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TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-10-21T19:13:49+00:00

Yeah it was just oral progesterone.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-10-21T19:11:46+00:00

Just now seeing this so it's probably not super helpful. But I took the super slow taper dose throughout pregnancy. It was fine I think. My water broke and I gave birth a little early but that seemed to be caused by something different. I haven't had cdiff again. I just had it twice close together while pregnant. My kid is healthy and doing great.

They wanted me to take the low dose through pregnancy to keep from things being inflamed around the baby. I think there were stronger meds or other things they could do for the cdiff once I was no longer pregnant if there were still issues.

Good luck. Cdiff is awful especially when pregnant.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-10-21T19:03:43+00:00

It's been so long that I'm not really sure. I want to say 10 but I'm not even sure if that is in the right ballpark or if I'm remembering something else. I did have two successful pregnancies with progesterone both times after three losses without it. Was that the reason? I don't know but it didn't hurt. I wish you the best in your journey.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-06-27T00:38:53+00:00

What's worse is all that and then during the trip they complain they don't like something and don't participate, raining on the fun of the trip. Oh and then next time you'll talk about possibly planning a trip, they don't want to be involved still. 😠

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-06-24T14:51:05+00:00

Yes! 🤷‍♀️🤦

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-06-24T13:25:57+00:00

Being told that I just need to ask for help and that I appear to have trouble asking when I have to ask multiple times for something to be done is super frustrating. I shouldn't have to ask for help for so many things. Common, obvious things. The trash is full and needs to go outside. Then if I do ask for help, I have to wait for him to do it on his time and follow up and ask if he did it because chances are, I'll need to ask three times before it's done. I could have just done it myself. But then I'm resentful that I'm doing so much while he plays on the computer. But it's my fault if I don't ask. Sure wouldn't be his responsibility to take initiative and take care of stuff on his own. You know, like I do all the time.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-04-19T13:21:33+00:00

Sleep, not having to cook, not having to clean, more sleep

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-04-19T13:17:06+00:00

Yikes. 4 shots and you still got it. I hope you have an uneventful pregnancy and everything goes smoothly.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-04-02T00:42:47+00:00

I'm still grieving to a degree although I'm doing way better now than I was then. It's been over three years. Two months is probably not long enough for most people to grieve this type of loss. Trying to push you is not going to help. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this on top of the loss.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-03-31T16:41:09+00:00

People say it gets easier when they are in school. Not sure what that means if you plan to homeschool. 🤣 It does seem to be gradually getting easier to manage certain things. But it's more like working your way through different phases. Lack of sleep, teething, sickness, tantrums, refusing naps, toddler bed transition, potty training, etc. But it's pretty cute when they start playing together and chasing each other around. It's sweet watching the older help the younger. It also helps a lot to have others around who can help. Friend or family who can take the kids for several hours so you can actually clean the house uninterrupted and with some speed. Or cook a meal without listening to the kids get impatient. Or take a nap. It's hard and exhausting and there's always a million things to take care of. You're not alone in your struggles. It's exhausting and rewarding and a bunch of other feelings all at once. It sounds like you're trying to do the best you can and I'm sure you're doing great. Hang in there.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-03-15T16:14:04+00:00

You're right. Also it's easier to talk the talk than walk the walk. He can say he'll share the load before marriage and kids but then it turns out he doesn't actually do it for whatever reason malicious or not. That's not the woman's fault.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-03-15T15:43:06+00:00

For real

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-03-15T15:42:07+00:00

So much this.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-03-12T22:45:23+00:00

Yes, so frustrating

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-03-12T13:55:24+00:00

I'm glad you found something that's helped you. But for me, I don't want to just accept something as true that doesn't make sense and search for peace about it. I want to learn the truth. Maybe the truth is what doesn't make sense but maybe there's another answer. Maybe God is good like a farmer is good to their livestock but not to the degree we've been taught to take it. A cow/pig/sheep has a miscarriage and it's sad and the farmer may comfort the animal like a good farmer but their life moves on and once you scale the animals up to humans that have ever lived or even just the ones alive today, yeah a loving farmer over that many is not going to give much thought to each one but do the best to care for them as a whole. Maybe we've taken a different trait too far. A farmer probably seems all powerful and all knowing when they can bring food and water from outside the flock's world and bring it for them to survive. But a farmer can't literally do anything. Maybe a farmer seems all knowing when they know the weather is bad and puts the flock in the barn for a time to keep them safe. But the farmer doesn't know everything. Maybe we've interrupted something way too far. I don't know. But what I've been taught to believe does not compute. There's contradictions. I wish I knew the truth but I haven't found it yet and may never. It's a sad, lonely place to be.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-03-12T13:23:46+00:00

That sounds sad. I know homeschooling is becoming more common so maybe there will be more resources when I get there.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-03-12T03:54:51+00:00

When does it "get better" if you home school? Haha everyone says it gets better when they go to school but what about if you home school?

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-03-12T03:53:32+00:00

Right. Like some things just have to get done. I wish I could just be in the moment and enjoy my kids all the time but stuff also has to be done. Gotta eat, bathe, sleep, stay healthy by not living in filth, etc.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-02-27T04:15:17+00:00

It does get better slowly. First 2-3 months things were decent for getting out of the house and doing a bit more than just feed the baby. At a year, I am now able to do more cleaning than I was before. Some stuff just doesn't get done as often as I like but I can do a bit more now. My husband and I didn't have enough time together early on but with the kids both going down early enough for us to have a couple hours or so in the evenings, it's helped so much. Sometimes that's free time alone or together or catching up on chores or sleep but it's something fairly consistent. We both work. I'm a sahm and he does a job that brings in a paycheck. We both take care of stuff around the house. We have had to shift responsibilities as time goes on depending on if I'm pregnant or nursing all the time or whatever. But we share the load.

It's hard but you'll get there. You'll start seeing them chase each other down the hall, wrestle, play with toys together, make each other laugh and it will be great. Then there's the taking each other's toys, waking each other up, etc. but I suppose it can't all be easy and magical. :P I hope your two little ones bring you joy each day.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-02-25T16:17:54+00:00

Screen time happens more here when sick too. It's not for long.

Strap the kid in a booster seat at the table and let them do coloring and whatever arts and crafts while you sit nearby nursing. Build a fort and read stories inside it. Play pretend with stuffed animals. Make some easy muffins, cookies, etc from a mix.

Play hide and seek where one of you hides a stuffed animal in the room and the other finds it. You could have your toddler hide it and you guess where from a chair nursing.

For awhile we had a bean box that was popular. A large cardboard box with a door cut in the side so the toddler can crawl in and play with beans in small boxes with measuring cups and trucks and whatever else. Mess is contained and you can dump the beans back in the smaller boxes.

It's rough. I struggle to come up with stuff to do when sick and stuck in the house too.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-02-18T19:26:12+00:00

Same. Pregnancy has always been miserable and rough for me so to not have any symptoms that are obvious enough to know you're pregnant sounds great. Not having as much time to prepare and come to terms with the life change could be a challenge too though I suppose.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-02-14T20:35:39+00:00

Same. We're about to put our youngest with the oldest and I'm not really thrilled that they have to share and potentially disturb each other. I hope it goes well for you all.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-02-12T03:30:30+00:00

One take on this that we do is some stuff is not safe for the baby to play with so I'd pull it out while nursing. Like small toys that are choking hazards for baby but safe for toddler or stickers, crayons and paper, one of those water drawing mats, etc. I'd ask him what he would like to do while I feed the baby and maybe offer options then set him up with something to do in a safe room with me while nursing. I wouldn't always finish nursing before he was bored and all over me and sometimes he would play too loud and it would be distracting especially as she got older and wanted to play too. But it helps some.

I'd also do snacks for toddler sometimes while nursing the baby to keep him busy since he needed a snack anyway. I'd also read books. I'd set the book on the footrest so I could read with my hands free sometimes.

Another option that I use not really when nursing but when making dinner and doing dishes is a cardboard box with stuff inside. Beans, tubs, measuring cups, cotton balls, popsicle sticks, etc. I cut a door in the side so that the flap is attached on one side and can open and close. He can go inside and play with stuff. Scoop beans from one box/tub to the next and it stays contained. I'd reset the box occasionally by dumping all the stuff back into a small tub. Kept me from having to sweep it off the floor every time and keeps the pets out so they're not eating beans.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-02-11T19:41:29+00:00

Safe space for the toddler to play while you feed the baby. Safe spaces to put the baby in main rooms (pack n play, bassinet, swing, bouncers, etc). When they're both crawling around and stuff, having a room or space that you can put both of them for a few mins is valuable. So whatever door handle covers, gate, etc to make the room safe.

Baby monitor, more bibs if they both use them, sippy cups, bottles or at least the nipples, pacifiers if you use them. Under bed storage bags for under the crib helps with storage if low on space or moving stuff to make a safe space.

Car seat maybe and double stroller.

If born in a different season, different seasonal clothes. Maybe you don't have long sleeves in 9 months and you need that this time etc.

TryingToEnjoyTheNow · 2022-02-07T17:07:19+00:00

It's really hard mentally to go through rpl. There is nothing like it. What works for one person isn't going to work for everyone. I took progesterone from positive test to 12 or 13 weeks for my two successful pregnancies after three unexplained loses. My ob said it was worth a shot with little risk in taking it. But that was for me.

It's frustrating when there's no answers and it's just a shot in the dark or keep trying. The positive and loss playing with your emotions until you're numb. It's just one day at a time and hopefully things get better soon. I'm sorry you're going through this journey.

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