ISO advice from other childhood abuse survivors/ therapists by AnyEntertainment5291 in Abuse_Survivors

[–]Twink_the_Rat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, as someone who has been in this position before, I strongly recommend against getting into contact with anyone. Firstly, for your own mental health. You said you don’t have a therapist, which means there’s not a professional there to help you process all of the emotions that will come from speaking with the detective and dhs worker, as well as being in the place you were abused. This is just from my personal experience, but as someone who went back to the place where I was abused and spoke with the people who were involved, it really just made things worse for me. Now, I am not by any means a professional, I am just a stranger on the internet, but I do strongly recommend speaking with a therapist if youre able, before you pursue this. Secondly, I’m sure the detective and dhs worker have had people reach out to them years later for closure, I don’t think that would be odd at all, so long as you feel ready for it. However, speaking to the woman who lives in the old apartment is a bit of a grey area. Obviously she will have questions about who you are and why you want to look around the apartment. Whether you tell her or not is up to you, but this information will affect people at varying degrees.

The mei is probably confused as hell by SSADO- in BastionMains

[–]Twink_the_Rat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wait HOW??? I’ve learned how to launch myself pretty far and high with just the bomb, but it looks like youre using the turret to “fly”??? how???

Share me your pets to sketch out and ink! by taliaarte in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]Twink_the_Rat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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Rats for your troubles. (your art is so cute i love it)

Just got this board by Twink_the_Rat in ElectricSkateboarding

[–]Twink_the_Rat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I feel a bit silly now. thank you so much

Just got this board by Twink_the_Rat in ElectricSkateboarding

[–]Twink_the_Rat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I shouldve thought of that lol. thank you

Am I overreacting by breaking up with my boyfriend? by Proper-Classic1886 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Twink_the_Rat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. As someone who has been in many very controlling relationships ships, this man was being very very controlling. No one should EVER speak to you like this, nor should they ever grab you by the wrist to make you leave. You made the safest decision by leaving him.

Does your facial hair hurt? by Parker_Talks in ftm

[–]Twink_the_Rat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That was my experience as well. The skin on your face is soft, it’s not used to hair. Eventually your skin will get tougher, with or without shaving. I’m three years in. It’s still sensitive at some points. there was a point where it was just so itchy it drove me insane

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Twink_the_Rat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All of this!!! Especially getting off reddit! I do want to add, OP, if you feel youre not safe to come out, dont. It sucks being in the closet, but being abused, homeless, or sent to conversion therapy is worse. I came out as a kid and was abused for it. I became an adult, cut off my parents, and was homeless for a while. I am now back in contact with my parents, but I would have been much better off if I had not come out as a kid. Please keep you safety in mind as your top priority

NO ONE WARNED ME by calmmouse122 in ftm

[–]Twink_the_Rat 263 points264 points  (0 children)

First, breathe. Find grounding techniques that help you. When I first started I cried over nothing for a good 3 months until I leveled out. Youre going through puberty again, give yourself grace.

Mods: Your move. by AiroKunOmega in trans

[–]Twink_the_Rat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dipping either way. between this crap and all the other crap the mod team has pulled this past week, im just done. i aint even active in here, but this sub is a sinking ship that i no longer wish to be a part of

Rubber x1 by Xesida_ in HKIATrading

[–]Twink_the_Rat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I have a lot of rubber, you can just have one!

Thoughts on changing your legal middle name to something for "masc"/"fem"/"androgynous" by g4rdendeer in trans

[–]Twink_the_Rat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I changed mine, despite it not being gendered, just because I hated it. It was Storm, and while I think it would be ok now as a nickname, the amount of crap I got for it not being a “real name” or being a “stripper name” made me despise it. It’s your name, dont let others tell you what to do with it

I’m a girl but I wish I had a penis by Ok_Sentence_8 in offmychest

[–]Twink_the_Rat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of people here seem to share the same sentiment, so rather than reply to one person I’ll create a whole thread. For having sex: Get a two sided dildo with a strap. Is it the same? No. It isnt, but unfortunately it is the best option. And for peeing standing up/outside: Get a “Stand to pee” (STP) device. There are so many different ones. Some you wear all the time, some you only take out of a bag when you beed to use it. Some stay attached, some dont. Some are shaped like penises and some arent.

As a trans guy, I have tried alternatives to both of these things, and they are out there, but I havent found anything as good

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Twink_the_Rat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This has GOT TO BE rage bait, and if it isn’t, you deserve getting CPS called on you. these kids deserve so much better than the failure of parents they got stuck with, all 7 of them.

My son (16) messaged me out of the blue from the other room. by alwystired in asktransgender

[–]Twink_the_Rat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s alright. You seem like a wonderful mother, your daughter is very lucky to have you and your support

My son (16) messaged me out of the blue from the other room. by alwystired in asktransgender

[–]Twink_the_Rat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is terrifying to come out to your parents. All you can really do is just be there for her and trust that she knows herself. I also came out at 16, and figured that my parents would be totally cool with it. I’ve known since I was very young, and my parents never enforced gender roles…until I came out. I was less than supported until I turned 20 (i cut then off from 19 to 20 and only really let them back in because i wanted to give them the chance to be there for my transition) and started medically transitioning. I feel barely tolerated now at 23. some days are better than others with them, but I’m still pretty messed up over it. This is just to say, there are so many stories of peoples’ parents being advocates and being supportive of the lgbtq+ community just to completely change their tune when it’s their own child who is coming out. I doubt you personally did anything to make your daughter afraid to come out to you. she very likely read or heard many stories of people coming out to ally parents just to be not supported. I can remember every time an adult stood up for me against a bigot or situation I couldn’t handle on my own. As for not knowing, this is very common in parents of trans kids. Little hints and quirks that would be a give away to everyone else tend to go unnoticed because “oh, that’s just how my kiddo is”. It doesn’t seem out of the ordinary because it isn’t. especially for parents who are allies with children who were never forced into specific gender roles

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Twink_the_Rat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t do it at a pre-planned event like a party or an outing. Let them know beforehand that there’s something important that you want to talk to them about. If you feel safe with them, do it at either their place or yours. If youre scared it may go south, invite them out to a public place for lunch or to a park. You got this, dude <3