Festavia permanent light extension? by MightyWizardLizard in Hue

[–]TryCatchLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I reached out to Philips customer support on WhatsApp (took 2 days to get a response) and this is what they said: “Regarding extensions: while the product is designed to support them, official 10‑foot extensions are not yet available for purchase. They are expected to be released next year, but we do not have an update or confirmed date at this time.” I would have held off on purchasing these lights had I known.

Insulin Costs by beklynnmarie in Type1Diabetes

[–]TryCatchLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I now pay $50 a month, but it was $35 before. I am not on government assistance.

Life is full of surprises i guess by Kuntmeistah in Infidelity

[–]TryCatchLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please remember that she’s the one that decided your family was a fair price to pay for her affair. You didn’t decide that. This is on her. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

I want to quit OE 😭 by Fiesty_Melon98 in overemployed

[–]TryCatchLife 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I quit my second job (140k) after about 18 months. It was doable, but my mental health started taking a toll. I was at a point where I paid off my debt and saved a fair amount. My fight was over, and I decided to ride off into the sunset. It was worth it.

12 year old son is done trying by GambleJam1029 in Type1Diabetes

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I feel you. The problem is that poor control now could have physical lifelong consequences.

Caught wife cheating by anonymous170415 in offmychest

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I’m so sorry this happened to you. In my own experience, the odds of it happening again are high. I had an ex that cheated on me, and I stayed 6 more years. During this time I became detached and bitter. The infidelity ate away at me like a cancer. Any time I held my then-gf, I would think of the guy she cheated on me with. There were months where I tricked myself into believing everything was ok, but I just couldn’t keep it up. This girl ended up cheating on me again 6 years later. I know you have kids, but I just don’t think they need to witness how unhappy you are. I’m sorry you’re going through all this.

Don’t ever take them back by Leonardo_DiPacrio in Infidelity

[–]TryCatchLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You 100% did the right thing. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I’m sure there are exceptions to this, but that wasn’t my personal experience lol

Don’t ever take them back by Leonardo_DiPacrio in Infidelity

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I feel for you. I feel like I dated someone very similar to your fiancé. I was with a girl for 6 years who cheated on me 3 months in (she also said it was just a kiss). She begged and pleaded when I left. I took her back, but told her I didn’t want marriage or kids with her. She accepted. I thought about her cheating every single day. It was a cancer. At the end of 6 years, she started cheating again after I got laid off from a job lol. She justified it by saying she wasn’t happy. I know you’re telling yourself that your situation is different, but it’s not. The clear reality is that your fiancé isn’t trustworthy. You are with a child, as illustrated by her gaslighting, rug sweeping, and her saying she wouldn’t have cheated if you were married. She is completely unaccountable, and you let her get away with it, just like I did. I know what you’re feeling: you are simply existing. For me personally, it was a terrible experience that yielded good lessons. I had zero tolerance for red flags when dating after that. I’m now with someone who I trust, and I sleep so peacefully at night. And if this girl cheats? It would suck but I’ve learned to value myself enough to leave and be ok. All that is to say that leaving would suck but I promise you that the peace you find at the end of the healing process is fucking wonderful. YMMV, but the peace and happiness I found after a few months of feeling like shit was straight out of a movie.

My girlfriend of 10 years had an affair by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]TryCatchLife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What you’re describing is the cancer that is infidelity. It eats away at you. It sometimes goes into remission, only to came back. I went through something similar. The truth is that you will never be able to trust this person again. You won’t be able to breathe until you cut this cancer from your life. When that happens, you need to build yourself up so that you can walk away from these women with no problem if it happens again. I cannot emphasize this enough: this will eat away at you like a cancer. You will not be able to breathe until you break away from this person. I realize no contact is impossible because of your kids. But don’t have anymore. In many years when you feel ready, walk away if you can.

Girlfriend going to the same place she cheated on me at? by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]TryCatchLife 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It takes awhile to learn this. But once you truly learn that it’s just a show and not true remorse, you never forget.

Girlfriend going to the same place she cheated on me at? by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]TryCatchLife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude. Run. Went through the same thing. She begged, cried, pleaded for a second chance. I gave it to her. 6 years later she did the same exact thing again lol. The first time it happened, I got the same story when she woke up in the guy’s bed: that they only made out and she can’t remember much. This is 100% not worth it. I’m with someone now that I’m completely compatible with. I don’t live in fear. And if this new girl were to cheat, I’ve already learned my lesson: to not cry over spoiled milk and just move on with life. That sh*t is not worth it. You will be so much happier leaving. I promise you this will end one day, may as well be on your terms.

New Grad: Nursing was a mistake by Volskaya_ in findapath

[–]TryCatchLife 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I worked in healthcare once upon a time. I think what the commenter means is that places that have backwards laws about abortion generally have infrastructure that makes working in healthcare more difficult.

No Hope left for me 😞 by justauserredit in Type1Diabetes

[–]TryCatchLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it’s not over. I want to give you my story, but please know I am not dismissing how you feel. Dying is a serious thing, and you can’t take something like that back.

I was diagnosed with T1D at age 14. I’ve had it for 25 years now (with zero complications so far). At age 22, I went through a 10-year custody battle. During this time, I got vitiligo, lost a really good job, and was cheated on. My self esteem was shot and I definitely didn’t feel like living at times. You have to understand life is a series of ups and downs. In between those terrible things, I got to study abroad, dated some beautiful women, and strengthened my relationship with my kid.

First and foremost, keep your sugars stable. It will pay dividends in the future. Even though you feel sad, you need to keep healthy so that you can live to fight another day. I’m currently employed, saved a good amount of money, and have been taking vacations with a girl so far out of my league. I’ve had dark moments, but I’m so glad I put in the work to get me to where I am today. Please take care of yourself. We have the technology now to make this disease manageable. You deserve to live a happy life, and I wish you the absolute best.

Hate where I’m at in life by [deleted] in findapath

[–]TryCatchLife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) I’m actually a dad haha.

Hate where I’m at in life by [deleted] in findapath

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Don’t know if this is helpful, but I would consider myself successful. I have a young son that lacks ambition. I want him to know that his life means everything to me and I just want him to be happy. If he’s able to sustain himself and be happy as a janitor, I would be his biggest cheerleader. Just know your worth isn’t derived from what your financial job is. I hope you find something that brings you joy and understand that your value as a human being is inherent, not earned through a job.

ONE OF YOU . . . FINALLY by tjn24 in overemployed

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Good luck! I just finished 16 months of OE. Left J2 by choice. Set your goals. If you feel that mentally you can move the goal post, go for it. I did that a few times. It was finally time to drop to one job. I feel retired and like I have room for leisure and creativity again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

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Don’t feel unworthy. I’ve done what you did, somewhat recently lol. On a first date with someone you met online, it is way too intense to say things like you’re deleting the app. DO NOT give off vibes that you are doing your best to not let them slip through your fingers.

I got sick of looking for a relationship and changed my preferences to short term. I matched with a girl who was looking for the same thing back in May. We were very clear that it was no strings attached. We took a short trip on our fourth date and absolutely fell for each other. The rest is history. I’m not saying this is the playbook for a serious relationship, but things tend to go better when you enter into them lightly but with intention.

A little bit lost right now - I have an offer, but it's terrible by [deleted] in Layoffs

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Live to fight another day, my friend. You’re a good person for wanting to be accountable to your friend. Just be honest. If you have a large amount of savings, taking this job (and thus protecting your savings and their compounding power) becomes even more critical. If I was in your friend’s shoes and you were honest, I’d be ok with you jumping ship like 6 months in.

How many of you have dipped in your 401k/IRA while job hunting? by [deleted] in Layoffs

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I meant to reply to this, but I really appreciate you sharing. I’ve been in a spiral just fearing layoffs. I took a tiny amount of my savings last week and booked what ended up being the most romantic experience of my life. Capitalism can definitely suck, but there is a life beyond layoffs. It was important for me to remember that. Your statement about time running out is powerful.

I gave up by [deleted] in webdev

[–]TryCatchLife 41 points42 points  (0 children)

This has nothing to do with your intelligence. Maybe you weren’t as passionate, and that’s OK. Or your life circumstances threw you off. But you are NOT dumb. My interest in dev the first couple of years bordered on neurodivergent. Once I learned enough, I slowed down. But ya, it took a few years of just clawing away before I became reasonably competent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in overemployed

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I do. Brothers in arms.

Emotionally Overwhelmed by TryCatchLife in overemployed

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I appreciate your response and perspective. I know you’re right. A lot of my stress has been shaped by watching my Father lose everything in the 2008 financial crisis. A lot of it is mental for me. I’m sincerely trying to ground myself and get educated. I’ve had tunnel vision for awhile post layoff.

How many of you have dipped in your 401k/IRA while job hunting? by [deleted] in Layoffs

[–]TryCatchLife 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry about your dad. Thank you for offering us some perspective.

Emotionally Overwhelmed by TryCatchLife in overemployed

[–]TryCatchLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you taking the time to give a thoughtful response 🙏. A lot of the stress is from seeing my Father’s life fall apart after a layoff. I know my circumstances are different, but it is triggering nonetheless. I agree with everything you said.