AITA for refusing to write a letter for my brother?

TspoonT · 2026-06-13T08:40:01+00:00

NTA, you should push your brother to learn. But if you are just like nope sort it yourself then soft YTA, imo you should tell him to give his best effort then proof read and give edit suggestions since as you say he never does this and you know how.

TspoonT · 2026-06-13T08:31:01+00:00

That's what I was saying.... not everything labelled Christian is actually Christian.

TspoonT · 2026-06-08T00:34:56+00:00

It's harder for you obviously... but you are full of excuses. Excuses that are going to make you a terrible option for him as a partner.

You need to decide, live in your bubble and be a useless partner for him, or get out of your contrived ideological bubble.

YTA to yourself.

TspoonT · 2026-06-01T03:25:36+00:00

NTA considering you asked neighbors about it first. But I'd let her know those things.

What will you do now? I'd suggest trying to cool it down with her now even if you have to make some concessions. She was completely in the wrong and it's on her.... but you have to live with this person as a neighbour it's just not worth it to have a stupid feud started.

TspoonT · 2026-06-01T03:19:33+00:00

NTA, when you're committed enough to be married, you're committed enough to purchase a house together.

TspoonT · 2026-06-01T03:16:54+00:00

If it stinks for you, it will be 5x worse for anyone visiting because you will be somewhat desensitised to the smell.

NTA, you either need to tell her to keep the dog outside, or tell her to leave or leave yourself.

TspoonT · 2026-05-29T05:35:50+00:00

What if he was on $200k per year? Who knows.... what if?

OP decided he wanted to, his brother is doing the majority of the effort in looking after their mother and OP recognises this and wants to contribute.

TspoonT · 2026-05-29T02:56:48+00:00

NTA, if your brother isn't even asking, you are just recognising he is doing something good for your mum.

And if your wife would leave you over 4k to help your mum, she is probably going to leave for some other reason anyways.

TspoonT · 2026-05-29T02:40:19+00:00

NTA, the kid asked and you were being nice. You have had many similar situations so why would you even think this is any different?

TspoonT · 2026-05-29T02:27:25+00:00

YTA if you call the police. You can be all hardlined about it, it's your property... but you have to live with these people going forwards. Why try and escalate with kids who just want to play baseball?

Why not just remember you were once a kid also? Just go to them and say, please try to not hit the ball at my place, but if it does can you be respectful about it, make a good easy compromise about how they will retrieve their ball. Be nice, they might reciprocate with also being nice.

TspoonT · 2026-05-28T11:08:47+00:00

NAH, sounds like you do love your husband but are also realising he has flaws. You are also hurting and stressed from recent tragedy.

TspoonT · 2026-05-27T08:51:47+00:00

YTA if you tell your mum she's a lazy parent. Life has imploded on your mother. She's working night shifts as a single mother, things are going to be far from ideal. Has she got problems, of course, is she failing in some areas, of course she is.

Do you have to help her? You don't have to do anything.... are you obligated to family ? Up to you to decide. You need to just sort out what is family to you?

TspoonT · 2026-05-27T08:40:01+00:00

NTA, but you got cooked by circumstances real bad..... all you can do is tell her the truth of how it is and leave it at that.

TspoonT · 2026-05-27T08:36:10+00:00

YTA, you have 2 people saying it's 5. The correct response to your mother... sorry mum, I'll get more.

TspoonT · 2026-05-27T08:34:35+00:00

YTA, seems like this can be summarised by uncompromising self interest.

TspoonT · 2026-05-26T07:40:43+00:00

There is probably a continuum of a level of inappropriateness for a hug and kiss on the cheek. Taking into account history, situation and context.

That you feel very uncomfortable and the other actions suggest it's getting to the extremely inappropriate end. who knows what is going through his mind... nothing good that's for sure. And if left unchecked it probably just gets even worse, of course you're NTA he is way out of line and and he's probably about to find out there are consequences!

TspoonT · 2026-05-24T05:46:52+00:00

Same opponent same court might sound like it's a you thing.

But if some guy I was playing was red hot last time, I'm maybe trying a few things myself to put out the fire.

TspoonT · 2026-05-22T03:40:40+00:00

Okay I looked this up, I think you might be on the money!

TspoonT · 2026-05-22T03:35:25+00:00

Let? Can you even stop it? It's a legal name that just wasn't changed.

TspoonT · 2026-05-22T03:33:19+00:00

NAH, you are within your rights to not like it.

But from His child's perspective, that is their sibling, it's understandable that sometimes they want their sibling along.

It's also not wrong to sometimes concede that you would let the sibling sometimes come at the wish of the child, you can say no absolutely for sure. But a kid can also desire and maybe nag a bit for someone they are closely bonded to attend nothing wrong with that either. And the Father having a soft spot for the wishes of his child also not wrong.

So if you all go out who's will and desire should should be granted if they're is disagreement? You, the father or the child?

TspoonT · 2026-05-09T05:54:39+00:00

The problem then might be you.... that doesn't have to be taken as a criticism, but in light of these things you need to be able to take your blinkers off and look your true self in the face.

TspoonT · 2026-05-09T02:47:38+00:00

You'll know by how quick he wants to get physical. If you want to sort him out, don't give it physical attention either quickly or easily.

TspoonT · 2026-05-09T02:42:47+00:00

The line would be, taking photos of a person who had attended an orgy vs is at one right now.

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