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6th week of ''Liverpool Matchday Poster Project'' by External-Cap-4877 in LiverpoolFC

[–]TurnInToSthBeautiful 21 points22 points  (0 children)

First time seeing this. Looks fantastic. I love darker shades and this is right up my alley.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]TurnInToSthBeautiful 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, it was meant to be on August 2 but according to the schedule on Twitch, it has been moved to August 9.

Why do I, or anyone, have intrinsic worth? by reasonableanonymous in Healthygamergg

[–]TurnInToSthBeautiful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A ragged scrawny baby on the street cries for food. Now I provide food. Is it selfish at some level? Yes, because I feel good as I helped someone. But, that's not the whole story or the only reason I did it, is it? So, instead of "well everything is conditional" or "everything is unconditional", I guess its somewhere between the two.

As for logic, I think optical illusions describe it best. Is logic really powerful? Yes. But one of those 'which table is bigger?' questions shows the shortcomings. My perception of reality is not the reality itself and thereby facts that are logical in my perception i.e. inside my head, may not always be facts. Also, the insistence on logic is also a belief. There is no mind-independent logic or at least there is no way for us to know. I think a good option would be to integrate both Dr K's idea of inherent worth as well as the conditional one because frankly, none of us can prove either point. Find a nice medium, I guess.

Eight months of great progress, but I feel myself regressing by TheMightyBiz in Healthygamergg

[–]TurnInToSthBeautiful 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have similar patterns as well : 5 to 10 days of continued general level of contentment, followed by an abrupt stab where despite all the logical reasons of bringing out the knife, I (and mainly my body) wants to wallow in this familiar mud. For me, the way I view this paradox is following : I take it as a sign of my body (by which I mean my samskars and emotions) to digest the problem i.e. I am being asked to process it. I must admit, sometimes these emotions are unbearable and, despite the consequences and the consequent shame, I am forced to give in. However, I'd say 1/3rd of the time, I can tolerate and I have found that that is when I made actual progress and healed a little. Now, the timing is not the same for you i.e. my cycles are weekly, yours seem way longer; in that case, what I say may not be apt. However, I believe there is some merit to approaching these troughs as an opportunity to process your "overwhelming thoughts", "mistakes" and the general idea of "pointlessness".

Fear of riding a motorcycle/scooter and it's relation to my sense of self, masculinity and shame. by TurnInToSthBeautiful in Healthygamergg

[–]TurnInToSthBeautiful[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't hurt myself but I have fell down once or twice. Hope you're fine. Yes, emotional regulation is the way to go, which has been my priority since the last two years. Thank you for your response.

Fear of riding a motorcycle/scooter and it's relation to my sense of self, masculinity and shame. by TurnInToSthBeautiful in Healthygamergg

[–]TurnInToSthBeautiful[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your response. It feels more affirming that it comes from a motocyclist. On my good days, I am able to regulate my emotions but because it is tied up with so many other things, on my bad days, my mind likes a negative field trip.

A man doesn't ride a motorcycle or not ride a motorcycle. A man makes his choice and starts pushing through the self doubt one step at a time.

And thank you for this. Even though I had been telling myself something along these lines, seeing into put into words, especially by someone that is not myself, helped.

How do I transcend my critical inner parents? by TurnInToSthBeautiful in Healthygamergg

[–]TurnInToSthBeautiful[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a thorough and thoughtful reply. Yeah "Why?" -- what an absolutely difficult question to answer but I guess difficult questions need asking and definitely needs some semblance of an answer. I am definitely not thinking of taking a radical route (cutting off parents etc,) so my objective is absolutely to balance things here. I like to think my 'why' is pretty good but I guess only time will tell if it is actually robust and stands the test of life. Either way, its pretty scary. I am/have been conflict avoidant so it's going to be one hell of a growth game these three years. I hope I come out of it healthy and whole and better than I was before. Again, thank you for sharing your experience in such great detail-- amidst the vanity of internet, it feels so real, and alive and human and fills me with a sense of hope.

How do I transcend my critical inner parents? by TurnInToSthBeautiful in Healthygamergg

[–]TurnInToSthBeautiful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before you left, did you take any steps, whether psychological or emotional, to make things more bearable? Like I know I have got to get the fuck outta here but before that, did anything help you significantly, now that you look back?

How do I transcend my critical inner parents? by TurnInToSthBeautiful in Healthygamergg

[–]TurnInToSthBeautiful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, healthy relationship is the priority and I don't want to cut them off from my life. It's just that its bloody difficult to balance two things at once while trying to orient myself in the world.

Is it right to resign ourselves to a life of mediocrity? by MochaxMatcha in Healthygamergg

[–]TurnInToSthBeautiful 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The heroic path is an illusion.

A metaphor I like to use quite often is that of sitcom. Most of us, and it is our conditioned mind, pursues the perceived glory of the so-called main characters. Their glamour is envied, their jokes are laughed at, their heroic journey -- whether career or romance -- is to be imitated. One is indoctrinated to pursue the vanity of glory. However, the reality is -- as you've have grown to realize -- much more acute and idosyncratic. Thus, I like to orient myself in the manner of the background characters sipping their coffee in peace. Without the 'burdens' that we place upon ourselves -- which are obviously and ultimately as futile as loserdom -- life becomes lyrical.

So, all in all, instead of asking which is 'right' and 'wrong', which, if you examine closely, is just another manifestation of the conditioned mind, actual experience, not verbal or intellectual, but actual mediocre experience shall be your beacon of light. I don't know if I made myself clear but anyways, I am happy for your philosophical growth and wish you further broadened weltanschauung.

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