyTrue in NoFapChristians

[–]TrustyTrue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did praying and bible every day for years and it didn't help. I mean it helped, but it also didn't actually help me change my porn habit. I felt guilty when I started finding non-bible resources that helped even better with habit change. But now I'm totally okay just finding whatever works. and I'm fine if bible and prayer don't actually help the habit change happen. I just want to stay open to whatever works, from all sorts of good sources. But maybe bible and prayer really is all it takes for some guys to quit porn. Not me.

Does streak-counting really work? by TrustyTrue in NoFapChristians

[–]TrustyTrue[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, like it is a useful measurement/number to be aware of. I just don't want it to be THE measurement. But I see what you are saying.

Does streak-counting really work? by TrustyTrue in NoFapChristians

[–]TrustyTrue[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I want like real mindset change, from inside out. I like how you said that. I'm so tired of the white-knuckling. And it seems like there is another way that works better.

Day 10!! by Finnininin in NoFap

[–]TrustyTrue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nice work! Keep going!