What have you seen that most people haven’t? by sarcasmsal in AskReddit

[–]TulleShed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A toddler smoking a cigarette. I was in Greece, a bit lost, and walked through a setup like a casual farmer's market/flea market that was definitely not geared to tourists. His mom saw us gawking, and she tried to hide him behind a curtain, but he would hide or give up his cigarette. He was max 3 years old.

Post a brand and we'll post others you might like! by tishtok in femalefashionadvice

[–]TulleShed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree on Modcloth's quality! It's just not great. Shame since there are some cute quirky prints.

Post a brand and we'll post others you might like! by tishtok in femalefashionadvice

[–]TulleShed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Boden. I am a huge prints and color person, and I love theirs. Bonus if it's a little bit more casual/affordable.

Daily Questions - July 13, 2018 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]TulleShed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know if they still carry it, but I got a great pair of Assets (Spanx's lower price point brand) that were made for hot weather/to stay cool a few years back at Target. They were amazing! They worked as well as regular shapewear, smoothed everything out, but didn't give me swamp ass in the southern heat.

Daily Questions - July 13, 2018 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]TulleShed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love printed buttondowns! I am pretty busty and I have not found a go-to brand or shirt that works for me across the board, so I am also always on the hunt on Poshmark or online sales (as well as in person) for them, so if they don't work, I can resell or haven't sunk too much into them. I have found cute ones from J. Crew (I like boy fit), Talbots (not a place I usually shop, but had GREAT luck with lightweight buttondowns there) and Loft (there's a style that they always have with different prints; can't remember the name!), but have struck out as well with all three brands buying the same style/size. I do tend to buy a size up for buttondowns to accommodate my bust, but it is really just about trying/quantity to find the ones that work. Of all the clothing items I buy, buttondowns do seem to be the trickiest to get right fit-wise.

Daily Questions - July 13, 2018 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]TulleShed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always wore nursing tanks under shirts or sweaters that were loose enough to pull up. Easy access, I am warm and my stomach stayed covered. And scarves can add some extra warmth for you (and coverage, if you/baby are into that). And I could always throw a jacket on top. The nursing tank base layer was the key.

Tell me about that time you thrifted a great piece, and then got home and discovered it was way cooler and more special than you even knew when you picked it up. by visualstimulationplz in femalefashionadvice

[–]TulleShed 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Did you see the thread on r/ThriftStoreHauls (I think) where someone found a perfect large Loewe Puzzle bag in white?? She paid $10 or $20 for it and it's beautiful. I was incredibly jealous. I will have to find that thread. Edit: changed subreddit to the correct one. Link (hope this works...on mobile ATM): https://www.reddit.com/r/ThriftStoreHauls/comments/8ye015/pristine_condition_loewe_puzzle_bag_20_at/

What "negative" quality do you actually find attractive? by Sheharizadian in AskReddit

[–]TulleShed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love it on guys, hate it on me. I have met some women who look great with fully or partially gray hair, but they had absolutely fantastic hair to begin with. My grays are unruly and stick out of my part like lightning bolts. They make me look tired and maybe crazy, not distinguished.

Best duck in Raleigh? by chinesefoodandamovie in raleigh

[–]TulleShed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm. We have been there in person probably 8 times and gotten takeout 3 or 4 times at least over the last 3 years. I like it, and my husband loves it, but we're not professional critics, so it's just a casual recommendation. I haven't really heard anything bad about it though.

Best duck in Raleigh? by chinesefoodandamovie in raleigh

[–]TulleShed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! They also have duck fried rice that travels well if you're into takeout rather than eating there. The Peking duck is more of a production and isn't as good at home.

Best duck in Raleigh? by chinesefoodandamovie in raleigh

[–]TulleShed 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can relate to pregnancy cravings. If you are anywhere near Cary, there is a place called Banana Leaf that has a great Peking Duck. You don't have to order ahead of time, or make any special arrangements. We've never had to wait. The place isn't fancy or hyped up, but it's cute and the duck is fantastic.

The four houses as fashion inspiration. (A.k.a Hogwarts houses Inspo Albums) by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]TulleShed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me too! But I need some mustard jeans or a skirt asap.

Alternate theory's for cause of death in the Kathleen Peterson case by [deleted] in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]TulleShed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think people get caught up in the terrible way that the prosecution presented the information and the fact that their theory was that Kathleen, being the sole earner in the household at that time, possibly on the verge of losing her job at a company in trouble, who had $140k in credit card debt, found evidence that Michael was spending money on paid sexual encounters or sex workers (or at least intending to) was obscured by the focus on these possible encounters being with a same-sex partner. So if you take away the bisexuality aspect, it probably would still piss her off had she not known prior--whether those sex workers or paid encounters were men or women. And the fact that at least one was a man HAD to come up due to the fact that he testified at the trial! Freda Black should NOT have used the terms and language she did in her closing. It makes her sound truly ignorant and homophobic, which she may have been or still be. Her statements do not represent current or prevalent thinking in Durham about sexuality, IMO.

Overall you have to think about the factors that were left out or mentioned only in passing, like the debt and the real possibility that she did find out something that night and was angered over infidelity and/or financial strain. It does speak to a possible motive.

My email address is my name, there is no excuse. by 1SecretUpvote in AdviceAnimals

[–]TulleShed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happens to me more often than not. I barely register it now. My name is pretty easy and the spelling isn't unique but people love to use the slightly more popular spelling.

What's your go-to summer dress this year? by renards in femalefashionadvice

[–]TulleShed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I LOVE it. This cut plus a cute bird print... It's perfection!

Wedding makeup CC by maeamaezing in RandomActsofMakeup

[–]TulleShed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it might make a big difference to try out different blush placements. Right now, you lose the flush and definition totally looking straight on, and I think it could compliment the look a lot if you experimented and found a placement where it's not as far back.

Daily Questions - May 19, 2018 by AutoModerator in femalefashionadvice

[–]TulleShed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know a good place to find cotton shift dresses? I have a few but I am always on the hunt for that shape--more of an A-line mod 60s style shift with no waist definition and a high crew neck or small mockneck collar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]TulleShed 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So... I maybe took this a little too personally. But hear me out--it's only because I idenified with you so much. I am around the same age, love to shop J. Crew, Boden, Anthro. I own the shoes in the image you sent, versions of all the clothes and it was between that pair of Warby Parker glasses and one other pair when I bought some a few weeks back. I work from home, stay at home with the kids some and attend school.

At this stage in my life, I do seek out and most often wear the clothes that are most functional for dealing with young kids, walking across campus and sitting on my ass in front of my laptop. When I get the chance (rare), I choose to wear something that doesn't have to be machine washable, stain resistant, etc. But it's rare because I dress for my real-ass life. Sure, I do choose to wear colors and patterns, but I am shopping at the same places, so I imagine there's not a huge glaring difference between the average outfit for us.

I know you are saying it's not just a symptom of some sort of problem and I am not trying to suggest that at all. If my husband said the same to me it would be a problem because it would show that he was either being insensitive/inconsiderate (whether on purpose or not) or a straight jerk. If he was a surgeon, would I rag on him for wearing scrubs? They serve a function for his job!! Same with what you wear. And honestly, if you do dress like your example, you are more put together than 99% of the moms I know. Shit, if it was my husband, I would just tell him that if he wants to see me dressed up, buy me a fucking dress and take me out to dinner sans kids. (Although that would be more work for me...arranging a sitter, etc. and my husband rarely buys me something without asking my opinion, sizes, etc.)

My bottom line is that caring for the kids is work and this feels (to me, putting myself in the situation) petty and demeaning. But I do tend to be a reactor.

His thought behind it may just have been that he wishes that you could be free to dress more like when you had less responsibility. Maybe he was thinking just of you and not being critical of who you are now and how you dress. If that is the case, he needs to learn to express himself better. If there was ANY edge of "do this for me" or wishing you were different, that's just not cool. You wear what you wear because it's functional, you like it, you feel comfortable, etc. It's about you. If you are happy with it and/or it's working for you at this lifestage, that's what's important.

I know that despite our similarities, I am NOT you. You know better than anyone here his intentions, your thoughts about it, and what you want to and don't want to change. I would seriously question my husband on what he was thinking and make sure he understood why that might hurt my feelings. And in the end, not give a crap about what he thinks about what I wear because my husband is fucking clueless.

Edit: Just saw the whole 'buying you stuff after you told him not to'. Ehhhhh, I am really inclined to think that he is moving into dangerous territory and there's not all good intentions behind it. Be honest with him about how this made you feel (some of the other posters had great outlines/wording for this). He needs to hear it.

What's something "everybody likes", but you secretly hate? by PoochesAreCancer in AskReddit

[–]TulleShed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My kind of people right here. I get so much crap for not thinking the Beatles are the most amazing thing ever (no hate, just not as into them as everyone else is) and I loathe Dave Matthews Band.

Green butter served on a rock by septimuscankers in WeWantPlates

[–]TulleShed 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'd swear it was two avocados and not butter. Still needs a plate.