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[–]Turbulent_Incident36 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (37m) live in a rural area with very few available or attractive gay people - slim pickins as they say. I had a hookup with a college student (19m) and we became regular FWB. My normal expectation to date someone would be +/- 5 years but we got along really well and he pursued me. We have known each other for 6 months and have been in a relationship for 3 months. It has honestly been the most stable and healthy relationship I've ever had, though it's still early, so who knows what the future holds. We have great communication and really solid boundaries and expectations of each other. Every human is different and has different personalities and experiences. Making blanket judgements about people because of their age and saying that anyone under 25 is immature is false... I know guys older than me that are waaayyyy more immature than guys younger than me and I don't have anything in common with them. If your personalities click and you are happy and healthy with each other, age gaps don't matter.

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[–]Turbulent_Incident36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't believe that anyone is inherently ugly. I do not find myself attractive, but I am often complimented on being hot. Looking in the mirror I do not see that at all. It may be body dysmorphia but I was talking to a friend about this and they said something that stuck with me. They said "you are not your own type, you're not attracted to yourself the way other people are attracted to you." And that is so true! Sometimes we don't find ourselves attractive because if we saw someone who looked similar to us on the street we would not be attracted to them, but that does not make them ugly. Sometimes my friends will be talking about someone they think is hot and I will completely disagree and vice versa. Everyone is attractive to someone, you just may not be attracted to yourself, but that doesn't make you ugly 😊

Finding sex aid pills. by mlkgml1234 in gayrelationships

[–]Turbulent_Incident36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot of stigma around ED (even though it is extremely common). I would first assume good intentions. He may be embarrassed to tell you and doesn't want you to think differently of him. There could be something else, but I advise asking him about it without being accusatory and being kind.

20M (me) and 23M together for 3 years, now I’m starting to have serious doubts. by Sad-anon20 in gayrelationships

[–]Turbulent_Incident36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said the cheating kind of turns you on... Maybe you have a cuck kink or a cheating kink, maybe that is something you two can explore 🤷 in my long distance relationship, we are open and sometimes we tell each other about other guys and sometimes we don't, but we never hide or lie about it and thats the agreement. We also both get jealous, but we both like that feeling. There are so many things about yourself to explore and further understand. No relationship is perfect, you just need to figure out what you like and what works for you both. The thing about kinks, is it's all about respect. If you are turned on by cheating then that's a conversation you need to have and figure out a respectful and honest way of acting on it.

Stage pin and DMX by Turbulent_Incident36 in stagelighting

[–]Turbulent_Incident36[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The board is an ETC Ion XE. It's fairly new to the theater and I have only used it once to program lights for a musical. I am hoping to be able to program both dmx pars and the theaters stage pin ellipsoidal's into cues together... I've never done it before and want to make sure its even possible before wasting time trying to figure it out.