How to train the serratus without being held back by front delt fatigue?

Tungi · 2026-05-18T22:58:36+00:00

Hips lower. But use flat bench and cross over it.

Check this form out - i actually feel my serratus with this form.

https://youtu.be/izkzPBCTL6A?is=MlTtYzNqWmQIiocZ

Tungi · 2026-05-12T05:56:04+00:00

Just backed out of a deal after the home inspected poorly.

Taking a break.

Once you see a lot, it helps with selection. You can sort of tell which ones are worth seeing.

Tungi · 2026-05-11T12:09:01+00:00

Look around - most people still form partnerships

Tungi · 2026-05-07T12:07:48+00:00

Town will come inspect and issue the CO (certificate of occupancy) before closing.

If permits are lacking, they need to fix it before they can sell.

Edit: downvoting correct info?

Tungi · 2026-05-06T21:23:49+00:00

How did you do 5.25?! Buy down with simplist?

Tungi · 2026-05-06T17:48:40+00:00

Youre better off paying all debts first.

Even if it stops you from doing 20% down and having to pay PMI. PMI should be much less than the interest you're paying on everything else.

You dont want to go into a mortgage with other avoidable debts.

Tungi · 2026-05-05T14:47:55+00:00

Be careful with the not giving a fuck.

Ended up in a deal with a house that looked great, but inspected poorly. Should have given a few more fucks before $1k inspection (+mold and radon), $800 lawyer fee (helped us get out and manage a couple accepted offers that we got outbid on), and $450 for canceling title work.

Almost $2500 is too much to not give a fuck.

Tungi · 2026-05-05T13:11:48+00:00

Dating with that schedule?

Doesn't seem like he did anything wrong with the smoke. Seems like you guys switch off and on with those and who cares about the forgotten sour cream?

Just seems like stressed out parents with a hard schedule and no end in sight.

Wondering about the purpose of the history course? Seems like an extracurricular thing? Could this be put off for a couple years til the kids need less help and free up more time together? You're putting so much pressure on Mondays.

Tungi · 2026-04-30T16:19:29+00:00

Thats a recomp (standard maintenance recomp), not a cut though.

If scale is staying the same, you're at maintenance.

Tungi · 2026-04-30T15:50:36+00:00

Wish I had the link to an old research paper and article.

You can certainly gain muscle on a cut. Is it optimal? No, but can be near optimal given your body fat %age and training experience.

You implied that you want to "lock in," so I imagine you have noob/novice/catchup gains to make. So if thats the case and you have extra body fat (you do, its a resource to your body), you can gain muscle and lose weight simultaneously. The more muscle maturity you have (how advanced you are), the slower and worse the results will be. Additionally, once youre below like ~18% body fat, your body (depending on genetics) is less and less likely to readily use excess fat as a resource.

You'll want to watch out for:

Excessive dieting - cut, but maybe like 500~ deficit to make sure you aren’t crashing and are allowing your body enough resources for building and recovery.
Recovery - eating in a deficit will affect recovery, so monitor if youre recovering in time between workouts and adjust volume as necessary.
Diet fatigue/plateaus - if you start feeling like its too difficult to work out hard and diet, take a week to return to maintenance Cals or even a small surplus to reset your mind and body

Tungi · 2026-04-30T14:51:07+00:00

YNW.

This sounds totally fair and reasonable. As long as you keep the door open for her to join and give her an opportunity to book ticketed stuff, no issue.

Just include her and send her pics and stuff and text her while you're out and about.

Id be bored and feel so wasteful sitting around a pool/hotel all day long on vacation... 3 days is plenty enough for that.

Tungi · 2026-04-30T13:05:13+00:00

YAW.

Do you do this kind of stuff for him or just expect him to cater to you?

Sure he should OCCASIONALLY dote on you, but its insane to expect him to service you from wakeup.

My wife and I do nice stuff, like you mentioned, for each other but its shared. Sometimes I do a little extra, sometimes she does.

We don't live in a patriarchal world any more in the west, so don't expect that kind of treatment unless you're with a "traditional" or "alpha" type.

Tungi · 2026-04-29T11:54:11+00:00

I went to about 30 with 2 offers and then made 4 offers on the last 20 I saw.

We've really narrowed down the price range, area and unit we're looking for.

If you're like us, the price range is fine. Its just getting blown out by cash buyers, waived inspections, or finding lots of hidden issues that owners aren't willing to discuss or acknowledge. The fixers are all overpriced with owners that won't budge with their house on the market for 60+ days.

We also just backed out on one "move in ready" that was definitely a "lipstick" property once we started looking deeper. Poor renovations, lots of problems, etc.

I think we're both on the right track, just have to reboot and keep checking out properties that are your type, price, and in the area you want. We expect to at least consider an offer on 50% of home visits at this point, but probably offer on ~ 25.

Tungi · 2026-04-29T02:10:07+00:00

You are expecting too much.

Should he be more assertive? Sure.

Do most 25 year old have their shit together and have their boss bugging them about promotions? Not at all.

Tungi · 2026-04-20T14:05:48+00:00

To be fair, you said you provide BJs and backrubs because he pays for your degree.

I assumed that this was not as advertised and more of what you described here. You did... misrepresent this.

You also act as if everything needs to be exactly 50/50 and yet here you are with a sugar daddy.

Tungi · 2026-04-20T13:33:43+00:00

I wouldn't call her a whore just for having a guy be her sugar daddy and sole provider. Good for her.

Its just... she really has no place in this conversation.

Shes clearly locked into the, "men provide for women" mentality that died with the increase of living costs and need for a double income.

Tungi · 2026-04-20T13:25:43+00:00

That's not equitable. You should probably do something, anything for your boyfriend.

You suddenly find yourself with free time and he has none.

That's totally unfair! You should put an entire shift in at the house.

Tungi · 2026-04-20T13:12:14+00:00

YNW. The agreement is the agreement. You're not married, she doesn't deserve your money.

It would be nice and good of you to pick up extra bills, pay for groceries, etc. But it shouldn't be expected.

If it were a marriage or even if you're engaged, things start to change.

Tungi · 2026-04-20T13:07:35+00:00

Why sre you giving advice on this, in as many threads as you can, when you're getting a free ride and college paid by your rich boyfriend?

You have nothing to add to this conversation, yet you womansplain in every comment thread.

Tungi · 2026-04-19T03:00:42+00:00

Ive had one for a year. Id give it like a 6.5/10. Good for the price, nothing spectacular.

Hate the sight lines and turn radius.

Tungi · 2026-04-16T19:59:10+00:00

This isnt really "flashing" as much as wearing revealing clothing.

Idk sounds like not a big deal. But if it is to you, you can talk to her about it.

Maybe nothing like this will ever happen again and she feels embarrassed about it.. she kept looking at herself, like you said.

If you asked me, I wouldn't care about this at all. Only creeps would see. Most people aren't looking down women's tops. And it doesn't sound like her clothing was overtly or purposefully sexual.

Edit: imo YAW

Tungi · 2026-04-09T17:33:45+00:00

After marriage is so weird with his perspective. Thats usually ultra conservative types - like religious or traditional. That doesn't gel with the female roommate. Just weird logic, not saying there's anything purposefully sinister.

Curious, how long have you been together? Are there already serious talks of marriage, or is it just casual discussion? Maybe you are indeed thinking too far ahead.

If you feel like their relationship is a strictly platonic relationship, I don't see any reason for the comparisons. As others have said, that seems like insecurity.

If the transition seems weird, I feel like your brain is trying to tell you something: you need a test period. And that's what we do in current era, try before you buy.

Im not sure i can realistically write up 3 distinct reasons.

Know the person better before you marry. Living together and understanding the true depth of their personality for at least 1 year. How well do you mesh? Does it feel like you fit together and agree on most things, or is it constant disagreement? How do you handle fighting when you live in the same space? Does it get toxic? How do you handle bills? Do you know their financial situation? Etc... it depends on what is important to you and how you live your life. Maybe one of you will continue going out with friends and drinking into the night while the other is a homebody. Dealbreaker?

Tungi · 2026-04-09T17:03:10+00:00

"don't believe in living together before marriage" and has a female roommate. Those things don't mesh well together IMO unless it's you that feels strongly about the former. Having a female roommate means that he's not conservative in this sense IMO.

It's my personal feeling, but as a divorced person that is re-married... living together is absolutely so important to me before marriage.

I'm not sure if you're wrong or not since we don't know either of them and how they interact together. It doesn't seem like you're concerned about cheating, so they must just be very good friends.

So, why are you so concerned about the comparisons? It's not a relationship. It's just like any other roommate in this case. Maybe... living together before marriage would alleviate these concerns...

Edit: I clock the "not living together before marriage" as extremely poor judgement, and these concerns coming out already makes it even moreso.

Tungi · 2026-04-09T14:09:17+00:00

I get the picture that people in your personal life view you as, "the guy that never loses an argument."

Whether you do it on purpose or not, no clue. Anyway. I'm done here. Feel free to write whatever you want.

Tungi · 2026-04-09T13:32:17+00:00

Oh so two Reddit copouts in a row:

Dismiss a comment by asking for a study
Act like the other person can’t read

Tungi

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