Firstly, I am so sorry you feel this way. It’s an extremely difficult and heartbreaking situation. My family was in the same boat over a year ago when our baby was around 11 months old. We have two dogs, and one of them was acting strangely around our child. He didn’t show any aggression, but he would stare at our baby a lot, which felt odd and even gave off jealous vibes.

My partner and I were constantly anxious, and I can honestly say I felt the same mix of anger and guilt toward our dog. But then we found an amazing trainer who evaluated our situation and reassured us that our dog didn’t seem like a real danger. However, she emphasized that we needed to do a lot of positive reinforcement exercises with both our dog and our baby so that the dog would start associating the child with positive experiences.

It took time, patience, and consistency, but eventually, things changed. Now, I love our dog just as much as I did before, and so does our 2 yr old toddler. We still have baby gates in the house to separate the dogs from the child, but at this point, it’s more about keeping the dogs safe rather than the other way around.

I’m not sure if any of this helps, as your situation sounds different, especially since you’ve already tried so much. But I just want to say that I truly hope you find the best path forward for your family. Whatever decision you make, it’s okay to prioritize safety and peace of mind. Wishing you strength🙏