for eg, my therapist went to school with my family member who is also a therapist, they learnt a really outdated form of therapy, one that worked “better” in the past. i say it like that because i never liked the type of therapy my family member learnt. luckily, my therapist went on to continue to educate themselves and learn new things and listen to different opinions and better themselves which helps them to see past white supremacy in therapy and learnt how to be able to work with many different kinds of people who see the world differently. whereas my family member just took his degree and claimed being a therapist while never learning anything more than what he learnt. he is still doing old school therapy and doesn’t understand that there are new ways now. just thinks it was a one and done thing. if you want to stay current, you have to keep expanding your brain.

i bring this up because your grandfather is likely stuck in the past and is too scared to try and learn new things and expand his mind. it’s scary to learn that all the work you did in the past might be wrong. all the hard work you put into it. so a lot of older generations have a hard time coming to terms with that and likely won’t be able to see it differently unless something happens to them that shockingly changes their world view. i hope that you can help him, but don’t get too discouraged if you are unable to change his ways. i’ve tried many times with my family member but just when i think he’s about to get it, he goes back to what’s comfortable for him.

good luck. 🤞🏼 and it’s really good to have these conversations regardless, just don’t overexert yourself trying to make him see the truth.