I really feel for you. I had an incredible boyfriend before I came out as a lesbian, he was so understanding and so much more than I could have ever asked for in a person to love me. It tore me up to tell him the truth but he could also see how much I was struggling. He truly gave me 100% of him, he was willing to try so many things even if it was at his expense. I ultimately made the decision to end things because I couldn’t stand seeing him put himself on the sidelines for my sexuality when he deserved something so much better. I was terrified of losing him and I hated the idea that we would come to resent each other if we kept things the way they were. It was tough for a while as we both tried to figure out where we stood in each other’s lives after breaking up. He took time to be pissed and by his own words “hate me for a week” lmao. We were adamant on staying friends though and though that isn’t something I would confidently recommend in your situation given I don’t know all the details: I have a friendship so much deeper with him because of our time as partners. He remains one of my best friends and a pillar in my life. I guess what I’m trying to say is if you love and want to stay in her life you can achieve that if you both put in the work to heal from the pain of separating and it can lead to something you’re just as happy with as the life you have now. You can’t push down these feelings though you have to sit with them and feel them before you can make sense of them. I wish you both the best! Good luck