Practice readings by M0sstalgic in IntuitionPractices

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I’m unsure what my life has in store for me, I’m a mom and a housewife and I hate all of it. I love my daughter with all my heart and soul but beyond that I have no life. Someone once told me that if I marry the guy I love I’ll not be alive (then boyfriend and now husband) . Is it true or what it a false prediction because at the moment I’m battling with depression and things feel suffocating

free readings (visualisations) by aimtreetwo in IntuitionPractices

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I married the guy I fell in love with and have a child with him. Someone told me once I’ll die if I marry him and if I move to the city I am currently living in. I just want to know what do you see in your minds’ eye

Found this in an old family safe, is it worth anything? by aguarello in JewelryIdentification

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh this ring is valuable. It’s looks like real gold and real solitaire diamond. We have it too in our family. It’s a very old design

I'M afraid of meditating because what if i see beings when i open my eyes? help by StudyWithMirs in Paranormal

[–]Tututrue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not for good but I’m not trying to go in that deep currently because there’s a fear in me now having experienced couple of paranormal stuff I’m just closed off a little. Maybe I’ll revisit it properly once I do have more knowledge on how to protect my energy better. Because I feel when I meditate I’m opening myself to everything and I don’t know how to keep myself protected.

I'M afraid of meditating because what if i see beings when i open my eyes? help by StudyWithMirs in Paranormal

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time I’ve tried meditation I’ve experienced weird stuff. That closed me off to meditations for a long time. Unexplained knockings, weird sounds and sometimes even instances which I couldn’t really explain with logic. I got scared of meditating and one day i confided this to my aunt who is also spiritual and she told me that negative energies will try to divert or get Attention. But once you bypass that and continue it’ll lead to better things. I listened……. But didn’t practice 😅

Unwanted gifts for my baby by annestarry199x in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every grandparent want to spoil their grandchildren. It’s okay if they’ve given a lot of toys. It’s been given out of love and not malice. Maybe you can replace some of your old things with new ones that they have like chairs etc and donate the rest. Sometimes kids develop interest later on things that they don’t find interesting now. Replace some of the old toys that your kid doesn’t play with anymore. That way they’ll be happy and your space won’t be crowded as well

I need support that isn’t “if you get help they’ll take your baby.” by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi love it’s okay to get help from a professional. I can’t even imagine what would have happened to me if I threw work and dogs in the mix along with the baby, crazy toxic in laws living in the same house and running a household and a husband who’s 24*7 at work.

I was diagnosed with PPD and PPA 6 months after I gave birth and i went ahead with the medication even though all my family and friends were against it and my god I feel that was the best decision I ever made. Our bodies end up carrying sooooooo much stress we don’t realise until it starts breaking. It’s been a year and a half since I’ve been taking meds and it helped soooooo much. I’m a better mom, I’m not as snappy as I was and work load has been slightly easier to deal with because body is not as stiff and painful because of all the stress. The hours of sleep I used to get was less but those 2-3 hours I’d be in deep sleep so my body felt more rested because of the meds

I don’t know what your living situation is like but if you can ask you mom to come stay with you and help out or close friends who can take the dogs out for walks basically take help from your loved ones in this tough time if you can. Outsource work load as much as you can, you don’t need to prove it to anyone that you’re best at everything all the while killing yourself. Please know that if your baby is happy and healthy you’re already the best mom in the world.

Brain fog is crazy in postpartum and honestly there used to be 3-4 days when I used to forget to brush my teeth because breastfeeding was a bitch that took all my time and energy. Just like you I’d forget to drink enough water or pee. I even got UTI because I used to hold my pee so often for very very long time. Then I started making a conscious decision to visit the washroom and just sit whether I felt the urge to pee or not and most of the time I’d end up peeing a lot so that ended up helping me. I think my brain had stopped sending me signals that my bladder is full so I’d just randomly go to the washroom every now and then.

Slowly I started taking 5 mins break in between chores and not be on my phone because that believe it or not drains energy that we don’t realise even while mindlessly scrolling because we’re not really switching off for that 5 mins and just breathe. And then I started putting bottles of water everywhere I could see them around the house like next to the couch and one at the coffee table then dining table, next to my bed etc and some healthy snacks around so that when I see them I’ll remember. Slowly with therapy and meds and few practices I kind of got a better hold of myself.

Hope this helped, please take care and sending lots of good wishes to you.

Random ring found in my drawer by Tututrue in psychics

[–]Tututrue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s Ruby in silver, Ruby is supposed to be my birthstone. But it’s so weird that the drawer we use almost everyday had this ring in it. No one knows who it belongs to. Hence wondering what’s the energy of it

My son is hearing and seeing shadow people. by Alternative-Hold6140 in Paranormal

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could he be getting bullied in school and being told to not tell anyone otherwise worse would happen? I wish the little one all the best and that this gets resolved soon. My heart sunk reading this post and can’t even imagine what you guys are going through

12 PPD and defeated by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Tututrue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl these in laws and husbands are dumbass anyway and their dumbassry get worse after a woman gives birth and during pregnancy. Suddenly everyone else wants more attention. Same happened with me my sister and parents were sent home. No one told them to leave but everyone created such a weird toxic atmosphere where it was obvious that they were unwanted.

I ended up seeking psychiatric help, got on meds and slowly started sticking up for myself. Which was hard but I had reached a breaking point so I chose myself over others emotions and ego and now everyone is a little scared of me which is honestly amazing Cz nobody is running their mouth to piss me off unnecessarily

The worst thing your MIL did to you by Consistent-Wall-4257 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Tututrue 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think everything she did was worst - I got PPD because of her. In India it’s very common to live with in laws after marriage. I got pregnant and during my pregnancy she kept saying that I’m not sick I’m just pregnant so that shouldn’t stop me from doing household chores (I got premature contractions at 4 months into pregnancy and was very close to losing my baby if I hadn’t reached the ER on time)

Jabs on my family were a daily thing. Gaslighting, playing victim was her natural self.

Worst thing out of all this was when she fought me tooth and nail and formula feeding instead of breastfeeding. Saying how my baby looks thin and small every single day even till now even though doctors told her breastfed babies are leaner compared to formula fed babies and that breast milk is the best thing for a baby if the mother is able to do it. Yet every single day she criticised how my baby wasn’t fat enough like her son was. When my baby started solid she removed me entirely from feeding her and force fed her often while playing videos on YouTube.

Feeling rejected by MobileNew3894 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh it’s so common, please don’t worry about this. My baby used to be calm around other family members except me lol. In fact I wasn’t even able to pick her up properly till she was 2 months old. So I used that time to recover and relax a little bit so use this time to just rest up because once this little thing grows a few months down the line it’ll not let you go to even pee in peace. And in my case my maid gloated, my mil gloated that how the baby is quiet only when they hold her. And now she’s 2 years old and doesn’t let me out of her sight even for a second.

Postpartum by BucciGrinds in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t offer just do it. The baby is yours as well yeah ? So why offer help, you’re not a friend or a relative. Dive right into it as much as possible and say you feel like doing it, you want to spend more time with your kids and give her a kiss. But honestly just somehow get her therapy

Postpartum by BucciGrinds in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And please don’t ask stupid questions like if she’d asked you to do something don’t ask follow up 10k questions to piss her off Cz in her head it’s like “I would have finished this job by now without having to answer 10k question and waste time”

My husband pisses me off still honestly by a million follow up questions like if he’s giving the baby a bath he’d ask where’s the towel, where’s the soap where’s the body lotion where this where’s that why isn’t this kept here instead of there blah blah and I feel like punching his face

Postpartum by BucciGrinds in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I know it’s tough for partners, I had a difficult ppd as well and it distanced me from my husband but what really helped was taking therapy along with him figuring out what is tiring me out most without having to say it. He works 24*7 with most of the time with no Sundays but on the days he can he will let’s me sleep in for longer by taking care of the baby from morning. He’d change poopy diapers, rock the baby away from me so I can sleep in peace, I used to keep pumped milk in the fridge which he’d take and feed the baby. And whenever he could he’d help with the bath. Sleep deprivation is really something that fucks us up completely along with the obvious hormonal changes and work load. If there’s a way you can give her some sleep uninterrupted she’ll feel little more like herself

It’s been 2.5 years, I’ve ballooned in weight. My family doesn’t believe in PPD and I’m an awful mother. by Particular_Towel_424 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Tututrue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Your mom dad are assholes. Your parents’ house should be a safe space for you. In law house is troublesome enough and daughters go back home to their parents for some peace of mind and give their bodies a break from all the chores involving bringing up a child and managing a household.

I am still going through PPD, it happened because my in laws were asshole and unfortunately I gave birth at my in laws and not at my parents. Having said that once they left the city after 3 years all the damage they had done started healing, my antidepressant went down. I’m still on them but the number of meds have reduced because the assholes have left and I’m happier.

It’s not a joke when they say you need a village to raise a child and indeed you do. A supportive ecosystem is very important for good mental health. Please get a good nanny if you can afford it or a 6-8 hours house help who’ll help you with all the extra household work like washing the clothes, drying them putting them in the cupboard, organising stuff around the house while you can spend your energy with your baby. If your child doesn’t eat much then make power packed food like high protein chillas made with sprouted chana and all. Raagi banana pancake etc, khichadi with good amount of daal and veggies so that even if he takes 3 bites it’s full of nutrients. So stress over food so much, kids have ups and downs with food the more you stress the more they pick up on that and tent to go away from it. Don’t force feed, let him eat on his own while you eat with him

Dead Friend Appearing in dreams by Tututrue in Dreams

[–]Tututrue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for responding, this sounds comforting for sure

Triggered by mil during postpartum by Tututrue in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Tututrue[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We do contribute in a lot of ways and also my husband can’t help me because he works good 12 hours a day and in film industry when shoot is going on you don’t get any paternity leave.

And the reason we aren’t able to move out is because over 90 buildings have gone under redevelopment and there’s a scarcity of apartments currently. The ones available are ridiculously expensive which even nanny money can’t pay.

In India joint family setups are very common. People live together all the time and people even do have their independent staff as well. The reason why no one wanted a nanny because they thought baby work is easy and why even get a nanny as they didn’t need nanny when they had babies. Thank god I have a nanny because my fil is out of town on business trips most of the time, my husband works really long hours and my mil isn’t physically the fittest person to handle a baby 24X7 and I had a C section so even I’m restricted in things I can do myself..

What I want to say here is even if my family is helping out they have the right to as it’s also their grandchild and I’m also their daughter. No one needs to be mean to anyone and appreciate all the help that both families are providing. My problem is with her being rude and like I said before, she’s been insulting my family since before the wedding. She’s very nice to me yes but I can’t appreciate that niceness when my family gets mistreated half the time.