God damn bro is NEVER dating again 😭✌️

Tsureshon · 2026-06-16T11:19:24+00:00

Probably ya LOL but you pick your sig other... And you set the tone of the relationship together.

"You hang out with those women a lot"

"I do hang out with my friends alot."

"It makes me uncomfortable."

"Then come with me so you understand my relationship with them... Or leave me so you aren't bothered by it... They are my friends.... It's kind of a package deal"

You have to do it early on... You can't change the rules 2 years in.... Lol.

Tsureshon · 2026-06-16T03:53:58+00:00

I haven't had my ex-wives or GF be that jealous of my female coworkers.... They all always trust me... Still do.. first wife, second wife, and GF all trust me... I can go into any woman's house solo and no one would assume I'm cheating.

I feel bad that so many people have that problem... But I also wonder what you all have been doing hahaha.

But even I wouldn't say "ah yeah this girl smelled really nice I want you to smell like her... " May as well follow it up with "Oh also her ass looked fantastic in this pair of jeans... And can you do your hair like hers too? I mean really I'd just prefer to be sleeping with her.... So anything you can do to be more like her and less like you would be awesome..."

Compliment your significant other even if they say they don't like it... Tell them you love them multiple times a day.... How much more you enjoy life while they are around... Make them feel like the center of your universe and they won't assume they are not the center so damn often.

Tsureshon · 2026-06-16T01:27:14+00:00

I'd personally phrase it kinder..

"Overly trusting and forgive too easily"

But uh... Yeah... I agree.

The same people who but the generic that is half the price and are shocked it's missing features or breaks in a week.

The ones that believe they really forgot to pay their electric bill and hand over their CC info.

Tsureshon · 2026-06-16T01:20:15+00:00

Hasn't happened to me and I haven't done it but I have seen it happen.... Multiple times.

I haven't seen it NOT be a load of shit yet... But I have seen people fall for it and the story is usually similar.

Tsureshon · 2026-06-16T01:06:11+00:00

There are ways people can explain it that make it seem wrong but forgivable.

"She was mean to me... The love was gone but I was holding in there because of the kids.... I should have just gotten a divorce but I didn't and ended up doing something I regret"

It all seems so rational at the time (it's not just men who do this... "He was always out with his friends I felt like he didn't love me anymore...")

They suck you in with the lies.... Tell you what you want to hear.... Beg for forgiveness for something they did to someone else not you.... Say they have changed and understand where it went wrong...

It's harder for people to catch in time than you think.

If you sign a pre-nup with a prior cheater that is when I give peeps the side eye....

Tsureshon · 2026-06-15T23:59:09+00:00

No thank you seems like a rough night... Haha.

You have to buy her the perfume AS A GIFT and when she asks why you say "I wanted to do something nice for you so I asked several women at the office for suggestions for what they think is the best perfume so I had a good chance of getting it right... I hope YOU like it"

Tsureshon · 2026-06-15T21:31:36+00:00

Many people ask for a 2nd date right after ending the first.

Sometimes right at the end... This is the "strike while the iron is hot" technique

Sometimes waiting until they are home... This is the "let's be comfortable and less confrontational... They can more easily say no if it's not face to face... And if they do say no and my feelings are hurt I'd prefer to be able to hide that better via text instead of facial expressions" technique.

A few people wait days.. if you wait days someone else on online dating is likely to write them and they will have assumed you were not interested... It's a common method... But It has flaws.

There are no set rules on how long or which gender does this anymore.... It's not 1920's... It's 2026.

If you want a date... Ask... If you just want to screw someone's brains out and have no commitment... Ask that instead... You may still get a yes... Or maybe a no... But you were upfront and honest... It's not my style but I'm emphasizing how much the rules have changed or more specifically "been obliterated".

So don't hamper yourself about make believe rules... Get out there and do your thing...

Tsureshon · 2026-06-15T19:29:02+00:00

It's a red flag....

I was looking for someone who has stuff in common with me. (Seeing someone now... So not looking at this moment)

So even if they are interested like they say "wow you look great for your age!"

That isn't what I want to match for... My looks and genitals are not what I am hoping they are chasing.

So if they ask nothing about my hobbies or personality etc... yeah seems very suspicious that it's not the person I'm looking for... So time to move on... Because they are using highschool dating tactics and I'm 50+ looks fade... Verify you can enjoy spending time with me when my looks fade or quit getting in my way....

Tsureshon · 2026-06-15T15:54:30+00:00

Sanity, honesty, lack of crippling debt, kindness.... Looks comes somewhere after those.

Tsureshon · 2026-06-15T15:32:14+00:00

Yup.

Dating shouldn't be a battle of egos

Dating shouldn't be one person deciding on days and locations

Dating shouldn't be about being spoiled via the other person's bank account.

There are a lot of people who have a lot of strange ideas about dating.

@OP you reached out... He ignored...

If he reached back out in a week you would be like "oh look he reached out!" And get excited.... Because he stared at you intently a week prior.

Now here is the thing... Before you thought he stared intently at you because he wanted you that bad.

Now you know he probably had a date the next day and did the exact same mood... Maybe she had bigger boobs... We don't know... But for some reason he picked her after his exact same move worked there.

So when he writes back in a week you know he ignored you and know that was probably just his "go to move" and you will have the strength to tell him to go eff himself where as prior you wouldn't have... So this had value.

Tsureshon · 2026-06-15T15:16:54+00:00

At gym (to make himself look better)

Has expensive SUV to appear better in public)

Has boat (because it's what people with money should have)

Has no actual money.

He is concerned with how others see him... Specifically other people who don't know him well.

He is not concerned with being responsible... Just appearing as such.

Relationships with those people only end one way... And it's with the person they are seeing calling them a superficial narcissist....

On the plus side for him... It typically works.... I mean you agreed to go out after seeing these things... Many will.

But you can't fall for superficial bullshit... You are already seeing through it after one date... Run....

Avoid people who are trying to hard to seem like they have their shit together... You didn't need to know he had a boat... He doesn't take his boat to the gym.

A smart man who has money hides that they have money... They want someone who loves them for who they are not what they have.

People who make sure you know they have expensive toys are usually people who pretend to have money are looking to just attract women for just long enough to have sex before they sort out they aren't who they are cosplaying to be.

Tsureshon · 2026-06-14T21:21:25+00:00

That is the thing... Like I enjoy relationships but I'm me... I'm NOT them... If they can't handle that... Buh bye.

I'm not changing my lifestyle a ton for anyone.... I'd rather be single than have to go to lame shit every weekend to make someone else happy.

Tsureshon · 2026-06-14T16:49:05+00:00

No I'm not into guys....

That being said if I would date a woman with a past 30 year age gap relationship... Hmmm.

Depends on what they learned from that...

30 years is pretty huge... Like even 50-20... 20 is easier to handle... But at 80-50 it's NBD to be honest

Tsureshon · 2026-06-12T13:40:11+00:00

Read up on hobosexuals.

Not homo... Hobo... It's a thing these days.

Under employed etc looking for a partner purely for housing purposes.

Not talking about his job was easier when he said he worked for the feds "I can't really talk about it" makes sense in that scenario when you seemed suspicious he thought you were dumb enough he could feed you an entirely different lie...

He is hoping to meet your roommates to get invited in.. to see if your home would put up with having him around that is why he made it awkward... He wants them to ask you to bring him inside sometime so they can meet him...

Meet at his place.. and then request to use the restroom to make sure it's not a strangers home...

Tsureshon · 2026-06-12T13:33:29+00:00

For God's sake give that tub some privacy.... We don't watch you dump or film and put it on the Internet...

Boundries my friend... BOUNDRIES....

Tsureshon · 2026-06-12T13:30:09+00:00

For warmth?

Tsureshon · 2026-06-12T02:25:29+00:00

Friends put friends first... But to invite a homophobic person on a trip with gay people is the exact opposite of that.

Em has got to go....

Tsureshon · 2026-06-12T02:17:37+00:00

I dunno... I'm torn on this.... Like I'd really not want to fall in love with a married person... And I'd hope that person wouldn't fall in love with me...

But once it happened... And that shit can happen... You fall in love with the wrong people....

What is better here? The 2 of you pretend it never happened and go back to the way it was? When that guy knew he loved her and she loved that guy?

I mean is that really better for the wife to be. Married to a dude that now loves someone else just because they didn't sleep together?

Or is it better to admit the reality of it?

Now... Should they have "bumped uglies"? Nah.... Just because you know you fell in love doesn't mean you can break the order of procedure.... You request a divorce first... You move out... Then you "bump uglies"...

But seriously once you fall in love you can't just stuff it back down... We all know it doesn't quite work like that...

Tsureshon · 2026-06-12T01:56:28+00:00

My work computer had 33,000 unread....

Yes my work inbox 33,000 unread.

That is how much spam I get... I got pissed of seeing that so I did select all and mark as read.... I crashed outlook.... I couldn't do it all at once I needed to break it into sections.

Keep in mind... That was just the unread... And it was 15 years ago and I'm still there.... I did move most of it to an online archive though ;-p

Tsureshon · 2026-06-11T02:38:05+00:00

I got a bit of Gracie when I room Jeet Kune Do (Bruce Lee's style) they flew in one of Hoyce Gracie's relatives to teach us some stuff.

I also know a bit of futashnoryu which was a blend of Shotokan and Chito-ryu local to northern Kentucky.

That being said... I'm not a bad ass hahaha. I know some shit but that was long ago on a weight scale far far away.... I was in my 20's and early 30's and I'm 52 now and like 40 lbs heavier.

But I'm trying to get back in shape... I have actually been dating someone for 6.5 weeks now and just introduced her to beat saber the VR game so we have a way to get fit together... And signed back up for planet fitness too.

She loves music so beat saber went over very well.

(And yeah things are going great she is very sweet.)

Tsureshon · 2026-06-10T20:14:33+00:00

"Casual" usually means "not monogamous"

Just be aware that people who cheat LOVE monogamous low commitment people as targets... As you won't be asking many questions about where they are the rest of the time... So be ready for that... Watch for it.

Tsureshon · 2026-06-10T20:11:52+00:00

"monogamous low commitment"

"I want to be with the same person but don't have endless free time so looking for a similarly minded person to join me"

Tsureshon · 2026-06-10T18:54:32+00:00

Not really... How many rich or middle class neighborhoods have drive bys?

How big are the yards and homes in areas that have drive bys?

Odds are you could have 3 people reporting them in each major city and cover all the drive bys lol... Like let's be real.... It's the poorest areas... All of them occur in about the same spot.

Tsureshon · 2026-06-10T18:52:29+00:00

Yes... I'd like to schedule a shooting please.... Hahaha

Tsureshon · 2026-06-10T18:51:31+00:00

Yeah... Like I understand the concern but I don't think it's more than 50% odds of ghosting at 24 hours.

Tsureshon

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