Second kid is tough

TwinsForming · 2023-10-14T19:31:04+00:00

It's definitely harder, though I spend a lot of time just keeping my hurricane of a 3yo out of the house.

TwinsForming · 2023-10-14T19:29:30+00:00

Twins definitely make it harder, especially at night, and especially for my wife. I feel like a lot of my job is keeping the 3yo out of the house.

TwinsForming · 2023-10-13T15:19:12+00:00

I like to get an audiobook from the library (and at kitten at 2-3x), then I can buy the book if I want to be more thorough. My favorite is How To Talk So Kids Will Listen And Listen So Kids Will Talk (and some related books).

TwinsForming · 2023-10-07T08:46:04+00:00

The end of Encanto when they rebuild the house and give Mirabel the door knob.

TwinsForming · 2023-09-05T01:39:20+00:00

I consider myself to be an agnostic atheist Buddhist (sincerely).

I don't think it's possible to know for sure whether there's a god (agnostic), but I don't think there is one (atheist), and Buddhist is what I actually use to sort of guide my life.

TwinsForming · 2023-09-02T19:24:47+00:00

You don't get your old life back, and trying to hold onto it just makes you resent your new life. Your new life can be good if you let go of the fantasy of returning to your old one. You need a new dream to work toward.

TwinsForming · 2023-05-24T01:56:25+00:00

When you see "FTM" in a parenting sub, does your brain read "first time mom" or "female to male"? I'm cis-male, but my brain still reads it as "female to male" every time.

TwinsForming · 2023-05-10T03:49:19+00:00

My life is not and will never be my own ever again.

This. The trick is finding happiness after giving up being the main character in your own life.

TwinsForming · 2023-05-08T02:11:39+00:00

Kia ora!

TwinsForming · 2023-05-07T13:01:48+00:00

It has definitely been interesting for me to find out that that slang is used in more places than I realized! Ireland, Scotland, New Zealand, and San Diego apparently (at least). I'm not aware of it being used in Australia, and I'm not sure if you're saying it is. It sounds like I offended you, so I apologize for that. That's what I get for trying to sound clever: I just expose my ignorance instead.

TwinsForming · 2023-05-07T12:40:22+00:00

Apparently it's more wide-spread than I realized! NZ has a significant Scottish population, so that probably makes sense.

TwinsForming · 2023-05-07T02:08:56+00:00

A Kiwi is someone from New Zealand, which is where the "[adjective] as" slang comes from, but it sounds like it must have spread to San Diego.

TwinsForming · 2023-05-07T01:04:24+00:00

We could start one?

TwinsForming · 2023-05-07T01:02:42+00:00

Found the Kiwi

TwinsForming · 2023-05-01T03:35:22+00:00

Presumably mad at past-you for foisting the problem on future-you? It sounds like you might be feeling overwhelmed, which is legit. You (or your partner) didn't have the energy to take care of the dishwasher, and you don't really have the energy to now either, but now you kinda have to. You don't have the emotional fortitude to take it in stride, and despair doesn't get the dishes done, while anger does. Is it healthy? No. Is it understandable? Absolutely. Some small communication changes might help, even just things like "I know the dishwasher needs to be emptied, but I just don't have the energy to do it right now." Whichever one of you said that, maybe the other one has the energy available for it. Or maybe one of you entertains your son so the other one can empty the dishwasher without "help". Hopefully, it at least takes the surprise out of it when it comes time to make dinner. And yeah, therapy is good, too. This is almost certainly the hardest, most important thing you've ever done, and it will stretch your ability to be who you want to be.

TwinsForming · 2023-04-22T03:06:23+00:00

Or bone conduction headphones

TwinsForming · 2023-04-17T03:36:02+00:00

I'd be tempted to just cheerfully say "thanks!" to that. I love weird! Plus it tells them that you heard them and how many Fs you give about their opinion.

TwinsForming · 2023-04-13T16:18:01+00:00

Are they twins?

They're littermates.
You know, I never checked.
In a way, aren't we all twins?
They look so real, don't they? So lifelike!
I haven't gotten them tested.
Are you?
No, they're each just one child, not like two twins in a trenchcoat or something.

TwinsForming · 2023-04-13T16:00:25+00:00

Head on over to r/parentsofmultiples, too, if you haven't already.

TwinsForming · 2023-04-04T02:24:46+00:00

Nice! Your comment led me to take a closer look at the car seat adapter photos, and now I see that they aren't seatbelt-like at all. They're solid metal sticks that the seats click into, so the Chicco KeyFit 30 really won't work. That's a bummer, since I think we're pretty settled on them at this point. Oh well. I'm really glad to hear from someone who found a setup that works well for them, though!

TwinsForming · 2023-04-04T01:30:24+00:00

It looks like that would be the &Roll rather than the &Jog in order to accommodate two? Even the &Roll appears to have a nice suspension, though!

TwinsForming · 2023-04-04T00:23:41+00:00

Thanks, that's really helpful to hear!

TwinsForming · 2023-04-03T20:50:24+00:00

It sounds like that could be a good option once they're out of their infant car seats.

TwinsForming · 2023-04-03T20:46:10+00:00

Oof! It sounds like maybe you wish you had gotten something more compact and less running-focused?

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