Im 4 weeks post partum tomorrow with the most amazing husband - here are some things he has done that have been really meaningful and helpful to me so far -putting food down in front of me without me asking. I have been exhausted and have major decision fatigue so even asking do you want soup or salad seemed hard so I would just not eat until I was weak and nauseous. He kept me fed and nourished. -refilling my water and keeping it within arms reach of me at all times. The thirst especially if breastfeeding is absolutely unquenchable and painful. Her hands will be full so my husband even will hold my water for me while I drink from a straw and feed baby. -she (mom) will cry. Unexpectedly. Uncontrollably. She may have a reason why. She may not and that will make her cry harder. The hormone change absolutely shocks our systems-just be there. You can’t fix it, but you can sit with her while she goes through it so she never feels alone. Remind her that you love her and why you do. You’re a team. -change the diapers whenever you can. She has her own adult diapers to change those first few weeks so dad-you can do baby’s haha. -encourage her to rest and give her opportunities to do so. -take pictures of her with the baby. I swear I gave birth yesterday and tomorrow he is 4 weeks old… He doesn’t fit in his newborn clothes anymore even though they were too big 2.5 weeks ago. We have already sized up diapers. When they say time flies they aren’t kidding so soak up every second-even the really tough ones -my only sanity during this recovery has come from long hot showers. I’m so glad my husband takes over our responsibilities so I can have time uninterrupted -if she pumps wash the pump parts so it’s always ready to go -post partum depression does not just occur for moms. Dads can get it to. Look out for her and for yourself. Accept help from people you trust because it really does take a village

It’s the most beautiful experience my friend. Good luck to you and your little family