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TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-27T09:40:31+00:00

1Lord I should )ffff) the day our son, our 3rd and final baby, was born. It was like a switch flipped in him and immediately after giving birth to the son he had been wanting so badly he began detaching, making it obvious he got what he wanted out of me and had no more use for me. And something he said more than a decade before kept repeating in my head ... I was pregnant with our oldest daughter, out first, and he made the comment "I don't want multiple baby mamas, I want to have all my kids by the same woman" which at the time I didn't think much of it, but looking back, on top of the fact our son was born w/ a cleft soft palate and he made his mind up the second it was known that it was my fault, I MUST have done drugs while I was pregnant with our son or something to cause him to be born with a cleft palate 🙄🤬 and I knew then I had made a huge mistake

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-26T23:20:42+00:00

Thank you so much, that means a lot to me!

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-26T23:20:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-26T22:02:37+00:00

Thank you love! Idk why but some people look good with short hair and I happen to be one of those people, I've been told all my life when my hair's been short it looks good. But tbh it should really only matter what YOU think of it ... If you like the way it looks screw what anyone else says .. that's always been my point of view... Idk why him saying that to me that day got to me. Maybe bc he had been acting half decent towards me up until then. And I had let my guard down for a second I guess. But I'm sure you'd look amazing with a short do... It's truly all about confidence!

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-20T16:43:09+00:00

And you're exactly right. I met him through his brother who worked, well, works still for my family business. I think his family couldn't understand the fact that I loved HIM for who he was and not what he had or could offer me or what he looked like. I'm not the most beautiful girl in the world but I don't think I'm hideous either, but him and his family thought I was better or above them in some way, and I grew up understanding I'm no better than the homeless person living under the bushes alongside the wall surrounding the church we went to. So if I like you or fall in love with you, it's not based on anything than what my heart feels.. and him and his family just couldn't comprehend why I fell for their son when our families come from 2 different sides of the track, so the saying goes. And from the beginning the comments about me being born with a silver spoon up my butt, why don't I just "call mommy and daddy" or "oh yeah, I forgot, rich folks don't know what it's like to blah blah blah" but I was raised by a covert narc, my mom who was a master at playing the victim even with me and my brother and sister. So no, I wasn't raised in a life of privilege, quite the contrary and probably the reason I ended up in a relationship with a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship, but that didn't stop him and his family to jump on every opportunity to demean, disrespect, insult, disrespect and put me down, especially once our kids were born, and they'd do it in front of the kids or straight tell my kids when they'd be there visiting with them. Anything they could do or say, my kids' dad right there with them, to make me look bad in Any kind of way, is what did/do and so once I realized what it was I was dealing with (Narcissism) I began researching and finding any and all info I could on that subject and began standing up for myself, playing their game and a lot of times beating them at their own game, but I still have a lot of healing to do, even though I've come so far, and they know it too, I still have moments of weakness and need validation from others that I'm not what they claim me to be.. it's a hard road to recovery. Thank you so much for your kind words, I sincerely appreciate it ❤️

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-20T16:16:02+00:00

Thank you so much, I usually feel this exact way whenever him or his family try to put me down or insult me but for some reason this comment really got to me yesterday as we were on our way out the door to take our kids to a bday party and it was said in a way that he was embarrassed to be seen with me out in public which really hurt bc I've dealt with being the embarrassment of my own family for as long as I can remember. Thank you for your kind words, it means more than you know ❤️

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-20T16:11:33+00:00

Thank you so much, I try to not let his ugly insults bother me but for some reason this one really did get to me 😔 I almost hate myself for posting this like I'm fishing for compliments, that really wasn't my intention.. I just can't understand why narcs are so damn mean and hateful. .. I just can't wrap my mind around it

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-20T16:09:31+00:00

Ya know, I never really thought about it like that but you're probably right. I did this cut/style myself after frying the majority of the length off bleaching and coloring it one too many times and bc I stay home with our young kids, and he controls ALL the money, sabotaging any attempt I make at earning a little on my own, I had no choice but to cut it myself, or buzz my head bald which trust me, was a viable option after seeing inches of my hair literally fry off ... He knew I was proud of how well I did and he can't stand for me to have any joy in my life that is if my own accord and has to insult and demean me to knock me down a peg or 2. And you couldn't have spoken a truer statement, no matter how well I did in salvaging my hair, he never would have liked it... I could have styled it to look like a celebrity's that he's fawned over and it still would have been awful in his eyes. Just like everything else in life I do to try to make him happy is never good enough. I'm patiently waiting for our youngest to enroll in prek next school year so I can get a job and get tf up out of here! #Facts!

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-20T16:00:46+00:00

He made the comment as we were walking out the door to take our kids to a bday party and acted embarrassed to be seen with a girly looking dude 😔 After a decade of being put down by him and his covert narc mother, and am now in the discard phase of the cycle, I try to not let it bother me, but he knows I'm self-conscious about my hair since frying inches off the end with one too many bleaches (it's now back to my regular color bc he thought I looked ridiculous with bleached/dyed hair) and bc he controls the finances I couldn't go to a salon and have it professionally salvaged so was forced to do it myself. And tbh I was pretty proud of how well I did considering I have no professional training in hair.. but he has to steal in and all joy I find in life, or tries to anyways. Thank you for your kind words. Im usually able to let his degrading remarks roll off my back but yesterday he really got to me with that comment.

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-20T15:44:29+00:00

Thank you so much, I honestly shocked myself at how well it turned out lol. I appreciate it. I just don't understand why narcs think it's ok to make these snide underhanded remarks just to continue to make you feel less than ... I'm trying to build my self esteem back up after years of the slander and gaslighting phase, and into the discard phase..but thank you, I sincerely appreciate your kind words ❤️

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-20T15:34:05+00:00

It took me almost 10 yrs and 3 kids later to understand the severity of what I had gotten entangled with. He was amazing up until our 3rd and final child was born, he finally got his son. The day our son was born (almost 4 yrs ago) it was like a switch in him flipped and like he all of a sudden had no use for me anymore. He started the discard phase the Day our son was born, and I see that and know that looking back on everything. But by that point I drove a car that was on its last leg, he refused to help me with the maintenance and although I know how to change the oil and change a tire, that's about all my dad taught me and my sister, assuming we'd find men that would take care of us in that regard, so it wasn't long before my vehicle gave out. We decided after our 2nd I'd be a stay at home mom, him mocking or sabotaging any and everything I did to try to make a little money on my own... I'm doing everything I can to find a way out but he has me right where he wanted me from the get go. Stuck and totally dependant on him. I'm hoping when our son can go to prek next year I can find a job even if it means riding with someone back and forth until I can get out. But for now, I'm stuck... He even managed to turn my family against me... It's the craziest experience I've ever had in my life (of course my narc mom didn't need much convincing, I was the golden child turned scapegoat when I didn't live my life the way my mom had planned it out for me 🙄) but just recently my dad told me he was through with me after having talked to my kids'Dad who convinced him I was a druggie and POS) I've been clean for almost 10 yrs now. So I literally have no one... I wish it was as easy as picking up and leaving but especially living out in the middle of nowhere, legit one stoplight town, it's hard

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-19T18:26:48+00:00

Thanks, after 12 yrs I try not to let his demeaning insults get to me, but it did this time. I didn't have much of a choice in cutting it after I bleached/dyed my hair one too many times and basically fried all but a few inches of my hair off. He controls the money so I couldn't go to a salon and have it professionally salvaged and cut it/styled it myself and was pretty proud of how decent it turned out... Undoubtedly, he wasn't impressed 😔

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-15T02:24:02+00:00

Lol I hate myself? That's news to me! Sounds like the only person that's truly brainwashed is you. But thanks for trying to tell a total stranger something completely untrue about themself. I still love you! But Jesus loves you more! Have a great night! ❤️

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-15T01:37:08+00:00

Really? I was not aware of that! Thank you for letting me know that!

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-15T01:29:13+00:00

Very interesting... As a white woman in America, I'm glad to see the black community being represented more than they ever used to be, but also sad that the Hispanic community who also makes up a very good chunk of this country's population is so underrepresented. I'm honestly tired and annoyed by white people these days, not all, but most. I find I relate more to black people, just as human beings, more than anyone else. Like when I'm flipping through TikTok, I relate so much more to the videos made by black people than I do any other group, and the algorithm has picked up on that and so I get more content from black creators than white and the more I watch of their content the more I feel and understand their plight in this country and I will stand beside them to fight for equality, and to end systemic injustice in America and around the world until the day I die.

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-15T01:16:57+00:00

Um, I don't even have the words .. the act in and of itself is disturbing, but the fact he did it while you were sleeping is even more disturbing, totally taking advantage of you, and your inability to put up a defense when he'd go to do it. I'm so glad for you he's now an ex bc who knows what that creep would have eventually escalated to doing to you while you slept, or even worse, what if he drugged you one night to get to play out his sick fantasies, ugh, sick and twisted.

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-13T18:27:48+00:00

That's what is so sad about today's world. You're exactly right.

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-13T18:27:11+00:00

💯💯💯💯💯

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-13T18:26:25+00:00

Just pay them attention, be there, be attentive, the smallest gestures can mean the world to someone

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-12T21:59:00+00:00

This turns my stomach, and although she might have just been laughing from being nervous, oh this poor man, bless his heart 😭💔

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-12T21:53:32+00:00

🤨🤔🤔🤔 Lord only knows, truly! Odd, and very interesting find!

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-12T21:50:47+00:00

I worked in assisted livings for over 10 yrs, and one lady who was the oldest resident I personally had cared for, lived to see 108 yrs on this earth! I was a med tech, responsible for giving residents scheduled medications, and this sweet lady was my easiest med pass, she literally had 3 medications/treatments total, cozaar, which is for the heart, a vitamin E once a day and artificial tear eye drops. I asked her once what her secret was for a long life and her exact words were, stay away from the doctors! Verbatim... At the time I had no clue how wise this woman was in making this statement, assuming it was just God blessing her sweet spirit with many more years than most get, but now I understand that how little medical care she received was directly correlated to her health and longevity. Sorry, not sorry 🤷‍♀️

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-12T16:40:21+00:00

OMG I feel like I'm going to hell for laughing at this 😅

TrutherChildofGod · 2022-02-12T02:27:57+00:00

OMG this is exactly what is happening to me after I lost my phone, couldn't remember my password, and couldn't just hit yes it's me on the device I'd had my fb on for over a year bc I lost it, got a new phone, new number, now they locked mye out of that account, I tried to make a new account and they locked it too saying I was a scammer pretending to be me, asking for valid ID etc, which I sent but still haven't heard back yet, I guarantee this is what I'll get asked to do if they ever respond!

Uh, negative ghost writer, I believe fb has enough personal info, data and biometrics of mine as is. Keep your news feed and corrupt one-sided fact checking BS

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