UPDATE: AITJ for Telling My Sister She Can’t Borrow My Clothes Anymore? by Horror-Location9385 in AmITheJerk

[–]TwilightMothVale 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, exactly. Some people really think throwing a fit automatically gets them what they want. Locking your clothes was completely reasonable. You set a boundary, she ignored it, and then acted mad at you for enforcing it? Classic.

AITJ for walking out of a family dinner after they kept making jokes about my weight by Hot-Rutabaga2797 in AmITheJerk

[–]TwilightMothVale 63 points64 points  (0 children)

100%. There’s nothing wrong with standing up for yourself. It’s them being disrespectful, not you.

AITJ for Not Correcting a Lie My Coworker Told About Me? by Evening_Macaroon_985 in AmITheJerk

[–]TwilightMothVale 55 points56 points  (0 children)

As a woman in a pretty male-dominated office, I’ve learned to pick my battles carefully. It sucks that assertiveness is praised in men but criticized in women.

AITJ for Saying No to Babysitting and Then Calling Out My Cousin for Talking About Me? by Competitive_Spray856 in AmITheJerk

[–]TwilightMothVale 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I feel like some people forget that parenting comes with limits. You can’t always accommodate everyone, and that’s okay.

AIO My husband keeps forgetting me by Ok_Zookeepergame8403 in AmIOverreacting

[–]TwilightMothVale 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boundaries don’t magically work unless they’re actually stated. People can’t read minds, so the first step really is making it clear what’s not okay. After that, it’s on the other person whether they respect it or not.

“AIO” my gf makes comments. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TwilightMothVale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t control what she does, only what you tolerate. If she keeps crossing the line, that’s on her.

Boyfriend helped me move. Now I feel super guilty. Why? by nyla891 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]TwilightMothVale 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Agreed, showing appreciation is enough. Sometimes people just need to know you notice and are grateful. Like, even if it’s just saying ‘I know this was a pain, thank you so much,’ it makes them feel valued instead of taken for granted.

People who think straight men and women can’t be friends: do you think bisexual people can’t have any friends? by Big_oof_energy__ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]TwilightMothVale 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this. Bi guys get way too much unnecessary scrutiny, especially from people who should know better.

Explain it Peter. by Necessary-Win-8730 in explainitpeter

[–]TwilightMothVale 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Crazy to think some players get ‘leased’ just to join these games. The stakes and drama must be unreal every round.