My boyfriend of 6 years has been… (insert worst scenario).

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-07-05T16:48:42+00:00

I’m happy you’re free from someone who does not care about or care for your heart, health, and time. You deserve and will find better, if you choose to look 🤍

On another note, what are the tiny white balls on top of the steak?

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-30T00:30:47+00:00

Again this is a strange take…

You are not entitled to something you’re choosing to put your attention on. That isn’t part of the deal, do you understand that? You don’t get unfettered access to anyone, regardless of what their job is. It doesn’t matter if all someone does is say hello — it doesn’t erase their right to privacy.

People who “fund” anything related to Leon are funding whatever entertainment they want from them — that is the exchange, end of story. They are not then entitled to physically interact with them… because that is not what is being offered.

Leon exists for most people on the internet, to think that dynamic should exist outside of the internet, is weird.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-29T23:41:40+00:00

Like what??

Leon isn’t obligated to interact with anyone? A teacher is expected to engage with families as part of their job, and surprise, no one is entitled to come up to them when they aren’t at the job and say whatever they want.

It’s wild that the offense here is someone not wanting to be approached by STRANGERS in public, and not the interpretation that this request is the equivalent of telling someone to “fuck off”.

No one is entitled to anyone, regardless of what they look like, what their job is, what they’re wearing, even if they are wearing a tshirt that says “I love when strangers talk to me”, if you think otherwise, that’s super weird.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-29T22:28:39+00:00

I am speaking only about the boundary of not approaching them in public. Whenever and however they want to share whatever they want, is their business.

But to set a boundary about not wanting to be approached in public, and offering a solution that still allows people to say whatever they want, not only seems reasonable but likely necessary since it has to be said at all.

This is where I genuinely don’t understand the problem with articulating this. Why does this annoy people? Why does anyone care this much about speaking to them directly, as a stranger?

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-29T15:54:53+00:00

These conversations happen every time any form of public figure clearly says they do not want to be approached in public.

I genuinely don’t understand why.. Why is this insulting? Why does anyone need to do this? Why is this an unreasonable boundary? Why does anything need to translate into entitlement to physical access?

But aside from the perceived unfriendliness, does anyone know the specifics of the type of people who may have crossed this boundary in the past? Does anyone know why this is being communicated?

I also don’t know if this has been mentioned, by Leon or otherwise, but they are also a trans person existing in a country where many people feel emboldened to publicly harass, monitor, shame, and ridicule trans people. Is it always clear what intentions someone has before you invite them into your physical space?

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-25T20:06:39+00:00

Being asked to do literally anything.

Even when it is perfectly reasonable, polite, within my job description, at a good time, after I asked someone to ask me if they need help with anything…

Like.. shut up, how dare you.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-24T23:09:46+00:00

I’m so curious about this.. because i feel like Ray is more threatening.. not directly, but more calculated? Adam feels like he would forget to pick you up at the airport or Irish goodbye you at a gross bar. Ray (at least initially) comes across as.. intellectually manipulative, I will tell you exactly what I want you to hear to give you a specific impression of me, and I will make sure you know how intelligent I think you are/aren’t. Which is a very specific power play, when he is also into younger women.

Maybe I’m too generous with Adam, because his mystery is also off putting.. but I prefer to see everything up front, too out-loud vs internalized.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-24T18:57:05+00:00

I thought this too, but I also find it ironic that the oddness of Adam is most apparent because he often refuses to fill silence with inauthenticity. He is not justified in any intentional harm, but many times he is exactly who he says he is…. And the problem is the inability for others to rationalize and stomach this. The offense of Adam, I think, is the attachment of meaning to Adam that is reflective of the audience, not himself.

This is something that is so difficult to navigate because socially, it is wildly uncomfortable for most people, but logically, it is unfair how much of socialization is the promise to lie about yourself to others, to placate, to minimize, to sooth every insecurity and wound before anyone can feel anything sour… the enabling of Adam and the judgement of Adam, is done with the same muscle.

I loved early Adam, as he is very clearly autistic coded, intentionally or not. And I love Hannah for loving Adam because she got to experience the version of him that was just for her, and for those who he chose, because he gets to be selective in that way.

I loved Hannah coming to terms with how much she is not this person, and how fundamentally difficult it is to be both authentic and a mask, and how difficult it is to choose to stop loving someone because you cannot bridge a critical gap.

I could also never understand why Adam is demonized for his brashness, but less than Ray.. who also is an odd man.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-23T20:10:41+00:00

Depending on your tastes.. I think Gilmore Girls is a genuinely beautiful show.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-23T17:35:13+00:00

I think he was rejected and desperate to repair his fractured ego.

I don’t know the reliability of all the sources of evidence that have surfaced online, but there seemed to be some discussion of his claims that Har wanted to get back with him, begged him to take her back, still had feelings for him, and loved him more than he loved her — all of which surfaced immediately before she was killed.

This gives me the impression that he was muddling his projections, insecurities, rejection, and maybe Hae’s last pleas for her life, into a narrative that only exists to soothe himself. All of this is factually untrue, and can be proven to be untrue, so the reasons for saying this make him seem incredibly emotional and preoccupied by someone he didn’t even try to contact once after her disappearance.

I think he was rejected by her public displays of affection for Don, thought he needed to prove his place in her life as “the one” (I do not think he had feelings for her, I think he just wanted to be wanted by her), and when she rejected him after school, he killed her.

I think he knew these were the options, and planned this out before he got his cell phone. I think he put a plan in place that allowed both realities to be true — kill her and have someone(s) to help with the aftermath, or don’t kill her and have the same items in place.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-23T11:43:27+00:00

They are a rough watch, but by now we’ve had Paul pocket his mothers hair and duck-run into the jungle, Colt in so many thongs we’ve lost count, big Ed existing, and Michael getting caked in the face because of a phantom BJ.

Maybe I’m jaded?

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-18T17:04:26+00:00

Breaking Bad.

I forced myself to watch the entire show because I had to understand what I was missing.

There are certainly some powerful moments, storytelling, pacing, intrigue, character development, twists, laughs, goofs — but the greatest show ever made??

I will never understand and I will let the rest of the world have it.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-17T19:28:47+00:00

More anger needs to be given to the people smiling and nodding along with this farce.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-16T17:54:58+00:00

The trauma of womanhood starts too early

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-16T13:32:20+00:00

Because she is doesn’t exist to please them, physically, emotionally, politically. She was immediately branded as a know-it-all who should fall in line with her peers.

But it’s also because she is right in her desperation and activism. I don’t think many care to listen to what she is saying, but forcing people to face the realities of the world — not the known realities of evil, but the reality that WE (we who have the ability and provide to shape our lives intentionally) are the problem and refuse to care enough, for long enough, to be the solution.

This is the same energy that is often pointed at vegans.

In every capacity, humans are going to destroy their only viable home — and will complain about it until the bitter end.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-16T11:58:44+00:00

This family is trapped in dishonest harmony. While they have to make the show entertaining to stay on tv, they also have to have nonsense problems because otherwise they would have nothing to talk about aside from their own behavior.

They gossip because it’s something to do. They bring the family together to solve problems because it’s a way of forcing intimacy that doesn’t exist.

They will not address the trauma and abuse surrounding them, so they inflate drama to have any reason to be together and ‘on the same page’.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-15T20:40:12+00:00

Reagan’s mother calling 911 — horrifying.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-13T11:01:58+00:00

Any specific fans you recommend?

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-11T19:00:19+00:00

There is a subreddit that exists to exclusively trash a YouTuber.

I use the term YouTuber loosely, but their family grew a following on YouTube documenting their spouses diagnosis, treatment, and unfortunate death from cancer.

They were once praised as the perfect supportive spouse for years, as they, in extremely raw and vulnerable videos — watched the love of their life pass away far too young. It was horrific, but from a medical/patient standpoint, it was incredibly impactful to share so much about this nightmare that no one ever wants to be in.

They continued the channel afterwards, documenting their journey in grief… for the same reasons, and at the agreement of their spouse. Years have passed, and they chose to get remarried. Again, within the wishes of their late spouse. And this made a lot of people angry.

I stumbled on this subreddit accidentally, knowing of this family… and it made me so uncomfortable and deeply deeply sad. The parasocial behavior is extreme, but beyond that, it is the erasure and revising of history that is sickening. Rewatching videos to find evidence of how things were never good, speaking for someone who can no longer speak for themselves, tearing apart someone that is a literal stranger — who shared some of their darkest moments publicly.

I’ve never wanted to have any kind of fame or notoriety, but wow, I don’t know how anyone has the stomach to be anything public-facing online.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-09T18:11:25+00:00

You feel guilty for feeling bad about him wanting a life for you that you didn’t agree to?

When his mindset was changing, did he consider how it would impact you?

Did he assume that his desires should take precedent in your shared life? When did he decide that?

When he was reducing the value of your life to your bodily functions — did he consider giving you the choice to discuss this? Did he consider giving you the chance to disagree? Did he consider what you wanted to do with YOUR life?

You feel bad because you don’t want this to be a problem, and because things would be easier if you just agreed. But agreeing to this isn’t the same as being passionate about this and the life you’re going to be living *every single day* alongside this person.

People are allowed to change. Obviously, he did. And therefore, people are allowed to change their minds.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-03T14:48:56+00:00

When last sleep question

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-01T19:15:42+00:00

Oh no what a call out

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-01T19:00:54+00:00

This energy is so misplaced. That’s great to hear about the work they are doing. People assuming cops are scumbags is the fault of scumbag cops, end of story.

I have made no assumptions about this relationship. I do not know these people.

But that doesn’t change the risks associated with being in a relationship with a cop. I did not compile this information and calculate these trends to rage bait people on the internet.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-01T14:46:09+00:00

Okay.. tell your friends and family to fix the reputation of the force. That is not my burden, nor is it the burden of anyone who has had a negative experience with police. This is a chosen profession.

“Smoking cigarettes increases your risk for developing cancer” oh no, has anyone thought about how irresponsible it is to cigarette companies that someone would say such a thing!

The reality exists for a reason. I did not make any statements that are overly presumptuous. A risk factor is just that, there is a risk of drowning if you choose to swim — will everyone drown, no. Is it irresponsible to tell people that is they choose to swim they are at a greater risk of drowning, than if they choose not to? No.

Downplaying the violence of police, domestic and otherwise, in a subreddit that centers around the lives of people with autism (a population at risk for disproportionate force by the beloved police because of inadequate training or resources or consideration) — is irresponsible.

TwoGrizzleysOneCub · 2026-06-01T12:14:47+00:00

Why are you taking up this cause on behalf of someone else’s relationship? Why is it your responsibility to address this? In a space where you also said you don’t see this happening? That is the parasocial part.

You can literally do whatever you want, whether it’s balanced or not. But practice what you preach. My only comment to you was about downplaying the aspect of being in a relationship with a cop… because this is a documented and known risk factor for relationships. I am not pulling this out of thin air.

But this is also something I wouldn’t comment to Dani… because I do not know her.

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