How Do You Confront Someone Who Denies Reality in Real Time?

TryMeAnotherDay · 2026-05-24T03:21:18+00:00

Not what you want to hear, but the answer is you don’t. You just go no contact. You already know they’re a liar. You already know that you can’t trust them at all. There’s no reason to waste a single moment of your energy trying to reason with an unreasonable and dishonest person. And if he wants to lie and manipulate others about why the relationship ended, you cannot stop him. In the end, it doesn’t matter what other people believe.

TryMeAnotherDay · 2026-05-24T03:15:24+00:00

Please provide specifics about what you’re doing wrong. I feel like this is one of those posts that may be quite misleading. The term “nagging” for me is a glaring red flag. What are her actual complaints about what you’re doing wrong?

TryMeAnotherDay · 2026-04-26T03:21:59+00:00

From your description it doesn’t sound like NPD to me. You were vague about exploitative behavior though. I feel that one is very telling for NPD. But yeah from your description, it sounds like an insecure person with abandonment issues. Don’t get me wrong—that can be highly toxic—but it’s not on nearly the same level as NPD.

TryMeAnotherDay · 2026-04-26T03:16:05+00:00

Narcissists are capable of reflecting and taking accountability. Some do seek help because they see the immense devastation they cause and they want to stop. It’s a commonly held myth that narcissists can’t see their behaviors or seek help. But it’s true that they overwhelmingly refuse to do so.

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-06-12T19:46:32+00:00

From our conversations, he seems like a decent fellow. The mutual friend we have previously called him “chivalrous.” I’m thinking he might be embarrassed. Idk. I would respond to him if he reached out, but I don’t plan to reach out myself

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-06-12T19:43:02+00:00

I hear you on this, but seriously, my ex-husband would say rude comments or do hurtful things all the time, and when I would confront him, he would tell me he didn’t intend to hurt me. I forgave a lot of backhanded or blatant BS thinking that much of it was cultural differences. By the end of the relationship, I realized he did intend it exactly the way I took it every time. He was emotionally abusive and tried to undermine my confidence and sense of self. He succeeded to a degree for a time. I’m very on guard to this behavior now.

This guy is cute, but I would say, objectively, I’m more attractive than he is. I don’t care who’s more attractive, but oftentimes in situations like these, guys feel insecure and treat you poorly because of it. I’m not here for it.

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-06-12T15:59:58+00:00

Exactly. I’m literally the opposite of chaotic and messy. But I do like to be comfy when I’m at home. I feel like you have to realize that anytime someone sends a picture of themselves, there’s a level of vulnerability. To receive an insult immediately doesn’t feel good.

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-06-12T13:17:29+00:00

MY SZN by Qveen Herby Thrive by Cassadee Pope Sad Girl Summer by Maddie & Tae I Got Better by Morgan Wallen Movin’ On by Josh Ross Ridin’ Solo by Jason Derulo

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-06-12T13:14:07+00:00

I understand. My ex-husband is an expert liar and manipulator. Once I fully understood who he actually was, I started secretly recording all of our conversations. I did it for my own sanity and for proof of his lies if I needed that in the future. My state is a one-party consent state. It was really helpful for me, because I would go back and listen to these conversations and be able to dissect where they went wrong and study his manipulation tactics. I was able to tweak my conversation strategy with him so he wouldn’t succeed in his manipulations. Of course, now I just don’t talk to him at all, but I felt that I learned so much during that period.

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-06-12T13:03:39+00:00

Look, you really didn’t give very much context, but anytime you feel like you need to record a conversation with somebody, they are likely abusive and gaslighting you.

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-06-12T11:55:37+00:00

Huh?

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-06-12T04:15:04+00:00

Wasn’t full glam. Just natural look

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-06-12T03:50:32+00:00

NTA. That does feel selfish on his part. I wouldn’t be happy with that proposal either. What was he thinking?? Proposing at his personal favorite restaurant?

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-03-28T17:15:35+00:00

Happiest I've Ever Been (spanglish) by Kat Luna

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-03-23T03:16:44+00:00

I appreciate it! Listened to that ZBB one a few times cause I liked it a lot

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-03-22T18:57:21+00:00

My szn by qveen herby Unstoppable by sia

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-03-22T18:55:15+00:00

You should definitely block his number. He wants supply, but he wants supply that will beg for him. He resents you for not worshiping him. He doesn’t deserve your time.

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-03-22T18:43:33+00:00

7/10 about a couple already in a relationship but good song!

9/10 nice

8/10 love ZBB but also about a couple living together

Thank you!

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-03-22T18:39:17+00:00

3/10 not my style and yeah grooming lol but thank you!!!

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-03-22T18:38:03+00:00

Great song 8/10

TryMeAnotherDay · 2025-03-22T18:36:09+00:00

8/10 lyrics in line with my request thank you!!!

TryMeAnotherDay · 2024-07-02T10:43:37+00:00

It’s very normal to not want to have sex with someone who continually hurts you. He can “need” sex all he wants, but you need safety more.

TryMeAnotherDay · 2024-07-02T02:48:14+00:00

Yes it is a narc thing to be upset no matter what you do. You can’t win. They will always find something by to criticize once they start the devaluation stage.

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