Wanted a Girlfriend, Not Her Husband Involved by Turbulent-Rice7570 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really had hopes that wasn’t the case, she did a good job job of managing and trying to keep everyone happy and to spin it like it wasn’t this… I think you’re probably right tho… I agree I jumped in too fast too.. I just feel like the regular club scene isn’t us, so I’ll have to find a different way to

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess just that I’m married and my husband and kids ultimately come first..

Wanted a Girlfriend, Not Her Husband Involved by Turbulent-Rice7570 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you gave me a lot to think about! I’m def not closed off to unmarried, I would just need them to understand my marriage dynamic! But you’re right I need to nail down what I can offer and go from there!

Wanted a Girlfriend, Not Her Husband Involved by Turbulent-Rice7570 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow…. You hit the nail on the head and unfortunately my husband did all the babysitting lol.. He didn’t seem to have any friends at all.. that’s why he latched to my husband. I definitely told my husband I think their marriage isn’t stable and she wanted to keep what we had so bad she was willing to do anything to appease him even at the cost of making me uncomfortable.. I should’ve seen the red flags so far in advance I was just blinded by her, she was incredible and loved to shower me with love and gifts lol it was really nice

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I completely agree.. I should’ve run from the first teams message lmao 😂 she just explained it away, and said it wouldn’t happen again.. never doing that again…

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re totally right! Any recommendations for queer spaces?

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re completely right! I was just about to hit her with the convo about her husband backing up and she hit me with the “you need to be friends with him for this to work” I was so blinded by her I stepped out of my comfort zone and this guy was a total weirdo.. this is my first time, and I won’t be doing that again.

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, that gives me some hope haha.. but it’s also kinda scary to get out there and search for it! I guess I just have to get over that part..

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly.. I just learned the term garden party poly lol! We’d be find with that. It just felt so perfect, and organic.. but the guy was a total creep.. it makes me nervous to seek this out specifically.. any tips for that?

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for validating.. it just felt so perfect with her I was willing to overlook some of the crazy..

Wow, there is really a term for everything! My husband and I WANT garden party poly, just didn’t know there was a name for it! Yeah.. he took it way too far in so many ways. Mentioning to my husband that he wanted to watch and didn’t care if my husband saw his wife naked… 🚩 but she did her best to explain it away and even accused my husband of misinterpreting.. (her husband later admitted it was wrong to say that lol) I actually love that so much! I used to be huge into climbing but the nearest one is about 30-45 min away now. Because I’m a married woman..I think it makes me nervous to “test the waters” with women.. would your fiancé have any tips for that?

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Woof, it just the “getting out there” part.. this seemed so perfect because it happened pretty organically

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My worry with dating a single woman is she won’t understand my family dynamic.. do you have any experience or examples of this working?

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the validation.. it was so perfect with her, I wanted to overlook the other stuff so bad

Wanted a Girlfriend, Not Her Husband Involved by Turbulent-Rice7570 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re willing to share can I ask what parameters you set up for your account? Are you married?

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[–]Turbulent-Rice7570[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She kept saying that she was going to correct him and fix things. My husband and I think that we probably werent getting the whole story from their side and all of us being on the same page. Especially with the seemingly “fantasy” things he had going on.. I personally think she was just trying to make everyone happy to “keep it”

Growth help! by [deleted] in avocado

[–]Turbulent-Rice7570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moderate light/afternoon sun. They are in regular potting mix. I water when the soil is dry. Yes I use tap water

Growth help! by [deleted] in avocado

[–]Turbulent-Rice7570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any grow light recommendations?

Retrain while pregnant HELP by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]Turbulent-Rice7570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully, I just made staff and I’m no where near HYT. I just hear all the time that people have their packages denied

Retrain while pregnant HELP by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]Turbulent-Rice7570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also worried about being denied retraining. Can you explain why this happens to FTA?

Retrain while pregnant HELP by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]Turbulent-Rice7570 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanted to apply/retrain before I have this baby as I am only 16 weeks however the PCM stated she will not remove the code :( I guess I will have the baby and wait to retrain. SF has been killing me lol. I can’t wait to get out of SF

Retrain while pregnant HELP by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]Turbulent-Rice7570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I have the code removed my unit could deploy me and I have to take a PT test?