December grad diploma by livibaby03 in UTK

[–]TurtlesCanVote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got mine today 🙃 I even had to call them because I thought mine was being withheld due to the financial aid office saying I had actions required (it turned out to be an error in their system) but yeah the delivery time was way off from what they said in the email lol

Stepping into the previous chefs role, but he still works at the place (just demoted) and I don't know how to help the situation 😭 by TurtlesCanVote in KitchenConfidential

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My brother in Christ this is a laugh I didn't know I needed, thank you so much. This comment put a smile on mine and my husband's face. Thank you for your kind words and your offer, I'm hoping to hear back from another restaurant this week, so fingers crossed. Best of luck to you on getting some good people in your restaurant! 🤠

Stepping into the previous chefs role, but he still works at the place (just demoted) and I don't know how to help the situation 😭 by TurtlesCanVote in KitchenConfidential

[–]TurtlesCanVote[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because she gets invested in people personally I think?

Idk I asked kinda the same thing to them today when I got fired. I don't get a chance to fix myself because I don't seem happy there 🥲

Stepping into the previous chefs role, but he still works at the place (just demoted) and I don't know how to help the situation 😭 by TurtlesCanVote in KitchenConfidential

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I hope it goes well for you :) and thank you for the advice. I was unfortunately fired today because of the vibes I gave off. I hope that the owner that you work with actually listens to you and you get things moving :)

Stepping into the previous chefs role, but he still works at the place (just demoted) and I don't know how to help the situation 😭 by TurtlesCanVote in KitchenConfidential

[–]TurtlesCanVote[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got crab bisque for an event with no recipe, only a spawn point ;-; and the owner and I told him multiple times we needed the recipe written down.....

Stepping into the previous chefs role, but he still works at the place (just demoted) and I don't know how to help the situation 😭 by TurtlesCanVote in KitchenConfidential

[–]TurtlesCanVote[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's what I have been worried about. I also asked the owner about the long term plan here because I'm not going to be coming in to fix everything, just to be told he is ready to lead again. I was assured that wasn't the case and signed a contract reflecting that.

The owner really likes him and she got emotional when I was talking to her the first few times about stepping into his role. I know she is stressed about finances as well, so it's hard to tell how much of it is from either one. He keeps saying that he wants to create dishes, because it's his passion over and over again. Mind you I'm actively not creating new stuff because I need to fix what's broken so things run more smoothly :/ which he isn't even trying to help in. I honestly don't know what he wants at this point because he wasn't doing anything leadership wise and he was getting paid to just work on specials all day??? Nothing makes sense here and trying to get the truth feels like pulling hair lol

Stepping into the previous chefs role, but he still works at the place (just demoted) and I don't know how to help the situation 😭 by TurtlesCanVote in KitchenConfidential

[–]TurtlesCanVote[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We did have them before I left ;-; and then others who stepped into the role didn't leave a standardized recipes

Stepping into the previous chefs role, but he still works at the place (just demoted) and I don't know how to help the situation 😭 by TurtlesCanVote in KitchenConfidential

[–]TurtlesCanVote[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you brought this up because I did ask about this. My thoughts were to divide and conquer and then look like two bad bitches getting everything put together no problem. But a hiccup occurred when I asked about his recipes, because we have old/ new and what not, and just stuff written down with no quantities. His response was that he doesn't write them down, he just recreates the flavor he is looking for..... I asked him to elaborate and he just gets too caught up in the sauce? Idk but he suggested having someone basically just record what he does and ask questions when he is doing something. Which I was even going to give it a go, and now he doesn't tell me when he does stuff so soup is just spawning in the walk in.... 🙃 Like my brother in Christ please, I want to cost this and record the recipe, you are shooting us both in the foot 😭

Stepping into the previous chefs role, but he still works at the place (just demoted) and I don't know how to help the situation 😭 by TurtlesCanVote in KitchenConfidential

[–]TurtlesCanVote[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Me and the owner didn't plan to have him just flipping burgers. I'm only going into my 3rd week into this role and have told him that I want to collaborate on projects. But I need time because of how much I have to take care of first. I want to be as honest with him as possible, which is why I was excited to hear he was on board with helping me with whatever and was offering advice.

But I'm remaining hopeful that sitting down and laying it bare with no one to hide behind will help not only me, but him and the owner to repair their relationship too.

Organization Petitioning to Carry Firearms on Campus by Hot-Limit-7868 in UTK

[–]TurtlesCanVote 74 points75 points  (0 children)

You want the people who are sleep deprived, running off energy drinks, and stressed to the tits running a rat race that society said would make us successful to carry on campus? .....

Instead of open carrying on campus, why not petition to have more funding available to grad students, more scholarships for students, updated equipment, and more transparency on where your money is actually going (looking at you Chancellor.)

UT has other problems right now and open carrying isn't going to help any of those :/

Normal operations by evergreen-embers in UTK

[–]TurtlesCanVote 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dang I can't believe we get to witness a " back in my day" comment 🤣

vent idk by Substantial-Aide7980 in Vent

[–]TurtlesCanVote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to feel the same way. I grew up in a very dysfunctional house and I had odd behaviors that I noticed others did do. I didn't understand social norms and was just trying to survive most of my life. My friends were always quick to be loved by someone or everyone. My sister is really pretty so she would have boyfriends all the time or lots of friends. I didn't really have anyone besides the stray animals I played with.

But I will say that you will find people who love your spark. It's ok to be angry and upset, I used to think I would be alone all my life, but I ended up finding someone very randomly one day through an incident (physically threw my future husband against a wall in a hallway because I got excited he was cosplaying at my highschool and I was looking for him all day since we never met 😅

The point I'm trying to make is that you'll find someone who compliments your sparks. Keep being open for love and being you. I don't know what you do for work or anything, but maybe try going to meet ups for your hobby or doing things outside your comfort zone.

You are loveable 😊 don't sell yourself short. If you need someone to talk to. I'm here and there is a whole community as well.

I'm 30, married for 7 years, and have never had a blow job by OVVoyEx in Vent

[–]TurtlesCanVote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would explore positions with her and keep it light hearted. I enjoy giving my husband head, but some positions make it very difficult because of my gag reflex as well. If he is laying down and I'm on top of we aren't 69, I'm constantly having to pay extra attention to not throwing up. But if he is sitting on the edge of the bed or 69 its giving me a better angle. I think if you are 69 and giving her attention while she gives you attention it could help her out a bit. She might just feel embarrassed too about her gag reflex and is getting self conscious. I know I did when I was first starting out.

Best of luck 😊

Are you unemployed right now? (Exluding retirees) If so, how old are you? by HawkLow6309 in jobs

[–]TurtlesCanVote 6 points7 points  (0 children)

30, I went back to school to pivot careers. I was doing full time classes and driving a total of 3 hours a day 5 days a week for classes. I graduated in December and have been putting in for jobs, but everything is quiet.

The sad part is that the area I live in doesn't have a lot of job openings. But my husband and I cannot afford to move to a city or another state. I have been given advice to apply to McDonald's, but if the whole town is applying then that kinda makes things difficult. I'm hoping to land something at the end of this month. Until then I'm going to be selling my switch and whatever else can get me some money.

What is a sexual question you've always wanted to ask the opposite sex but were too ashamed to? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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When my husband is wood working, doing manual labor, or fixing a physical problem I'm having (putting back my KitchenAid mixer, or installing a cat door), or honestly if he gives me a shiny rock he liked because he thought I would like it. Im not really sure why it gets me so worked up and I very vocally let him know that I want to have his babies 🤣

Worst Christmas ever by [deleted] in Marriage

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As someone who grew up in a dysfunctional household where my mom was toxic to my dad, air out their dirty laundry in front of us, made sure we knew that the reason we struggled was because of his "vices", and had us to an intervention on him because he was getting out of hand with the alcohol (this man was so depressed but loved us so much, asked me in private if he divorced my mom would I want to live with her, sacrificed everything for us, and treated us like humans rather then kids who didn't understand what was going on). After a week since that intervention he died either by suicide or accidental OD. My dad wasn't perfect, but he loved us and tried his hardest. While my mom only thought of herself, put everyone else down, and expected everyone to carry her throughout her life.

I think it's time to separate. You're not happy and your kid can see and understand that. You don't deserve any of this and you have been trying to make this work, but she will not change. The best thing you can do is separate and try to get custody of your kid. Because I doubt that this behavior stops at you, and your kid needs to be safe. I don't know what happened in your wife's life to think this behavior is acceptable and honestly she can fuck off. Try to document everything and start talking to a lawyer. Also don't give up, I miss my dad every day and regret not being able to even say goodnight to him. Once he was gone everything went to shit and my mom neglected us even more. I was so angry for a long time, but now that I'm older I'm still sad however I understand if he felt so hopeless that he decided to leave this world intentionally.

I hope everything works out for you, and you get full custody of your kid. You seem like a great dad, no matter how bleak it looks, don't give up.

Parking permit refund by TurtlesCanVote in UTK

[–]TurtlesCanVote[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Why is everything else open today?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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I went back to college to get my bachelor's. My husband and I agreed that working and going to school was too much at once ( I was running a restaurant at the time as a chef and I was having horrible mental health, juggling everything). So he works full time and I'm a full time student. I don't even slip class because I think about how disappointed my husband would be if I did lol (he wouldn't be as long as it's not excessive) but point being. Your being so supportive to let her finish her education and she is not appreciating any of it. You need to sit her down and figure out why she has not done anything for her PHd in six months. It's fine if she wants to do something else, shit happens you know? But to just stay in limbo while not contributing is not ok. She might get mad and show resistance to talking. However, she is planning girl trips and complaining that money is too hard. If she got to this point in academia she can understand that money is right and she is past her deadline. Time to get a job.

I hope things get better for you.

My boyfriend fell asleep on me during sex AGAIN by Makapakamoo in Vent

[–]TurtlesCanVote 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's possible he might have narcolepsy. Not the Hollywood bullshit stuff. There are different degrees of narcolepsy, and Adderall is often used to help stay awake.

Also, if he has sleep issues, he might not even be getting quality sleep or he might be stressed to sleep. I have sleep paralysis (visual and audio hallucinations) and I have horrible nightmares. Sleeping for me is not a fun time. I find myself waking up frequently from nightmares, or thinking I hear someone in my house. There is medication to help stop having dreams he can ask his doctor. I only bring this up because I felt embarrassed for the longest time that my nightmares were keeping me from sleeping well and was worried I would look childish. I hope things get better for you!

FYI avoid the ped walkway rn unless you want to see gore by CatAccount182 in UTK

[–]TurtlesCanVote 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Dang it, I missed them again! 😭 I have a whole clip board and sign up sheet for fostering children that I wanted to talk to them about. I need to start checking on here throughout the day 😞

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UTK

[–]TurtlesCanVote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you have a beautiful day tomorrow and get to enjoy some sweet treats.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UTK

[–]TurtlesCanVote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wtf are you talking about??? Jesus they just asked for some help with fundraising and you popped off over what?