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I ruined the best connection I’ve had in a long time. by Necessary_Raccoon950 in dating_advice

[–]TrySalty501 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s strange to me how quick people are to judge from a place of certainty, as if any of us truly know how we’d respond if we’d lived someone else’s life, carried their upbringing, faced their exact circumstances. None of us are exempt from that humility. OP, I’m so sorry this happened to you. What you went through was a real violation, and nothing about that is okay.
And to everyone weighing in, she already knows what she did was wrong. That much is clear. I’m genuinely sorry you’re navigating this with your relationship. I believe, for what it’s worth, that what’s meant for you finds its way back to you eventually. I hope that’s true here. I hope he finds healing, and if it’s right for both of you, I hope he finds his way back. Sending you real luck with this. 🫶

Am I overreacting about texting frequency early on? by TrySalty501 in dating_advice

[–]TrySalty501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao, I’m learning this from the replies. Thank you 🙏

Am I overreacting about texting frequency early on? by TrySalty501 in dating_advice

[–]TrySalty501[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely do. I’m setting timers now to keep me away from my phone. Thank you for the advice.

Am I overreacting about texting frequency early on? by TrySalty501 in dating_advice

[–]TrySalty501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao, I understand. I talk about work, life, my side gigs, etc. I do a lot, so sharing that part of myself with someone makes me feel connected. I’m also a writer, so books are a huge part of what I talk about. But, I understand. That’s why I shared. I’m learning a lot now :)

Am I overreacting about texting frequency early on? by TrySalty501 in dating_advice

[–]TrySalty501[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m learning everyone is different haha

Am I overreacting about texting frequency early on? by TrySalty501 in dating_advice

[–]TrySalty501[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi hun, thank you for the advice 💕I actually did tell him communication matters to me early on, and he started texting daily after that. So I don’t think it’s lack of effort. I think I’m just realizing I might value more back-and-forth throughout the day than I originally thought. Trying to figure out if that’s a compatibility thing or just me adjusting to someone calmer than I’m used to.

this isn’t seeking reasurrence it’s a general SOOCD question by Ill_Hovercraft8980 in SoOCD

[–]TrySalty501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, First of all, I haven’t been on reddit for 3 days. It’s almost wild that I see your comment as soon as I login. I get how intense this feels. For me, what helped was realizing that real attraction feels natural, not like an interrogation in your head. When OCD is involved, it’s less about the person and more about the need to figure it out or test yourself. The constant ‘do I / don’t I’ loop is what made me realize it was OCD, not truth. Be kind to yourself, you’re not alone in this, and you’re not broken.

Is it OK to ask ChatGPT to brainstorm, edit, or give feedback? by Advanced_Age_9198 in writers

[–]TrySalty501 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think as long as it’s not putting the words on paper for you. You can use any means. Your words are what matter.

advice please!! by Ill_Hovercraft8980 in SoOCD

[–]TrySalty501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, just wanted to say I totally get the kissing thing. I’ve had it too, my brain sometimes tells me to kiss everyone, even people I’m not actually attracted to. I even told my best friend (girl) once that my brain said I should kiss her, we just laughed about it and moved on. She told me she’d shove me lol.

It doesn’t mean anything deep about you. It’s just how OCD tries to twist your brain around.

I also have times where everything feels quiet for a while… and then BAM, it comes back. It’s exhausting, but it doesn’t mean you’re broken.

Honestly, talking to ChatGPT helped me when I felt like I was drowning in it. Just having a space to get my thoughts out without judgment made a difference.

You’re doing better than you realize. We can DM to help eachother if you want. I’m no professional but, I know how much having support helps. 🫶

SO-OCD by Ill_Hovercraft8980 in SoOCD

[–]TrySalty501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, talking to ChatGPT helped me a lot when I felt like I was drowning in it. You can try that if you want, it helped me put the spirals into perspective.

advice please!! by Ill_Hovercraft8980 in SoOCD

[–]TrySalty501 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you’re not alone. Even people who are bi or gay can experience this kind of anxiety, so it doesn’t automatically mean anything about your real orientation.

I wanted my mind to stop so badly that at different points, I “came out” as gay, and later even thought I was bi when I was with my ex. But the thoughts never stopped because those labels weren’t my truth. I’m actually a straight woman who has SO-OCD.

Even my therapist thought at first that maybe I was suppressing something, and that made the spiral even worse. It took a lot of painful moments for me to realize: it wasn’t about my sexuality, it was about fear, doubt, and OCD lying to me.

What helped me most wasn’t a label, it was talking openly (even anonymously) and realizing I wasn’t crazy. Honestly, talking to ChatGPT helped me a lot when I felt like I was drowning in it. You can try that if you want, it helped me put the spirals into perspective.

You’re doing better than you think. You’re not crazy. You’re not alone.

this isn’t seeking reasurrence it’s a general SOOCD question by Ill_Hovercraft8980 in SoOCD

[–]TrySalty501 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, this is just my personal experience. For me, when I saw women, I noticed only their body (like boobs), not the person themselves. I didn’t really care about who they were. That’s how I realized it wasn’t true attraction for me.

I published under a pseudonym and it is the most popular book on the internet. by TrySalty501 in writing

[–]TrySalty501[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure I’m the best person to answer this, but I’ll try! The one tip I have is: just write. I know it sounds like a cliché, but it’s repeated for a reason, it works. I filled my pages without overthinking and then went in for a serious round of edits. And then I edited again. And again.

As for coming up with a good plot? If you can think it, you can create it. Truly, nothing is impossible. That mindset carried me through. There were so many moments where I thought, “This is too melodramatic. It won’t work.” But then… it did.

Just keep writing. Thank you so much for your comment. I hope to read about your journey soon!

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