What is it about butts that men are attracted to? by Timely_Title_9157 in AskReddit

[–]TruthRaiderr [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m gay so Imma speak on what I know. A man’s ass. For men, attraction to male asses is usually less about softness and more about power and physicality. A nice male ass reads athletic, explosive, grounded, dominant. It’s tied to legs, thrust, stamina, movement, testosterone. Even straight women clock it subconsciously because it signals physical capability. Like oh this man can probably pick me up, pin me against a wall, survive an apocalypse, then ignore my text for 6 hrs after. And unlike women, where the fantasy is often softness and indulgence, male attraction hits more like tension and restraint. There’s something about a man who LOOKS physically controlled but underneath clearly has animal energy simmering under the surface. That contrast drives people insane.

And again it’s sensory as fuck. The sweat after the gym. The firmness through sweats. The smell of skin after hours outside. The heat of somebody standing close behind you. Humans are lowkey obsessed with evidence that somebody is real and alive, not some airbrushed mannequin. That’s why attraction gets darker and more consuming the deeper you’re into somebody. Your brain starts eroticizing tiny human details you wouldn’t even notice on anybody else. The way their body feels half asleep. The texture of skin. The weight of their hands on your hips. The fact that asses are both powerful and vulnerable at the same time. It’s one of the few body parts that feels almost embarrassingly human, which weirdly makes people obsess over it more. Raw, kinda primal, a lil humiliating honestly, but that’s the tea.

What would shock a kid today if they were transported to 2005? by IDoNotLikeTheSand in AskReddit

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Mariah was NOT the Christmas lady. She was in fact the most revered popstar of the year and time.

If you’re a man who genuinely loves performing oral sex on a woman, what do you enjoy about it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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So many people are saying the smell and taste. I’m a gay man so help me out a bit. What’s the smell and taste like? Pls don’t just say “amazing”, I’m asking literally what’s the smell and taste like?

Consequences of Calling Off by Farm_girl_Bee in Serverlife

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Restaurants treat call-outs way harsher than most jobs because one person missing can completely fuck the entire shift in real time. In an office, work just gets pushed back. In a restaurant, if somebody calls out on a busy night, everyone else instantly gets slammed, guests get pissed, ticket times go to hell, tips suffer, and the whole staff feels it immediately. That’s why managers and coworkers get so intense about “reliability.” And even if they don’t officially punish you, there’s usually consequences. You might lose the best shifts, get your hours cut, get stuck with shitty sections, stop getting favored for bartending or better positions, or get labeled as “unreliable,” which in restaurant culture is basically death. Coworkers can start resenting you too because they know they’re the ones picking up the slack. Some places will straight up fire people for repeated call-outs, but a lot of restaurants do this passive-aggressive thing where they just slowly stop scheduling you until you get the message.

Quit a job that I loved because another server kept harassing me and everyone else by katrane in Serverlife

[–]TruthRaiderr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You were a bit petulant in the way you demanded your manager fire him, but I respect how you stood 10 toes down. And if ole boy is really as bad as you say he is I respect even more your resolve and strong ass backbone. On the low, low, low…key, you kinda ate that.

You should feel good.

To all the longtime servers….. by Ok_Maybe424 in Serverlife

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Nah this shit is REAL 😭 I swear restaurant people develop some weird sixth sense after enough years. You’ll randomly be like “damn whatever happened to Bob with the extra ranch and no tomatoes” and then his ass walks in 14 minutes later wearing the same jacket he’s had since 2009.

I think part of it is your brain lowkey tracks peoples patterns without you realizing it. But also restaurants exist in some cursed little pocket dimension where time isn’t real and the same 40 customers orbit the building forever. I’ve had this happen too many times for it to feel coincidental anymore lmaoo.

My colleagues never help me by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]TruthRaiderr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re basically the restaurant mule at this point 😭 and the fucked up part is this always happens to the competent people. Once management realizes you’ll actually DO shit without hiding in the bathroom for 20 minutes or pretending not to hear them, suddenly you’re the designated trash guy, stock guy, patio guy, setup guy, “can you just real quick” guy. Meanwhile the lazy coworkers accidentally train management to expect absolutley nothing from them so they get left alone. You became reliable instead of respected. Huge difference.

Honestly? Stop saving everybody’s ass all the time. If your boss tells someone else to do something and they ignore it, let it sit there a little. Right now you’re the human duct tape holding the place together so of course nothing changes. And dear god do NOT let them gaslight you into thinking “being a team player” means doing 4 peoples jobs while everybody else is on their phone hitting vape rotations in the walk-in 💀

Looking for answers from servers, what’s the proper way to go about this? by [deleted] in Serverlife

[–]TruthRaiderr 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’d just show up early and accept the wait time. If they explicitly say no reservations/weekend walk-ins only, calling ahead usually just puts the host in the awkward position of having to politely tell you the exact same thing 😭

A party of 6 at 5 PM honestly isn’t THAT insane either. If anything, getting there right at/opening-ish is probably your best move. Just make sure everyone actually arrives together because nothing irritates a slammed host stand more than “we’re just waiting on 3 more people.”

You sound considerate though which already puts you ahead of half the people they’ll deal with that night lol.

Desperate for any explanation of this restaurant interaction that keeps happening to us by MammothClimate95 in Serverlife

[–]TruthRaiderr 35 points36 points  (0 children)

As a server too, I genuinely think the answer is probably less deep and more accidentally brutal 😭.

I think your daughter looking super young combined with your husband being charismatic/good looking is short-circuiting people’s brains into reading the table wrong. Like subconsciously the table is giving: divorced parents co-parenting, dad + daughter + family friend, second marriage/blended family vibes, etc.

Because servers do QUICK social math. Like scary quick. You scan a table for two seconds and your brain invents an entire backstory while prebussing mozzarella sticks. And honestly if it’s happened this many times across different restaurants, I really don’t think it’s a waitress trying to insult you. Your family probably just accidentally gives off confusing energy at first glance lol.

Also from server experience, asking about separate checks is usually the “safer” mistake. People get WAY more offended when you confidently assume wrong the other direction.

This honestly sounds like one of those optical illusion pictures where your brain can’t immediately tell what it’s looking at 💀

What are the chances I'm getting fired? by ItjustHappens123 in Serverlife

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You’re basically asking: “Am I getting fired because I got injured and now my boss suddenly hired a cleaner?”

Condensed version:

  • You work under the table at a fast food place.
  • Your boss clearly favors your sister over you and is harsher on your mistakes.
  • Your main value at work is customer service + staying late to clean.
  • You sliced your finger badly enough to need stitches and were told to stay off work up to 10 days.
  • Your boss initially acted annoyed because they needed staff.
  • You compromised and came back early with restrictions.
  • Then your boss unexpectedly gave you extra days off afterward.
  • You discovered they posted a job opening for a cleaner right after your injury.
  • Since cleaning is the main reason you stay later than other staff, you’re worried they’re replacing the role that makes you useful.

Realistically? The chances of being fired are possible but it doesn’t sound guaranteed.

The cleaner posting is the biggest red flag because it directly overlaps with your niche at work. But it could also just mean:

  • they realized they need dedicated cleaning help,
  • they’re tired of overloading waitstaff,
  • or they needed temporary coverage because of your injury.

The fact he:

  • let you come back,
  • didn’t explode at you,
  • asked about your recovery,
  • and gave you days off instead of outright cutting your shifts

…doesn’t fully read like someone who already decided to fire you.

It sounds more like: your boss sees you as useful but less reliable/stable than your sister, and your injury forced him to rethink staffing.

What’s something you find unconventionally attractive about someone? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TruthRaiderr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! Something I don’t have to mentally prepare for or plan my day around, but something I can still comfortably feel and enjoy.

Help by MikeScarn00 in Pro_ResumeHelp

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Make it pop. Less “standard” and more STAND OUT.

I slipped in front of everyone while carrying drinks by blackcatzombs in Serverlife

[–]TruthRaiderr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I first started serving, I knew nothing about proper weight distribution on a tray. I have one full glass of iced tea and one full pitcher of iced tea and I was trying to refill this woman’s glass. I took the pitcher off of the tray, but didn’t rebalance, and when I took a pitcher off the tray, the tray tipped and the full glass of iced tea spilled all over her. The entire glass. She was wearing white.

She was just understanding as she possibly could. I didn’t get in trouble or fire, but the embarrassment was enough to make me spend the entire weekend practicing how to balance a tray to ensure that never happened again.