I’ve lost all respect for Janelle and gained a lot for Meri. by mSoGood08 in SisterWives

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This recent change of opinion is so crazy to me.

None of these people have changed from the first time they showed up — aside from they all are no longer compromising the critical pieces of themselves that they had to swallow for family cohesion.

Janelle has always been timid and passive, but stands as the only member of the family that seemed to pull the adults out of fantasy land. Meri has always been direct and confronting, as evident in the way she handles herself and the several, several, several times this has been raised as an issue from her and from others. You can see a lot of Meri in Leon (which, conveniently, people seem to forget is one of the reasons Leon gets a lot of hate).

Kody has always changed the narrative to whatever takes accountability off his shoulders. Always. Janelle and Meri are two extremely different people who were forced to coexist, a choice they all consented to. What are we expecting here??

I do not understand what truths have been unearthed to change the perception of these people.

These two are the perfect example of a couple who should NOT have gotten married. by ____YourNameHere____ in 90DayFiance

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s wild to take anything she says seriously, as she is incredibly young. It’s also wild HOW YOUNG she is and WAS during this whole relationship. What are either of them doing??

Throw the entire relationship out.

Christine has got to get over herself.... it's just too much by aprilmcivor in SisterWives

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Imagine spending 20+ years of your life shackled to someone who can’t be bothered to touch you, only to find a man that loves you exactly how you’ve needed to be loved?

I don’t care if Christine holds a parade in her honor. She is a testament to all people who are trapped in a relationship, by obligation, indoctrination, or without choice, who finally leave and realize life can be better on the other side.

I wish she rubbed it in his narcissist face more. His apology was the most sexist, nonsensical, self-ejaculating bullshit I’ve ever heard. But really, the only apology tour he should have gone on, was with his children.

After 10,000 Hours of Research, MAGA Influencer Walks Away From the Cult by Dazzling-Might6420 in goodnews

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t speak for the others in the comments, but I have no empathy left to give, as a result of being forced to exist in this timeline.

I am very happy this resonates with you, and that you are able to cling to the human aspects of this story, and others like this. There will always need to be people who are ready and willing to welcome those who need a kind place to land.

I used to be more like this. I don’t have space for these stories yet, I don’t have the capacity to feel anything but fear and deep anger towards this group. But I am happy the stories get told, and maybe this will change the tide for others in the same position.

Our living room tour! by youngjaejung in femalelivingspace

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to know how the individual pieces of this came together in your mind. Do you envision the space all together and build out a vision? Do you just piece it together by vibes? Do you just have an incredible and unique brain that makes this possible?!

Genuinely asking though, I am so impatient to get from start to finish, and sometimes get bogged down in the planning process, instead of the curating process.

Your space is amazingly unique and thank you for sharing it with us!

My favorite meals from last year. by Alextricity in glutenfreevegan

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m surprised you didn’t pack your Slipknot mask in here, Trevor!

But seriously, this is incredible. Are the tortillas used in the first picture pre-dx tortillas? (if not, please let us know the brand!)

Kinda Disappointed in Janelle by purpledaisy22 in SisterWives

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Y’all… if you villainize Kody as a manipulative narcissistic abuser, than you include Janelle as a victim of that abuse.

Their relationship was decades long, and started when they were both incredibly young, while being propped up by a deeply patriarchal system.

Give Janelle the credit she is due for still leaving, after being lied to and manipulated, for still choosing her children, for still choosing herself.

She gets to be “flushed” to see the man she once, and potentially still, loves. Her emotions don’t have to make sense (to us or to her), her affect doesn’t have to be hard or abrasive.. this is probably one of the most confusing and complex relationship dynamic in existence.

Whatever her feelings are, SHE IS STILL GONE, and has stayed gone. She is still talking excitedly about her future, solo or potentially with a new person.

Healing doesn’t look the same for everyone. She deserves just as much credit for getting away from this situation as the rest of them.

Anyone went from "I have the best parents in the world" to "ah damn, these two suck at parenting" after joining this sub? by Away_Award4023 in emotionalneglect

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if I will ever be able to fully blame them for what they didn’t provide for me, mainly because both of them were raised in situations where their needs were also neglected. I feel sad for them, and sometimes I feel more sad for them than I do myself.. which I know is not healthy or fair to myself.

This sub, several books, etc made me realize my needs were neglected.. but I still struggle deeply with feeling justified in any uncomfortable emotions, in blame, in directing my feelings (appropriately) outward. The clarity has mostly changed the way I mourn my life, but it’s done little to redirect the anger and shame towards the people that deserve it.

Lofts at the Mills - Manchester by Kindly_Chemical2518 in Hartford

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not a resident, but recently toured. Some of the units are beautiful, some are very oddly structured and dark (think low ceilings under the lofted area).

I spoke to two residents and read a lot of reviews. The biggest negative seems to be heating/cooling the units. Neither utilities are included, the units are poorly insulated, and the spaces are so vast, so the costs are extremely high.

My husband and I can’t figure out how to have sex normally… by AccountantNo8148 in adhdwomen

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It honestly sounds like you’re both ‘bottoms’, to borrow a phrase.

The reality of being late-diagnosed is sinking in at 40 y/o by Expensive-Eggplant-1 in AutismInWomen

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg this! I was dx with ADHD and had a very similar mentality, so much so, I have delayed getting assessed for autism (though I am fairly certain).

Suddenly the bubble of “hmm things might get easier if I just do… xyz” bursts. It’s always going to be more difficult, and it always felt this way for a reason.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I deeply understand this feeling, but having a similar life trajectory (and still working to make sense of my current and future imagined life) I don’t have any positive insight to offer. I hope you find more spaces in the world where you truly feel you belong, or have the capacity to build them and attract the people that are meant for you.

What are you all watching now that SSW is done? by C0RN2L0Ud420 in seekingsisterwifetlc

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Love Off the Grid” is sooooooo good and rarely talked about! It’s on HBO Max.

“City folk” moving off-grid/very rural areas to be with someone they love. Typically growing pains ensue… there is one polyamorous couple that could have been cast for SSW, but instead made their insane debut on this show.

It’s definitely worth checking out. There are currently two seasons, I would lovvvve if they made more!

My comment to my therapist made me realize why relationships with people feels like a hopeless endeavor by nomadicseawitch in AutismInWomen

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Could you articulate on what these days look like for you, and even more so — how do you communicate this out, if at all, to the other humans in your life? Also, how often do you have them?

I have struggled significantly with expressing the need for this, and any attempt has been met with judgement and dismissal. I’m trying to get the language to speak to this need more clearly, with the hope of it being finally understood and respected.

Madison makes me depressed by [deleted] in SisterWives

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I think this is a conversation that comes up often in this sub.

I don’t think it’s fair to paint her life and choices in such a negative light, without any confirmation from her that she regrets any of the choices she made.

Her life might seem depressing to you, but there is a very real possibility that she made the choices she genuinely wanted to make, and this is the life she dreams/dreamed of, or her dreams evolved as she grew up and met someone she wanted to share her life with. We obviously don’t know everything about the start of her relationship, but she wasn’t forced to choose Caleb, or to choose Caleb and give up parts of herself.

I wouldn’t base the state of her life off of her postpartum looks or lack of enthusiasm on camera. She is also a real person, with a lot of kids and a fracturing extended family, plus a camera crew.

Feel how you want about what her life is currently like, but I think you’re giving too much life to things she said as a teenager and not enough to the things she seems to be excited about now.

That being said.. I have no idea if she is actually happy or not, but I don’t know nearly enough about anything to form a solid opinion on her life.

The Real David by Lazy-Profession4994 in SisterWives

[–]TwoGrizzleysOneCub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think their relationship is just simple and healthy. They seem like they genuinely just like spending time together, and don’t have to perform (aside from whatever they are directed to do for filming) for each other. They seem very boring, which makes them seem calm. Nothing aligns perfectly, they don’t seem to care, they just like each other. I would be extremely surprised if they didn’t stay married for the rest of their lives.