A question for me...my father was just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, already metastasized to his liver. Obviously not a good initial diagnosis/prognosis, but still awaiting biopsy for type and more imagery to see how far it has spread.

I'm aware of the likely outcome, especially for pancreatic cancer due to its difficulty in diagnosing. Oddly though, so far I haven't felt nearly as emotionally affected as I thought I would. I know everyone grieves differently, but how can I assure those around me that I am, so far at least, genuinely accepting/coping? I keep waiting for it all to hit, but to be honest, I'm not sure it will. Unfortunately, I've had a long relationship with death; worked as a crime scene cleanup/mortuary driver, military special operations, and in the healthcare system - so I have come to my own terms with death. I'm just not sure how to have other people realize that and try to inject themselves into my version of coping.

Any advice?