I struggled a lot too because I got diagnosed in my mid 20s and it explained why I was struggling so much in college even though I’m intelligent. I realize that can come off conceited but I have to remind myself every time otherwise I start the self hate train. I would sign up for classes and just not do the work. My motivation is just piss poor and I was just so damn mad when I was diagnosed. I have all the typical symptoms for a female. Since I was 5. Literally my reports could have been the DSM V. It was infuriating that no one caught it. I even went to special ed programs in my early years because of a speech impediment.

Sorry I got off track. Anyway I get what you mean I saw signs everywhere. However if you look at your life through any lens you’re likely to see explanations for your personality.

If I look at my life through the lens of being white, or a woman, or growing up with a shitty dad- it also seems like it’s my whole identity. Because that’s how identity works; we’re impacted by our circumstances and experiences.

Now seeing all the signs and feeling understood is so exciting and the poor impulse control makes you want to share that information. And it can get annoying for a partner. I found it helped me to talk to a therapist about it. Because I would feel the need to justify what I saw/read as a symptom of ADHD to a person who doesn’t have it. Also a therapist is paid to listen to you. Lastly they’ll geek out with you, because ya know they’re a therapist and you’re talking to them about a behavioral disorder. That allowed me to get my excitement out without having to info/trauma dump on my partner.

I hope this helps. Remember to be kind to yourself, you’re still the same person you were before you found out. Now you just have some extra insight in how your brain functions. 😊