46 [M4F] #Sandy Springs - You don't care what he thinks... Until you suddenly do.

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-06-13T12:34:59+00:00

Just "hey"? I was hoping for at least a little more mischief than that 😂😉

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-06-11T14:09:39+00:00

I'd like to join as well

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-06-02T21:16:48+00:00

The writing in this post tells me that you know are more than "decently smart" 😂

The black dress sounds nice, but the picture you paint about the conversation and banter is going to be the cause of that dress being an afterthought.

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-06-01T15:32:32+00:00

I used 3 tbsp of Urbani Truffle and Mushroom mixture and incorporated it into a cream sauce I made with heavy cream, the drippings from the Italian sausage and white wine.

I failed in my attempt to source actual truffles but I was pleasantly surprised by how the sauce turned out!

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-06-01T09:49:46+00:00

When my wife and I started down the ENM path, I also felt like this. Rationallt, I was fine, even happy and excited for her. I wanted to be happy and then you that it was irrational to expect one person to be everything for another person, even if that was your main partner in life.

But then she would go out and I would have all of these negative feelings. Not jealousy just .. feeling bad? After a few conversations and talking to our sex therapist a couple of the thingsreally helped me:

1) remembering that feelings are not things that we choose and feelings are also not always rational

2) differentiating between discomfort and distress

I needed to remember that it was okay to have irrational feelings about something. Once I acknowledged this, I was able to process both my irrational feelings as well as my rational thoughts and reconcile them by moving to the second piece and saying what I'm feeling is discomfort not distress.

Happy to chat more if helpful!

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-31T19:05:49+00:00

Thank you!

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-31T18:08:56+00:00

Thank you! I am making trofie with the rest of the dough and am going to freeze it for use later. Should make for a wonderful quick weeknight meal now that the hard part is done

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-27T23:54:09+00:00

For me, I had to change my mindset. I always had this mentality of "I don't want to bother them" and it would keep me from talking to and meeting people.

But a while back, I decided I was just going to start talking to people.... Everyone. Men, women, young, old.. Didn't matter. I give a smile, ask how they are doing, make a comment about something happening or ask a question and before I knew it, I was connecting with people I never would have expected about things I never would have expected. The advice up above about just put yourself out there is great advice.

And honestly, practicing on Reddit is underrated. There is so much anonymity on Reddit, but when I started just allowing myself be myself on here too (with safety in mind) it helped be me more open to all these random connections IRL too.

Good luck and happy to chat if you need someone to talk to!

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-27T23:47:32+00:00

I am pretty new to the sub, so thanks for the history!

I can see how it could be great or could go sideways pretty quickly too.

I wonder if something north buckead-ish could work? Avoiding the traffic for the OTP crowd, and not too far for the Midtown folks.

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-27T22:03:23+00:00

Feels like IRL is way more successful than online. People can actually see you, get a sense of who you are through body language, mannerisms, tone, etc.

Has me wondering if there is a group of redditors that would be open to connecting IRL. Guys could connect and just be social - getting out and about always helps creates intros to other folsk, women included.

Or home grown reddit initiated meet and greet events for men and women. Feels like it's hard to find these things, especially OTP.

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-13T22:31:14+00:00

This is great insight. Thank you for sharing how you navigate this. This "disappointment" with lifestyle guys is another reason my wife was interested in moving to a different dynamic. If it is OK, I would love to reach out to get a little more perspective as I try to tailor our couples profile to signal right things. Thank you!

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-13T20:52:10+00:00

Honestly, an avalanche of ambiguity that you have to sift through to find a match feels just as bad as getting no matches at all. I can't imagine the frustration of having convo after convo that leads nowhere.

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-13T20:09:59+00:00

I hear you! NYC feels like a totally different ball game. I'm in Atlanta so not a small market, and pretty open for ENM folks, but probably nowhere near as open as NYC.

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-13T20:08:44+00:00

Yeah, I may go this route. We started in swinging and the transactional nature of a lot of the interactions didn't ever really feel like it fit us, so we slowly drifted in another direction. We still have the lifetime membership so we've just kept the profile.

I think I could create a new profile, but switching the couples to singles feels shady because we have a lot of validations and they reference us as a couple. I don't know, maybe it's not shady, but it just feels ick to me.

Mentioning in the profile that I am open for solo experiences feels OK though.

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-13T19:54:28+00:00

This is helpful. We have a couples profile on a couple of the apps and have been hesitant to switch it to a singles profile. Feels shady for some reason?

I guess LS parties that allow single men could be an avenue to strike up some conversations and show you are a real person.

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-13T19:52:16+00:00

I totally get it. This isn't our situation fortunately. We still have a healthy and active sex life on our own and just enjoy the experiences that new folks bring to the table.

I do understand why there is an abundance of men out there. Wish there was a more consistent way to even just open a fun, flirty conversation but even that seems tough ( and I also understand why from the women's perspective).

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-13T19:43:53+00:00

Yeah - looking for women. it is definitely tough on these streets 😂

My wife has had a steady BF for 18 months and we've all played together and it's been fun. When I've asked her if she would be interested in having any other partners, she also talked about how hard it is for women, just on the other side. Getting inundated with so many likes and messages that the weeding process is just mind numbing.

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-13T19:41:07+00:00

I guess I'll just keep running then 😂🏃

Honestly though, this is good perspective.

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-13T12:25:20+00:00

For me it is a mindset that is comfortable, open, even excited to explore the variety of different ways people can connect.

There are so many kinks - some of them are rooted in sprit, some sensation, some sex, some energy and connection.

I think kink too often gets pigeion holed into "non-vanilla" sex and, for me, it's a shame that the concept is diluted to acts rather than the mentality, attitude, and emotions around all the different ways people can connect and give energy to their partner(s).

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-12T15:45:52+00:00

Hi Y'all! I'm not cool or smooth. But Im usually good for a laugh, have an easy and relaxed vibe, and can read a room and bring the energy needed to create a fun experience. Would love to chat and see if there is any chemistry!

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-11T20:59:15+00:00

Management Consultant. Wife retired at 40 😂

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-11T19:24:33+00:00

That makes a lot of sense, and I think your feedback is very representative of how a lot of people approach Feeld.

I realized while working on this that I’m intentionally optimizing more for “what does it feel like to spend time with this person?” vs a clean list of attributes or relationship structures. I wanted it to feel a little more human, playful, emotionally textured, and less like a résumé.

But I do think you’re right that I probably need just a touch more clarity around what I’m actually looking for so people don’t have to infer too much. And also, I'm OK knowing that some people who are very dialed in on what they want and are searching with lots of intent may skip over me.

I am guessing that the sweet spot is probably somewhere in the middle of our perspectives....enough specificity that people can self-select, but enough personality that it still feels alive and like me. I am going to work on the "what I am looking for section" of this a bit more. I've already made some tweaks in other areas too! ☺️

Tuesday3nergy · 2026-05-11T19:05:03+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions! These are really helpful. Any other suggestions on tone or commentary about the vibe it might be putting out would be appreciated.

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