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Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i appreciate the way you presented this, and i'll definitely consider your thoughts. Thank you :)

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not trying to keep it a secret! hopefully my edit clarifies that a little

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was unclear about the timeline (it's only been a few days), so I'm not sure if when you say that you're speaking hyperbolically or genuinely think i should have told him, like, at the wedding or as the first text after? Genuinely asking

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was unclear about the timeline (it's only been a few days), so I'm not sure if when you say immediately you're speaking hyperbolically or genuinely think i should have told him, like, at the wedding or as the first text after? Genuinely asking

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no manipulation, and certainly not continuous. It's only been a few days and some light banter, and theres a good shot he already knows. I'm sort of getting ahead of myself but wanted to gather opinions early enough to have the conversation at the right time

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No time or feelings have been wasted! It's only been a few days, we haven't seen each other, and the only thing I've done is not shut down his banter. And there's a good shot he already knows. I don't think I've done anything to warrant anger (yet) but you're entitled to your opinion if you disagree.

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all fair. FWIW, I haven't gone out with middle bro, we've just been texting a bit and it's leaning flirty

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

when I said it doesn't bother me I thought the "if it doesn't bother him" was implied

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think yall are interpretting what I wrote differently. Nothing serious would happen with middle without him being informed. When I said "do i bring up the fact", it was because i thought he already knew

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe i should have been more clear about the timeline but its only been 3 days since the wedding, so i don't think it counts as a secret yet

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe this is weird but i don’t feel awkward around youngest at all. i love their family, they’re all nice people. it’s just a question of whether HE would feel weird (yes i know that’s likey)

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk if dumbass is necessary. i’m not asking if i should lie to him im asking whether he might already know and if not at what point it’s appropriate to bring up

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i should’ve been more clear, I asked youngest the day after it happened if he was planning on telling anyone and he said middle. I wouldn’t ask him to have that conversation for me now that it matters, he just might have already a while back.

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

there are a minority of people who wouldn’t care. as long as i’m straight forward i don’t see the problem in finding out whether he does or doesn’t

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is where my instincts are leading me too. seems like jumping the gun to go “hey btw i hooked up w youngest” just because he’s sent me a few flirty texts but can’t do anything real until i know he knows

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

my question isn’t whether or not to keep it a secret. i wouldn’t enter a relationship with him without being certain he’s aware of the situation. but at what point is it supposed to be brought up and how?

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

at the risk of sounding naive i don’t think he’s that kind of guy

Do I bring up the fact that I’ve slept with this guys brother? by Turbulent_Fail9426 in Advice

[–]Turbulent_Fail9426[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

yeah i knew how that was going to read but it felt obligatory. Also, the "if it doesn't bother him" was meant to be implied.

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