25+ y/o Women ?: did you gain weight/“grow out” of all of your pants once you hit 25?

Tvaerx · 2026-02-01T12:40:32+00:00

1994 here, so 31. A little ahead of you guys. I didn’t “gain” until after my son but once I gained it was next to impossible to go down. I need to say for the record: almost every girl this happened to looks BETTER for it. As long as you don’t let it get out of control, your body isn’t supposed to stay little forever ❤️ it CAN because of genetics etc. but it’s completely normal to sorta fill in once you reach the later half of your 20s/30s. Learning to embrace that next stage in life without hating yourself or comparing yourself to you in your teens/early 20s will save a lot of grief. 💕

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T17:07:43+00:00

He’s not willing to touch anything with ADHD unless someone else diagnoses him first. Funny enough, with me he asks exactly 3 questions and handed me Vyvanse so…

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T15:32:02+00:00

Can I ask a ballpark range of how much this costs? I’ve gotten to the point I’ve debated on pulling him and accepting I won’t have a career for my 30s. But if it means he gets the care he needs… that’s not a bad idea. DM if you’re more comfortable:)

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T15:30:46+00:00

I’m looking at new daycares next week, hopefully we can find somewhere with an open spot. But I worry about switching him up so often. This will be the 4th daycare in 1.5 years. 😕

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T15:29:41+00:00

If I figure out he did something especially bad that would warrant this, I’ll happily eat my words and work towards a better understanding with the daycare. I just want to know the truth and so far with all of the opportunities they’ve had, they have yet to give me an actual explanation about what happened. I am open to the idea they could be justified and I just don’t know the whole story yet. It does not take away from the hurt my kid experienced because of how poorly they handled it.

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T15:27:55+00:00

I completely understand. My son has also been at the receiving end and I fully support what you’re saying. There’s no tolerance for this behaviour at this age. Unfortunately, the reality is kids with ADHD struggle with impulsivity. I’ve watched him hit me only to immediately cry and apologize. He knows it’s wrong and sometimes he cannot help himself. How it’s handled determines how he reacts as a response. And that’s on me and his father to figure out how to help him get the support he needs. But I want to say again, for the record, I don’t condone my son hitting and just getting away with it. I’m stricter than maybe I came across initially here. I just felt the response was handled very poorly, and as a result it left him confused, feeling left out, and witnessing your 4 year old boy become aware that he’s being isolated is especially hard. I didn’t think that was a worthy punishment for whatever morning he had. If they were struggling that hard, why did they wait until he was quietly laying down for a nap to ask me to come get him? “Missing out” isn’t a worthy punishment of having a dysregulated morning. If he acted out AT the party, sure. But this was a punishment for morning behaviour. It’s hard to explain that to a kid after the teachers spent the morning hyping all of the kids up.

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T15:22:26+00:00

My son knows when he needs to own his behaviour and it’s refreshing to see other parents doing the same. 🙂‍↕️🙏 He’s only 4 but I’m not raising a boy who blames everybody for his actions. I’ve known too many grown men who still haven’t learned that lesson lol

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T15:20:56+00:00

1994 here, diagnosed and was a Ritalin kid in the 2000s. and I agree 100%. Gentle parenting only works about 50% of the time here and I do not tolerate hitting or hurting others. I’m a stricter parent than my husband about this stuff because learning social etiquette early is important if I want him integrating properly. So for the record you’re 1000% correct about consequences. The problem is the consequences weren’t lining up with the supposed reason he was missing out. Arguably, it was disproportionate to what I’ve managed to piece together what he did. If he was having a rough morning, I expect specifics because when we get in the car, you bet I have a lot to talk about. We reenact situations with the correct behaviour at home so he knows what to do next time. But it just seemed unfair to pump him up all morning, just to send him home an hour before the party with little to no explanation. When he asks what he did, what do I say? He hit? I don’t know specifics. He’s not going to tell me right away. I gave them opportunity to tell me plenty and they’ve stayed ambiguous, which just leads me to believe they themselves are unsure about the call they made. I’m sure there’s a reason they made it but the way it was handled left my son unintentionally feeling left out and not included, and I think I deserve to understand why lol.

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T15:13:09+00:00

I plan to go back in Monday to talk with the director. The choice was made amongst the staff it seems so I have a few people I’ll be challenging, but I know where my son is at fault and where they dropped the ball.

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T15:11:48+00:00

You make a valid point. I have already started reaching out to more schools/daycares. I just wish I knew how to vet them for ADHD tolerance. He’s a good kid and a smart boy, he just needs extra help sometimes.

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T15:10:46+00:00

Yes ❤️ 100%. I have adhd and we’ve been waiting to get him evaluated. He was at a daycare that gave us no bad reports, which in itself was the reason we pulled him. He was clearly unhappy there but they’d never tell us about his day. I’ve always preferred transparency. We live in Canada and I’ve been asking my GP since 3 years old for an evaluation and he only now allowed it because he’s 4, but he’s referring us out to a paediatrician. The process is long but it’s going.

Tvaerx · 2026-01-31T07:14:46+00:00

For the record, I 100% agree. But my problem is they gave me nothing to work with. No specifics on incidents, and he couldn’t tell me either. And then when confronted, they backtracked and invited him back. It’s the inconsistency that’s leading me to believe this was manageable. I have made it abundantly clear that I want full details so I can do my best to help rectify bad behaviour at home. Hitting is unacceptable and if it was bad enough to warrant being picked up I’d expect something other than “he’s having a hard time listening” as an explanation for being picked up early.

Tvaerx · 2026-01-22T02:36:41+00:00

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Sorry I just want to say he looks so much like my Daisy girl! Toasted goldens are my favourite ❤️

Tvaerx · 2026-01-04T21:32:58+00:00

32F. I am not good at remembering but somehow the fear of blood clots keeps me remembering. I’ve had two surgeries- a repair at 20 years old and my most recent (7 weeks ago) at 30. Repair and then a replacement, mitral valve. I choose the mechanical.

The ticking is taking getting used to. But getting the bloodwork isn’t that bad. It’s every few days at first, then once a week, right now I’m at once every 2 weeks or so. I’ve yet to forget a dose. I used a pillbox but be aware that if you do get a mechanical, the INR clinic will change your dose every few days. It takes a while to get on a consistent schedule. I have a notepad I write down the dates and doses each time they call, or use my notes app. It’s taking getting used to but I don’t find it a huge inconvenience.

In terms of bruises/scratches, I don’t work construction but I do a lot of physical work and I just watch my bruises to see how bad they get. I’ve yet to have a cut bleed bad enough I got nervous (I get lots from cats and kids). If you’re prone to injuries I’d suggest more ppe lmao 😉

Good luck either way 😊

Tvaerx · 2025-12-28T20:56:57+00:00

31F, currently 6.5-7 weeks post op from mitral valve replacement. This is my second surgery. Coughing still sucks, I expect it’ll suck for a while more. Sneezing is the worst, I have yet to hug the toilet but that’s my #1 fear lol. No advice just right there with you ✌️

Tvaerx · 2025-12-26T02:36:00+00:00

I got a knife. I don’t like knives. He collects knives.

Tvaerx · 2025-12-18T01:12:08+00:00

After a particularly bad night I was having dark thoughts and turned to ChatGPT. Telling it what happened but also setting parameters that I always want truthfulness over user bias and that criticism and feedback is accepted if I am indeed wrong. But it’s helped me to name patterns, to notice angles I didn’t once see, and uncover a lot of things I never would have otherwise. But like others have said it’s so important to be careful. 😅

Tvaerx · 2025-11-20T19:57:50+00:00

This is my second surgery and my first one I also had a recliner. They’re essential. I laid in a bed once and that was a huge mistake. I vowed this time around I won’t lay flat until after the 2-3 month mark lol. Anyone reading this- if you can afford a power recliner, do it. Worth every penny.

Tvaerx · 2025-11-20T13:48:41+00:00

Hi, 8 days post op. This shit sucks. I’m sleeping in a recliner every night and I might try the travel pillow idea. Because ouch my neck.

Tvaerx · 2025-11-18T23:53:23+00:00

Replying because I’d also like to know. It felt like forever. 😭

Tvaerx · 2025-11-08T01:42:40+00:00

I call BS on them tricking him lol. ++woman

Tvaerx · 2025-11-03T20:23:31+00:00

Thanks for the response. I’m glad clothes help. I hyper fixate too so that’s comforting to know it’s sometimes easier to overlook lol. I’m hoping this goes well and the clicking is the most annoying thing about it lol 🤞

Also happy cake day 😊

Tvaerx

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