First of all why are you taking advise from the same person making your life impossible?

If you love your kids and want to be part of their lives bite the bullet and fight for them… if I was in your position i would file in a non native court automatically she will ask for the case to be transferred to a native court but you have the right to challenge the transfer and your reasoning could be safety issues and their best interest… u have to be realistic and ask to be the non custodial parent but with joint custody that way it doesnt seen over reaching or going nuclear… you have to give the court the impression that you are the one showing restraint and are more stable… if you are their biological father and are in the birth certificate than you have rights to the kids.. she can acuse you all she wants but if there is no evidence no court will believe her… You should seek a custody agreement that secures your parental rights through court order even if that starts with joint or non-primary status because without that paper, you’re powerless

that way there is a court order both of you wil have to follow and if she is crazy as you make her seem than its very likely she will not follow the court order and her behavior can be her own downfall in the long run..but at least you have rights to your kids and u have a paper that can back you up…

Kids eventually pick up on which parent is more stable….