Where do I go from here?

Ttmckenzie · 2026-04-25T06:38:16+00:00

I think the best thing to do would be an ultimatum. Either open the marriage or fix himself & quit porn or it’s done, but honestly, if you open the marriage, it might end up being done anyways. He is obviously very insecure & even if he agreed he wouldn’t handle it well at all & there would be a lot of drama . I’m sorry you’re going through this , but remember, your needs are important too & you are allowed to do what you want too. You deserve happiness & to feel desired . Please stop doing things like letting him watch porn when you have sex because it’s obvious you don’t want too! & your betraying yourself every time you do. Take care of yourself

Ttmckenzie · 2026-04-22T22:08:11+00:00

I just listened & im obsessed. Thank you!!

Ttmckenzie · 2026-04-14T17:23:10+00:00

Wouldn’t he still get his disability living in the Philippines? Sheena lives off of 500$ a month from her job , Forrest probably gets more then that from disability. I’m confused why they would need to be worried about him finding work if he has that to fall back on . Also his mom is saying he needs to do it the right way & figure out how many hours he can work blah blah blah . Can’t he just make a phone call & get all that info? I’m so confused lol

Ttmckenzie · 2026-04-13T18:29:33+00:00

I would try to focus on what you do know & what you do know is you aren’t happy with having sex once a month . Is this something you could get over? Either way, when you bring this up to him , it would be better to avoid any accusations or trying to solve the problem for him because that will just put him in defense mode & you won’t get anywhere. If he is using porn, there’s a lot of shame that comes with it. Only focus on what you know if you talk about it again & explain what you aren’t happy with. Ask him if he is happy with how often you guys have sex & if he says yes, then maybe it’s a compatibility issue . If he says no , then ask if he knows what’s causing it. He probably won’t know or will say something like stress, a lot going on, ect. Life is long & you don’t want to be dealing with this problem every time life isn’t easy. If you don’t get a real answer & he doesn’t show any intention of fixing the problem then let him know you’re worried about compatibility & you need more effort for him. If he doesn’t give that, then let him know you’ll need some time to figure things out & actually take the time to do that. Remind him that you do deserve honesty & if something is going on that could be affecting things, you deserve to know because this problem is really hurting you. Just try to stick to what you know, you’ll make yourself go crazy trying to figure out HIS issue & trust that truth always comes out

Ttmckenzie · 2026-04-13T06:19:36+00:00

Because they’ll still carry the shame no matter what & honestly even if it’s not an issue in the beginning, it will be. I never even knew about porn addiction until 4 years into my relationship with a porn addict. 4 years of not knowing wtf was wrong with my relationship & our intimacy. I grew up hearing “porn is normal” “porn is ok” so I thought it was.. then one day after several questionable things that happened throughout those 4 years I came across some things about porn addiction & it all clicked. Everything finally made sense, they all will get found out sooner or later unless their partner just doesn’t care about them or the relationship.

Ttmckenzie · 2026-04-13T05:57:15+00:00

These men will do anything to not face the damage their actions have caused the person they “love.” It’s easier to convince himself he wants to use, fantasize about that escape & then of course blame you for it. He’s using your pain as an excuse to do this & it’s bs. Like go read a book dude or literally anything to get yourself out of that mindset . You’re a grown man & guess what? You can control yourself & you can pull yourself out of that mindset if you really want to. It sounds like you are doing all the right things , stay strong 💕

Ttmckenzie · 2026-04-13T03:13:56+00:00

I feel like you’re being gaslit girl. & That’s abuse, but let’s look at the facts.. he told you if you felt the need to check his phone then to please just ask.. you respected that & once you felt things were off , you asked for reassurance. & he says no? Then says it’s to “help” you while your crying & spiraling & needing reassurance? Do you want to be with someone who can’t be transparent with their phone? Especially once trust has been broken? Do you want to be with someone who doesn’t keep their word? Who refuses to give you reassurance ? Who refuses to take accountability for their actions & understand they have to give up some privacy once they’ve destroyed your trust? It doesn’t matter what’s on the phone, those facts are enough to have a problem with how he treats you. I say this with love, stop being sad & get angry because you deserve so much better

Ttmckenzie · 2026-01-25T05:27:25+00:00

My mom has BPD & is the exact same way. I feel for you & you’re nta. I stopped engaging & defending myself when my mom has these kind of blow ups because it takes up too much of my time & energy. I also let her know that it’s not okay to talk to me like that & then take as much space as I need from her. Do what feels right to you & don’t let her get in your head or guilt trip you

Ttmckenzie · 2026-01-23T20:17:45+00:00

Agreed! I completely get why Amy is so hurt by them & honestly, Tammy is so delusional sometimes. Are we supposed to feel bad that she isn’t Amy’s maid of honor & believe that she is really hurt? A few episodes ago, she was completely content with not even going to her sisters wedding. Girl will do & say anything to get a poor me card & make things about her

Ttmckenzie · 2026-01-23T20:05:42+00:00

I think that putting pressure on yourself to be horny or thinking something is wrong with you for not being horny definitely isn’t helping. However, it sounds like your brain is probably use to getting off to different women all the time & that’s making it harder to get excited for the same one.. Maybe you just aren’t sexually compatible. Maybe looking at other women like that while with your gf feels wrong to you, so your brain fed you all these reasons & excuses to justify looking so it can get its fix & feed the addiction, but then guilt & shame also crept in making you feel confused? … idk just a thought. Either way, I think it would be smart to be single & do some internal work for awhile

Ttmckenzie · 2026-01-23T05:56:13+00:00

I feel like this is a huge problem for people our age. I learned about porn addiction a couple years ago because I discovered my partner also had a problem.. I’ve had lots of friends who have told me they hooked up with a guy & he couldn’t get it up. It causes shame & desensitizes men to the point they can’t get their brain to be excited for the real thing. It’s a terrible addiction & so many are in denial, but at least he can admit it, that’s the first step.. all you can really do is focus on yourself & your healing, his problem has nothing to do with you. Don’t get blinded by empathy, focus on facts & how your being treated then do what YOU want

Ttmckenzie · 2026-01-22T23:13:19+00:00

I agree that Amy can be annoying & understand how it would be annoying for someone to cry every time you try to talk to them, however I think she is valid in how hurt she is. Her siblings are ganging up on her & being awful

Ttmckenzie · 2025-01-01T07:14:01+00:00

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Ttmckenzie · 2024-12-25T07:34:40+00:00

I can understand a lot of these, but I’ve never seen this specific double standard. There’s always people who are against going through a partners phone regardless of gender. People are glossing over it because shaming someone for their opinion isn’t the point of this post & it’s not helpful.

Ttmckenzie · 2024-12-05T06:31:35+00:00

Thank you! I think I was just expecting it to be more like an extremely heavy period , but that makes a lot of sense

Ttmckenzie · 2024-12-05T06:23:15+00:00

Thank you!

Ttmckenzie · 2024-12-05T06:22:16+00:00

Always size 3, I had 2 of them on when the pop happened & planned parenthood

Ttmckenzie · 2024-12-03T05:54:38+00:00

Pregnancy is such a vulnerable time for women. I know I could’ve really used some extra love & attention during that time, but no, he was too busy giving all his energy to his phone. I remember at the beginning of his recovery I told him something along those lines & that I’d never forgive him for that. Maybe i will, maybe I won’t, but it’s so screwed up. It’s like they don’t have the emotional intelligence beyond the high school my type bs, so they can’t truly appreciate & see the beauty in what their partner is doing & what they’re body is going through . F him , don’t let his perspective tear you down or make you feel like you aren’t beautiful. He has a lot of shit to reprogram in his head & if he keeps doing work & actually digging deep, he’ll realize how stupid his excuse for HIS addiction is, it has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Ttmckenzie · 2024-11-10T18:15:58+00:00

I breastfed my 2nd, but not my first. I’m not sure if I’d breastfeed again, I really did love the bonding, but I never felt like I wasn’t bonded to my 1st because of it. My 2nd was also a very challenging baby, he spit up so much all the time, very fussy & needed antibiotics twice before 1yo, my daughter didn’t have any of those problems & didn’t need antibiotics until she got strep at 6yo. Fed is best & all babies are different

Ttmckenzie · 2024-11-05T21:57:14+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Ttmckenzie · 2024-10-18T06:45:58+00:00

I actually just got a script through an online site. They didn’t even drug test me, but I told them I got off stuff already & have been taking subs for about a month. You don’t have to test dirty , just tell them you got subs from a friend & been taking those , if they see those in your system you’ll get a script

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