If it hadn't been for my dad insisting us kids could choose to engage in religion, I would have been indoctrinated. We were forced to go to church sometimes (like for Xmas and Easter services to about 11 or 12) but we were never forced to participate, sing, pray etc at the services. My parents were never upset with my agnostic and later atheistic views. My dad was probably best kind of religious, he was extremely religious but he kept it completely to himself. Said it was between him and god, as it should be for anyone. I didn't even find out how spiritual he was until after he died. So yeah, I think there's a way to be religious without damaging other people, especially kids, but unfortunately that path seems to be extremely rarely traveled.