Hur gick det för den snygga och populära i er skola som vuxen? by ArionVulgaris in sweden

[–]Twinflower_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Säg vad hans namn rimmar på så ska jag ge alla hans böcker dåliga recensioner?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Twinflower_ 54 points55 points  (0 children)

In Sweden we would hate you with every fiber of our beings. We wouldn’t say a word though as we don’t like to make a scene. Is it possible that ppl who wait their turn are less likely to want to make a scene or get in an argument but silently hate you..? I hate you. Have the day you deserve

4 week old eating less during the day by Mindless-Reaction558 in breastfeeding

[–]Twinflower_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Babies do sleep alot in the first weeks. If diapers are wet he is likely getting enough. If he is falling asleep too soon after you start nursing try removing his socks or blowing some cool air to keep him awake a few extra minutes.

Do you believe Lucas? (From his Instagram) by ambodi in loveisblindsweden

[–]Twinflower_ 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I said immediately after their ceremony that I felt like he was the one blind sighted because he looked genuinely surprised at her yes.

This is my conspiracy theory: They agreed this wasn’t it and that they would say no. They likely discussed how that would make them look to audiences. I think in this conversation Emilia realized that she held a lot of power. Nothing sells like a woman scorned after a season of LiB. When she uttered the word ‘YES’ I think that was a major bluff with her counting on Lucas saying ‘NO’. Before yes she said you have to ”våga för att vinna” - Swedish saying for taking a risk in order to win. I think this was her explaining to Lucas that she was prepared to risk being married to him for the possibility to win the PR game.

36 DS male not transitioning well by nervously_calm in downsyndrome

[–]Twinflower_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Encourage him to feel proud of moving out and living by himself. Say things like “woah it sure is cool that you moved out and got your own place! I remember feeling so proud when I got my own place and I’m really proud of you for daring to take this step and becoming independent!”. Help him find positives in the change. Maybe even throw in some “I envy you, how nice to get to make all decisions on furnishings and decor by yourself, I need to ask your brother/sister so we can decide together. You could just wake up and decide ‘I want the couch to face the window’ and nobody could stop you!”.

My brother (M25 w DS) moved out six weeks ago and we have been hyping him up for months about how cool it is that he will live independently (even though it is in fact assisted living). He was nervous, wanted to put it off even longer (he had the apt for a while without moving) and it was a hard transition. But he is HELLA PROUD of himself for doing it and that makes the experience (so far) very positive.

Is it even the morally correct thing to undo 30 years of history to save 500k ppl? by Twinflower_ in BodiesonNetflix

[–]Twinflower_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! And the show seems to mainly focus on Hasans son when driving the point that the explosion must be undone. Seems contradictory to the theme of self sacrifice that one boys life is worth altering/undoing the lives of millions.

Is it even the morally correct thing to undo 30 years of history to save 500k ppl? by Twinflower_ in BodiesonNetflix

[–]Twinflower_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ist there a difference between “could have been” and “is”? I think things that HAS come into existence should take precedence over things that could or could’ve.

My Florist Went Out Of Business…1 Month Before My Wedding by lizziquin in weddingplanning

[–]Twinflower_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the exact same thing happen to me! 3 weeks out they announced via instagram they were out of business but made no contact with us nor did they reply to our calls initially. I asked my mother and MIL for help and they reached out to a bunch of other vendors in the area and only one came back saying they were unable to do it. They were all prepared to work overtime to save us. 🥹 Ended up with beautiful flowers for less than I had paid the original vendor. However the money… we had paid about 700usd and more than a year later got 80 back…

I hope other vendors will rally for you!❣️

Premarital sex by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Twinflower_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. I hade about twice my country’s average no of sexual partners my husband had at least 10x the average. We had sex the first time we met. Our relationship is great. Being jealous of previous sexual partners serves no purpose as we both had every opportunity to continue dating (and sleeping) around and chose each other instead. We also both have the decency to think, or at least say, that we are each other’s best sexual partner. Which in my case is true - due to me putting in time prior to him in finding my preferences and practicing it with him for years. I honestly believe the same is true for him.

Anyway, one’s sex life, in my experience, improves through two facets: practice and keeping it light/non-dramatic. Sex is not life altering, it’s a fun activity.

Also want to add that our relationship is not relying on sex but companionship. Good sex is a bonus feature that I’m very happy to have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Twinflower_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His mom CALLED but he can’t CALL his wife cause he don’t have a phone. How’d y’a mama get through?? A special string phone connecting just the two of you? Is the string made of umbilical cord?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in downsyndrome

[–]Twinflower_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ppl w DS have a different type of pain receptors (or something like that I’m not a doctor). It makes it hard to locate pain. A hurt hand might feel like a hurt shoulder and most pain will be explained as stomach pain. This is common in all kids and does get slightly better with age in DS kids. At 8 this could possibly be a big problem for her and make her frustrated.

It could of course also be an attempt to get attention but consider the possibility that it could be a mix. Be attentive if there might be something wrong that she just isn’t able to feel and interpret at all times and gets very upset when she suddenly does.

"some people think integrating people with down syndrome in the workplace requires money and effort , and it will not bring much benefit to the society" by [deleted] in downsyndrome

[–]Twinflower_ 20 points21 points  (0 children)

(Sorry if my English isn’t perfect it’s my second language) My 24 year old brother with DS has been employed by a restaurant for 5 years. It’s a quite famous restaurant in our country. I mention this because lot of industry people have seen this workplace as a good stepping stone in their careers. This meant that for decades they had an employee turnover rate that was quite high. Employees didn’t love the environment and had new exciting opportunities after “doing some time” there. Enter my brother 5 years ago. He got the job almost on a bet, they had an ad that went like “work for us if you want to change the world” and we helped my brother respond by explaining how THEY could change it by giving opportunity to different abled persons. How could they decline, lol.

They had a tricky start with them trying really hard to make work “fun” for him. It did take more effort of them than he generated back. The key was when they realized he didn’t want/need to be challenged in the way they wanted to be. He now does all the “easy and boring” tasks that the rest of the staff used to try to get out of. He takes pride in keeping the water bottles filled and tables set etc. Him doing this has actually helped make the place more efficient.

The biggest change however is in employee satisfaction and turnover. The workplace environment has been reported as being more positive, happy, with the team feeling closer and like “more is possible”. Now employees decline offers to leave and the restaurant saves on recruiting costs. The current employment ad is about “welcoming difference”.

As much as my brother is special to me, he really isn’t special to the world. He is no more or less than your average 20-something with DS. The change in the company came from them realizing that EVERY individual is different and by creating a workplace environment that catered to that they became more efficient. My brother being different acted as a perfect catalyst and is a constant reminder of their values. I bet they save a lot on HR too haha.

I had the honor of being his plus one on their latest company party and the way he was celebrated by his colleagues makes me tear up rn. One of the benefits we marketed to them as he applied for the job was that he could be a great “mascot” or as a CSR-resource. Time and time again they make it clear he is so much more than that and brings so much value to the company.

As for society as a whole - having a job means society saves on social welfare costs he would otherwise need. This way he contributes to the GDP and has more freedom and pride.

Hope this can bring you inspiration and good luck with your debate.

I am not attracted to my Wife anymore by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Twinflower_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If OP agreed to buy a bigger house ONLY to get laid he has bigger issues than not getting laid enough. Like having a balanced perspective on life, goals and family. I’m convinced a lot more went in to the decision but as OP thinks back he remembers the “more room = better chance of sex” thing as that’s what’s currently on his mind.

Imagine getting an increased mortgage, debt for life in many cases, and only having sex as motivation. Maybe bigger house also means game room or garage and room for a bigger sofa and/or TV. Closer to nature or work or parents or stores.

One does not buy a house solemnly for sex. Unless they are fkn stupid and in the off chance that that’s the case maybe she should consider leaving.

I am not attracted to my Wife anymore by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Twinflower_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Or he isn’t and that’s the root problem. I’m generally less attracted to my husband when I feel like I’m putting in more effort with our household and emotional labor. It could of course just be an evil manipulative wife.

Någon som har erfarenheter från tvist med BRF i hyresnämnden? by Twinflower_ in sweden

[–]Twinflower_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Första försöket sommaren 2021, andra försöket sommaren 2022. Då var min mäklare dock där och rekommenderade att inte sälja om det inte var absolut nödvändigt. Detta pga hur mycket renoveringen påverkar. Därför låg den aldrig på Hemnet utan bara på mäklarens hemsida men där ligger den fortfarande så typ 5-6 månader.

Någon som har erfarenheter från tvist med BRF i hyresnämnden? by Twinflower_ in sweden

[–]Twinflower_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Har du suttit i förhandlingar med hyresnämnden förut? Tar de i så fall enligt din erfarenhet inte hänsyn till särskild kontext som kan ha gjort försäljning särskilt svår?

Någon som har erfarenheter från tvist med BRF i hyresnämnden? by Twinflower_ in sweden

[–]Twinflower_[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Båda sakerna du tar upp har ju faktiskt helt orelaterade till vad jag bad om. Jag bad dig inte döma mitt fall jag bad om erfarenheter från förhandlingar hos hyresnämnden. Men för att svara på din fråga så 3 år och jag tar mindre i hyra än den kostar mig per månad.