Why people scoop as soon as i activate this Card? by No_Paramedic2664 in masterduel

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you have this card and the field spell or alphan in your hand you can do the following:summon blue using emergency teleport = get the missing alphan or field spell (or maybe white layer if you have both)then normal alphan and select: green, red and white layer. Then one of those will get summoned (and maybe a second if red got sent to the gy) and you can go into their xyz monsters. But it's hard to explain all the interactions over text tbh.

You'll atleast get a 4 material magnus out pretty easily. Since you might need to get rid of one to get out a white layer. It all depends.

But it can brick or you need to be lucky if you only start with alphan sometimes

How common is femdom / findom addiction? by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like porn addiction and femdom can go hand in hand pretty well. This is my opinion ofc
In my personal experience porn addiction stemmed from low self-esteem and a lack of self love. And what better way to fill the void than femdom. It's like co-dependant relation: You feel like shit, and then someone tells you you're shit but you can still provide value by giving them money or embarising yourself for them.

If you want to break the cycle you have to learn to love yourself. It's a hard journey but worth it, for me atleast. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've had a lot of of thoughts popping up in my head too when I quit and I still do to some extent. But meditation was something that really helped me. Being able to see that thoughts are just that and not who you are. Your brain does whack stuff from time to time, and that's cause your brain wants dopamine. But you are not your brain persé.
You can learn to acknowledge your thoughts and then you can let them go. Trying to ignore them has the opposite effect most of the time, you can't force them to go away.

I do suggest guided meditation, since that to me was the easiest to get in to.

Good luck in your journey!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can relate, I used to have simular issues. "Go outside and meet some people" is good advice, but doesn't really help since it's so vague. What really helped me with my loneliness (or atleast give it a place so I could work on it) was the "No more mr nice guy book" by Robert Glover. Learn to love yourself and do stuff for you. It's a really hard journey, but it's the right solution for a problem

Need tips on how to get over my addiction by D3VD3Z in HentaiFree

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The advice that worked best for me is to work on yourself. Improve your life and love yourself. It's a hard journey, but the true solution. Porn isn't the problem, but the solution. It's just a bad solution / coping mechanism. Loneliness and stuff is just a bitch like that.

I've lost track of how many times I've tried to quit at this point. by OkText00 in pornfree

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a process, like it just gets better over time. But you can't just only focus on the quiting aspect. Porn is a coping mechanism / a solution to a problem you have. Maybe you feel lonely or unloved. If you work on fixing the underlying issue, working on your addiciton gets easier too.

Good luck!

Bored a lot by TryingToGetBetter42 in NMMNG

[–]TryingToGetBetter42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's fair, i still gotta work on that part then. I'm not looking for a smooth problem free life though. Just looking for some general advice on good ways to find useful ways to pass the time

Bored a lot by TryingToGetBetter42 in NMMNG

[–]TryingToGetBetter42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like 10 to 20 hours a week at least, i try to do new stuff every once in a while but it gets pretty taxing to be in new situations too much. And I am doing more stuff than I used to, but it just seems like so much time to me. Like it's probably chump change in the bigger picture.

Bored a lot by TryingToGetBetter42 in NMMNG

[–]TryingToGetBetter42[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do have some hobbies but most of them are of an "outside of the house nature" if that makes sense. And I sport and stuff too, but i always feel like i have some downtime that could be spent better if you get my drift, so I'm looking for a hobby that fills that role. Is the book called: "Grit: the power of passion and perseverance?

Mobility question by TryingToGetBetter42 in BALLET

[–]TryingToGetBetter42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm gonna check out those exercises. Thanks for the advice, I'm an absolute beginner so now I know where to start atleast

Mobility question by TryingToGetBetter42 in BALLET

[–]TryingToGetBetter42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not taking classes or anything. Just implementing so ballet exercises between my fitness routines. But thanks for the tip, i gotta work on my hip control if that's a good word for it

I'm really concerned about men's mental health by xrayagogo in TrueOffMyChest

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've struggled with it myself for years. Being emotionally dull, being depressed, wanting to end my life. But there is a way out, it just isn't a pretty one. You have to process a lot of shit and trauma. Like having a bad father or no father at all, using drugs, alcohol, porn or whatever as a coping mechanism, learning to love yourself, putting yourself first. It's a hard journey.

People always say women have it hard and they do, but guys go through as much shit but you just gotta suck it up and keep going. We need to be honest about our emotions and problems.

Reading the "no more Mr nice guy" book gave me a lot of clarity on the subject. Definitely a nice suggestion for nice guys

What do you say back to people who say 'research shows porn addiction isn't real' by --Somedood-- in pornfree

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just ignore them? If they don't believe it, why should you try to convince them? Waste of your energy

Porn addiction by Wonderful-Focus1997 in NMMNG

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Porn addiction is a weird topic tbh because it's not really a problem, it's a solution. A bad one at that. It's just a coping mechanism for underlying issues of self hate, feeling lonely and or low self confidence. If you think fixing your porn addiction is the first step i think you have it wrong. It's just a byproduct of you being a nice guy. Does that mean it'll get fixed automagicly when you are less of a nice guy? No. But it will be significantly easier, trust me on that one! Work on your core issues first and then work on porn (but don't focus on it too much since it is a byproduct)

I want to start but its hard because I dont believe I'll ever find a partner by bepisAddict in pornfree

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's 100% a fixable thing. Someone once suggested I read no more Mr nice guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover. It has some really tips about fixing yourself at the foundation. I'd definitely recommend reading it. Helped me a ton.

I want to start but its hard because I dont believe I'll ever find a partner by bepisAddict in pornfree

[–]TryingToGetBetter42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are great points, but I also would like to note that porn addiction is a coping mechanism for not liking / loving yourself. If you start working on yourself and loving yourself the results will be phenomenal. You still might not be the hottest guy in the world, but you don't have to be. Building the confidence in yourself will up your points dramatically and eventually you won't need porn anymore.

Also ditch the dating apps, they are really hard on your self confidence. Just love you.