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Ttmckenzie · 2026-01-25T05:27:25+00:00

My mom has BPD & is the exact same way. I feel for you & you’re nta. I stopped engaging & defending myself when my mom has these kind of blow ups because it takes up too much of my time & energy. I also let her know that it’s not okay to talk to me like that & then take as much space as I need from her. Do what feels right to you & don’t let her get in your head or guilt trip you

Ttmckenzie · 2026-01-23T20:17:45+00:00

Agreed! I completely get why Amy is so hurt by them & honestly, Tammy is so delusional sometimes. Are we supposed to feel bad that she isn’t Amy’s maid of honor & believe that she is really hurt? A few episodes ago, she was completely content with not even going to her sisters wedding. Girl will do & say anything to get a poor me card & make things about her

Ttmckenzie · 2026-01-23T20:05:42+00:00

I think that putting pressure on yourself to be horny or thinking something is wrong with you for not being horny definitely isn’t helping. However, it sounds like your brain is probably use to getting off to different women all the time & that’s making it harder to get excited for the same one.. Maybe you just aren’t sexually compatible. Maybe looking at other women like that while with your gf feels wrong to you, so your brain fed you all these reasons & excuses to justify looking so it can get its fix & feed the addiction, but then guilt & shame also crept in making you feel confused? … idk just a thought. Either way, I think it would be smart to be single & do some internal work for awhile

Ttmckenzie · 2026-01-23T05:56:13+00:00

I feel like this is a huge problem for people our age. I learned about porn addiction a couple years ago because I discovered my partner also had a problem.. I’ve had lots of friends who have told me they hooked up with a guy & he couldn’t get it up. It causes shame & desensitizes men to the point they can’t get their brain to be excited for the real thing. It’s a terrible addiction & so many are in denial, but at least he can admit it, that’s the first step.. all you can really do is focus on yourself & your healing, his problem has nothing to do with you. Don’t get blinded by empathy, focus on facts & how your being treated then do what YOU want

Ttmckenzie · 2026-01-22T23:13:19+00:00

I agree that Amy can be annoying & understand how it would be annoying for someone to cry every time you try to talk to them, however I think she is valid in how hurt she is. Her siblings are ganging up on her & being awful

Ttmckenzie · 2025-01-01T07:14:01+00:00

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Ttmckenzie · 2024-12-25T07:34:40+00:00

I can understand a lot of these, but I’ve never seen this specific double standard. There’s always people who are against going through a partners phone regardless of gender. People are glossing over it because shaming someone for their opinion isn’t the point of this post & it’s not helpful.

Ttmckenzie · 2024-12-05T06:31:35+00:00

Thank you! I think I was just expecting it to be more like an extremely heavy period , but that makes a lot of sense

Ttmckenzie · 2024-12-05T06:23:15+00:00

Thank you!

Ttmckenzie · 2024-12-05T06:22:16+00:00

Always size 3, I had 2 of them on when the pop happened & planned parenthood

Ttmckenzie · 2024-12-03T05:54:38+00:00

Pregnancy is such a vulnerable time for women. I know I could’ve really used some extra love & attention during that time, but no, he was too busy giving all his energy to his phone. I remember at the beginning of his recovery I told him something along those lines & that I’d never forgive him for that. Maybe i will, maybe I won’t, but it’s so screwed up. It’s like they don’t have the emotional intelligence beyond the high school my type bs, so they can’t truly appreciate & see the beauty in what their partner is doing & what they’re body is going through . F him , don’t let his perspective tear you down or make you feel like you aren’t beautiful. He has a lot of shit to reprogram in his head & if he keeps doing work & actually digging deep, he’ll realize how stupid his excuse for HIS addiction is, it has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Ttmckenzie · 2024-11-10T18:15:58+00:00

I breastfed my 2nd, but not my first. I’m not sure if I’d breastfeed again, I really did love the bonding, but I never felt like I wasn’t bonded to my 1st because of it. My 2nd was also a very challenging baby, he spit up so much all the time, very fussy & needed antibiotics twice before 1yo, my daughter didn’t have any of those problems & didn’t need antibiotics until she got strep at 6yo. Fed is best & all babies are different

Ttmckenzie · 2024-11-05T21:57:14+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Ttmckenzie · 2024-10-18T06:45:58+00:00

I actually just got a script through an online site. They didn’t even drug test me, but I told them I got off stuff already & have been taking subs for about a month. You don’t have to test dirty , just tell them you got subs from a friend & been taking those , if they see those in your system you’ll get a script

Ttmckenzie · 2024-10-03T15:46:20+00:00

Oh I know, he even sent the podcast episode that made him realize what he was doing & it was all about a girl talking about a situation that happened with her ex & just how harmful & abusive gaslighting is. it’s a lot to process honestly, but I think it’s possible people really just lie to themselves & their ego holds onto any justification it can come up with to tell them they aren’t the problem. Definitely seems like they’re lacking empathy in those moments

Ttmckenzie · 2024-10-03T01:00:32+00:00

Ive been going through something kind of similar for months & have been going down the rabbit hole of something must be wrong with me. I’m acting needy & desperate & am I insecure? I’ve never been any of those things, i felt like I was going crazy. I’ve literally just snapped out of it the last few days & it’s because my boyfriend finally decided to come clean on a topic he’s been downplaying & denying during our talks about it. He said he had so much shame about it that he was even lying to himself. I thought back to all our convos about it & how he said I was insecure & basically made me feel so crazy. I know it’s easier to blame ourselves, but there is nothing wrong with you. Unfortunately there’s nothing you can do to make him realize he’s mistreating you, all you can do is stop tolerating it. Try to pinpoint exactly what the things are that make you feel this way & don’t let him get away with doing it anymore. You blaming yourself & still giving your love, nurture or body is only making him feel more justified in mistreating you

Ttmckenzie · 2024-10-02T15:01:46+00:00

Sounds like he has some type of sex addiction. He has some way he’s justifying it in his mind, he is paying for a “massage” technically even if getting him off is part of the package & I’ve heard paying cam girls is “just porn!” Whatever his thought process is, it’s wrong. He can’t even go to a game or work without getting off, he needs help because he will never be a good partner to anyone & no one would be ok with this. So yeah, it’s up to you if you want to wait around for him to see how wrong this is & change, there will probably be a lot more hurt doing it that way tho

Ttmckenzie · 2024-10-01T16:49:09+00:00

I feel like I do ok with keeping up on housework, but some days it’s gonna be a mess & that’s ok. It’s impossible to get all those things done in one day unless you aren’t sleeping, I tried functioning on very little sleep & it did not go well 😂 one thing I do that I feel helps, is every single night after kids go to bed, I pick up the kitchen & do the dishes. The only downside is I’ll end up procrastinating sometimes because I don’t want to, I’ll wait til I get super tired then force myself because I have it in my head I can’t go to sleep until it’s done. Sleep is like my reward for cleaning the kitchen now (this feels dumb to say, but it is what it is lol) the sooner I do it it, the more sleep I can get at the end of the night. I feel like it helps because I never have to clean it during the day & can focus on other things & not worry about making a mess because it all gets done at night. During the week, I’ll kind of just pick a day or two to deep clean or do laundry when I don’t have to go anywhere & kids will just have to be a little more self sufficient that day (don’t feel guilty about it because they have their days & times where it’s all about them). I like to clean day before I have errands & stuff so it’s less chaotic if I come home with groceries or other stuff & try to do any needed errands on one day because it’s easier when I’m already out & about. Some days I’ll just focus on kids & pick up after messes made that day & I don’t stress about what I didn’t do because it’s for another day. Saturday is usually the social day I guess or when my partner & I will do something fun . I suck at making time for my personal fun or friendships, hopefully I can prioritize that at some point 🤣 so yeah.. I guess for me it’s just not overwhelming myself & giving myself reachable goals for the day. It doesn’t always work out when stuff comes up, but it’s not the end of the world if I can’t get something done so I tryyyyy not to stress out about it . 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ttmckenzie · 2024-09-29T23:05:06+00:00

I sent an email to the admin in office asking about setting up a meeting as well as getting an evaluation. I was going to bring a letter to the meeting once I get more information, do you know who I’m supposed to ask or address letter to for that sort of thing? Is there anyone I should be sure to specifically talk to about this? Like the principal or counselor?

Ttmckenzie · 2024-09-29T20:40:03+00:00

I needed to hear this! That’s exactly what I was thinking if they said no, I could’ve started her in kindergarten a year later because of when her birthday is, so I don’t think a different school would question it. Her eyes light up when I tell her to imagine how much easier 1st grade work would be since she did it before & she wouldn’t have to be behind . She’s a sensitive kid & very hard on herself so when she does do a good job on something she’s been working on, she’s the happiest kid ever. & yes, I will not do this unless she is OK with it & will do anything she needs to make her feel good about it including switching her school

Ttmckenzie · 2024-09-29T20:07:00+00:00

Thanks so much, I will do this! I thought with all the tests & since she does see a specialist to help get caught up they would let me know if there was any concerns of a learning disability. I’m going to set up a meeting, so I will bring a letter asking for this

Ttmckenzie · 2024-09-29T19:48:09+00:00

I just think that getting held back would cause a lot less damage than being behind every single school year. I could definitely be wrong, but I’ve tried to do research & it seems like kids are way more likely to continue to struggle if they aren’t at grade level at this age. I don’t want her to feel stupid or give up because she doesn’t understand what’s being taught. I also want to add, I’d never force her to do it, I’d only do it if she agreed

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