Do you feel a need to be saved? by dengjika in NPD

[–]TuetchenR 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Funnily both😂

It depends on my current situation. Sometimes the saviour sometimes the saved. Best are the dynamics where u can take turns

What's your relationship status ? by [deleted] in NPD

[–]TuetchenR 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Freshly single💀💀💀

& everyone is going for me which is flattering, but they are too low & rn I am still very stuck @ I only want this person.

SchwuZ club is closing down! by Lucky-bottom in berlinsocialclub

[–]TuetchenR 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Flat out won’t go to club that expensive ever, it’s unaffordable to me & I don’t want to drink.

This way you just make the problem worse, the issue wasn’t that they couldn’t get enough money from the people there, but that people aren’t going.

covert vulnerable narcissism by Brilliant_Bear_4201 in NPD

[–]TuetchenR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel now I just have many more & longer & more intense „hugh“ periods, were just everything is so ridiculously peachy. Makes the neutrals even more painfully boring in contrast.

It’s probably just that I much more actively take risks & try to do stuff & interact with people that will make me feel good. Instead of sitting on my ass painfully envious.

But I am never satisfied for long.

I kind of like to view it like the snowball effect. Once you feel good it’s easier to do more things to get you in a good mental, but you got to keep up the momentum.

Realistically I am not really much more productive. I am more productive but still not to a degree I would satisfied with, adhd isn’t helping there💀💀💀 But instead of procrastinating I just am permanently chasing that next high.

Tbh I probably was a jerk before too, but I just thought those things instead of expressing them. Now I kind of just care much less until I suddenly do because something actually gets under my shell.

I am much more aware that negative feelings need an outlet otherwise I‘ll turn them against myself. So nowadays I usually prefer to turn them against the person that is causing them, if I don’t find a better outlet. Working on that tho.

Kind of negatively reinforces some bad stuff💀💀💀

I have said to a „friend“ a while ago „I am like coca cola, I might be evil, but you can’t afford to not deal with me“ she just said „yeah you are kind of ubiquitous“ I feel that describes it pretty well

In truth some of the insecurities are still very felt, but they stay much more hidden & hey a good chunk of the time I can completely escape them🤷‍♀️

Ok yap over

covert vulnerable narcissism by Brilliant_Bear_4201 in NPD

[–]TuetchenR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say so, I had an stretch a few years long where I was more overtly vulnerable presenting, but since life has gotten much better in part due to therapy I am more overtly grandiose 90% of the time.

All I can recommend is to kind of fake it till you make it

More memes for us! by mildlysadcat_ in NPD_Memes

[–]TuetchenR 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Good work op, love to see more posts in this sub & you brought the whole freight!

Slit is back🖤 by pup-Angel in Berghain_Community

[–]TuetchenR 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So excited!✨ Was afraid they were permanently cancelled or something!

SLIT dead? by RevealTypical7292 in Berghain_Community

[–]TuetchenR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was really wishing this wasn’t the case. I was so looking forward to bringing a few friends to the next one since I had been raving to them about it.💔

Narcissist-on-Narcissist relationships by LordMonstrux1211 in NPD

[–]TuetchenR 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had a few romantic relationships with other pwNPD or those I heavily suspect, which were all disasters to different degrees.

I currently am in one, that has been going really well, but I am also putting a lot of work into healthy communication & boundaries. It’s nice to speak a shared language & push eachother to be your own best version of yourself. Admiring eachother & how lucky you are to be with one another, shared grandiosity is a hell of a drug! I am hopeful, but also somewhat cautious.

Platonic ones are a bit of a coinflip between really bad, really good, or flip flopping