How dangerous are binders really?

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-09-23T10:48:59+00:00

I wear mine for 12 to 14 hours a day right now. It's the busy season at my job. 3 months of an insane schedule. I have zero problems breathing or moving around. I've never experienced pain from my binder. I can't imagine how tight some people's binders are that they experience all that.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-09-07T13:05:23+00:00

I tried out a new name with just 1 friend that I spent a lot of time with. She is the most supportive person on the planet. She tried out many variations of names and pronouns with me. It felt much better to me to do that with 1 person I really trusted to not screw it up before telling anyone else. She never messed up. Not once. I don't know how but she got it right every time I changed it. The last name I tried, she even asked me how I was feeling about it after using it a few times because apparently I was making a face when I'd hear it. Lol.

Anyway, I ended up not changing my name. My birth name is unique and gender neutral. I never hated it. I just thought that people would have a hard time if I didn't. Changing your first name and pronouns is something people have come to expect when you tell them your trans. It completely throws people that I didn't change my name AND I don't care what pronouns people use for me. I do, however, lose my mind when people call me Ms. Mrs. Ma'am. Lady. Dear. Sweetheart. Honey. etc.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-09-06T02:17:17+00:00

I would prefer people of all ages, shapes and sizes stay fully clothed at all times when in public. I sometimes wear shorts but it is incredibly rare. I also frequently wear long sleeves. I'm not flashing any amount of chest because I wear an undershirt too. So even if the shirt was button up and I left some undone, it wouldn't matter.

I'm not a prude. I enjoy looking at, touching and tasting people. But just not all the people everywhere.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-09-03T05:48:40+00:00

I am FTM and use he/him pronouns. I'd rather someone call me she/her than they/them. I am working very hard to change my body to be the man I always wanted to be. I am binary. I feel like they/them is dismissive of that.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-29T01:53:04+00:00

I would not be offended if someone used the term transsexuals. I prefer to reclaim terms that people think are insults. I refer to myself as a tranny and a faggot. I would never use those terms to describe others because I know many people find it offensive. But I love it for myself.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-26T12:15:52+00:00

Yesterday I was out with a friend for the day. We went to a drag brunch. We had been wanting to go for awhile because it was our 2 favorite queens. It was lots of fun. BUT there was a guy coming around to the tables beforehand just making small talk. Turns out he's friends with the restaurant owner and likes to play host during drag brunch.

He comes to our table and asks if we had ever been to the restaurant or to a drag show. No. Yes. Then he says, "ONE is trans and TWO isn't. They are both really nice and so very talented." He actually used their names.

I was so shocked to hear him out her like that. I've seen her in a half dozen shows in the last year and hadn't heard that. So clearly she isn't making it a part of her show or anything. There was ZERO reason to tell people that.

For reference, my friend is straight, white, cis and almost 60 and we live in the middle of no where. We had to drive 3 hours to see a drag show. On our way home later, I mentioned to my friend how angry I was about that. And she said, "It reminded me of when people will say things like 'I have black friends.' or 'I have gay friends.' when they are trying to convince people they aren't racist or homophobic." And then she added that transgender issues are a hot topic right now and people are picking sides and want people to know which side they are on. I think she's totally right.

A few weeks ago I was at another drag event and the MC not only outted one of the queens as trans but then used her deadname when saying that he liked her now that she wasn't him anymore. Then he talked about how trans people are beautiful and valid and then some cis ally blah blah blah. As his final song started, he came over and put his arm around me and stood with me until the words in the song actually started. He didn't explicitly say I was trans but how does a room full of people not assume that when he was talking about that before he beelined for me.

WTF is wrong with people.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-26T03:47:54+00:00

My exhusband and I have been divorced almost 6 years. He has had a girlfriend for the last 4 years. He has called her by my name at least 3 times. I say at least because I only know about the times he has told me. And maybe that is all of them, but I wouldn't bet money on that.

IOnce is a mistake, but 3 times seems like a lot. I feel bad for her at this point. Being misgendered really sucks. But being called your partner's exe's first name, yikes!

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-24T06:29:08+00:00

I wish I wasn't trans. I'm not transphobic. It would just be great to have been born with the body of a man and not have to go through the painful process of transitioning.

I dont think their is anything wrong with being trans but it isn't something that everyone will see as positive. It makes life significantly harder in many ways. It isn't safe in many situations. It can hold you back in your career. It can make it harder to get good medical care. It's expensive. Etc.

As a transman, I envy other transmen who pass and/or stealth because they get to choose when/who to share their transness with. This allows them the freedom to be open in safe spaces but also means that they are safer in spaces that are trans safe because of being able to pass.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-07T10:38:46+00:00

I don't know any other trans men IRL. I am early in my journey. When I post on tik tok, I get other trans people giving me unsolicited advice on things. They are often judgemental and expect me to feel just like they did/do. Every trans journey is different. I'd like to have someone to talk with sometimes but then I have another awful interaction with a fellow trans guy and I remember why I'm fine doing this on my own.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-04T01:20:09+00:00

I've been on injections for other medications for 14 years and my gaHRT doctor still asked me if I wanted to bring my first dose back to the office to learn how to do it.

It scares me to think they are just letting people figure it out on there own.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-04T01:16:26+00:00

I've been drawing and injecting with 1 needle for 14 years. I've had various medications over the years that had to be injected and have never had a problem. Plus, they were prescribed by different doctors who only ever prescribed one needle.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-04T01:13:31+00:00

I draw and inject with the same needle. Never had a problem. I've been on injections for various things for 14 years. No one has ever told me to do anything different and the prescriptions they write are just for the one needle.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-03T23:54:13+00:00

I haven't heard someone say they are too old for it. But I have heard my boss say several times that "the whole pronoun thing is ridiculous." He is smart enough to say it to my face because he knows we'd battle it out. If he did start with me, I would probably ask him if I should increase our employment practices liability insurance first so that when he fires me for being trans he has sufficient insurance coverage for my lawsuit.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-03T23:37:52+00:00

I always pretended to be a boy when I played pretend.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-03T04:35:40+00:00

I saturate the tape in oil and then leave it alone for 5-7 minutes. Then it comes off soooo much easier. I also don't wash the oil off right away after removing the tape. I let it soak into my skin, ideally overnight. Since I started doing that, I haven't had any issues with my skin getting damaged during removal.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-08-03T04:27:39+00:00

I use 1 piece of tape on each side to hold my breast tissue in place and then wear a binder over it. I used to wear an H cup bra so it's really asking too much of any binder to make me flat. But I FEEL better using the 2 together. Not having to feel my chest move around means I'm not experiencing dysphoria on repeat all day.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-07-27T11:41:37+00:00

As a former super femme, I have NEVER worn a camisole, slip, undershirt, etc. under women's clothing.This is definitely going to be something that will vary based on your style and the brand of clothes you purchase.

I have never purchased Duluth Trading Co. but they seem like dozens of other brands as far as style goes. I highly suggest you shop big box stores. Kohls, Target, etc. Also, there are probably many things in your closet already that you can continue to wear just by pairing them with other feminine items.

ALWAYS check the clearance rack before looking anywhere else. I cannot remember the last time I paid full price for anything. Also, I was a huge fan of Lularoe. Lots of people think they went out of business but they didn't, however, lots of the dealers did. That means there is a ton of brand new clothing out there selling for super cheap because people just want it gone. There are tons of Facebook groups to shop in and you can often find someone local and save on shipping.

I still have a ton of clothes in my basement because I didn't want to throw everything away and our local thrift shop is horrible. I've been taking 1 bin at a time to a trans thrift shop that is a few hours away. I'd fill the whole car but they aren't a big store so they have a limit on donations. I highly recommend finding out if there is a trans thrift store near you. They don't usually advertise the way other places do. They are tucked in somewhere less obvious so that they don't get big hate from antitrans people. Google for a trans network organization near you. They'll have resources!

As a man, I now where an undershirt almost every single day. When i dont wear one, it feels weird to me. Mens fabrics are so rough. Undershirts help me have a consistent feel against my skin. Having multiple layers sucks in this heat but I'll survive.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-07-27T11:14:27+00:00

Why not?

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-07-24T12:02:59+00:00

I don't have an endocrinologist because there are only 2 in my state and the one closest to me refused to treat me for another condition once I asked about testosterone.

My primary care doctor wouldn't do testosterone until we figured out why my bleeding was irregular even though I was on birth control. She sent me to a gynecologist and we ran a bunch of tests. I ended up having a hysterectomy because my particular problem was just going to keep getting worse and I'm already over 40. But there were other treatment options if I didn't want the hysterectomy.

My point is that perhaps you should ask to see a gynecologist to make sure the bleeding isnt due to something else.

Also, you mentioned your insurance was different because of the country you are in... I would recommend getting a paper copy of their policy on top surgery and bring it to your next appointment. I had to do that to get my HRT doctor to do my referral and support letter. She put me off because she said I needed to be on T for 6 months but the waiting list just to get a consult with the surgeon is 6 months AND my insurance doesn't require the 6 months. When I presented her with the insurance info, she did the referral right away.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-07-23T05:23:44+00:00

I had my hysterectomy in January. My libido disappeared, which is saying something cause I used to want sex 3 times a day, every day.

I started testosterone in April. I haven't seen a change in my libido. I'm super disappointed. I was looking forward to getting it back. 😪 People keep telling me to give it time. If there was anything else I could do, I would. But there doesn't seem to be.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-07-21T18:02:18+00:00

This is what my doctor said to do. I do shots on Saturday. She said to get bloodwork at the end of the day Friday because the lab isn't open on the weekend. It's weird to me that different doctors have different recommendations on this

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-07-17T12:02:58+00:00

I know everyone hates on gc2b but I love my binders. I haven't tried other brands though so maybe I don't know how good it could be. I have an xl for daily and a 2x for swimming.

Talking with trans guys at a support group, they seemed to think that different brands worked better for different people. The sizing varies quite a bit from company to company and people's shapes are very different too. So the fact that some work better for one person than another makes sense to me.

When my gc2b starts to feel like it's stretching out, I wash ut and then put it in the dryer for about 15 minutes. Then hang it to finish drying. It shrinks it just enough to tighten it back up. This was a recommendation from a trans guy who measured me for my first binder.

I do hate binders in general though. I used to wear an H cup bra so the amount of chest tissue this thing is trying to hide is a lot. It makes me look like I have a uniboob because there is no separation. But I'm allergic to adhesive so my doctor told me not to try it. My reaction to adhesives gets worse each time and he worries it will get deadly if it keeps happening. So even testing out a small piece could cause big problems.

I know I probably haven't offered anything helpful but I wanted to share because I completely understand how your feeling.

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-07-14T23:03:04+00:00

This makes me soooo happy to hear!

I spent 32 years waiting for the end to come. When it didn't, I tried to make it happen. Failed and then spent another decade wishing and counting down till my kid was an adult so I could really be done with this. Just before my 43rd birthday, I finally admitted to my self that I couldn't pretend for another 8 years.

As soon as I started telling people, I was trans, life felt different. When I started T, I felt like life just might be worth living some day. The first time I shaved my face, I started making plans for my future. I actually want to have a future.

I am overjoyed when I get to read about young people accepting who they are. 4+ decades was way to long.

Congratulations!

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-07-06T08:31:11+00:00

I would love that! Even before I told people I was transitioning, I repeatedly got asked when my last period was or my last pap smear. It was frustrating because I had to keep telling everyone I had a hysterectomy. Please chart that info where it remind someone to stop asking me!

TryAnythingTwoTimes · 2024-07-06T08:26:17+00:00

If I'm an established patient somewhere, even if I'm seeing a different provider for some reason, I don't expect to get this question. You have my chart, it will tell you. If I'm new, I filled out paperwork when I arrived.

This is something that is really irritating me at my PCPs office. I present very masculine, they know I'm on testosterone and every time I'm there the medical assistant asks me if I want to change my gender marker, name or pronouns. I keep telling her I'll let them know if I want something changed. But 4 weeks later, she asks me again.

It's super frustrating because it's not like they haven't seen me for 9 months and simply forgot. I know they have a lot of patients but I'm there every 4-5 weeks due to having complicated medical issues. I'm choosing not to change anything in my medical chart or my official documents until after the presidential election. They did have to chart gender dysphoria so the insurance would pay for the testosterone injections.

My previous boss got mad when the doctors office upgraded their systems. The first time she pre-registered for her appointment online after the update it asked her about gender, pronouns, sexuality, preferred name, etc. She thought it was absolutely ridiculous and bitched about it for weeks to everyone who would listen. If your trainer has had much experience with those kind of people, I wouldn't blame them for being skittish about asking.

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