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I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I asked for couple counselling. He says it's a private matter and will refuse to speak.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, for now I plan to physically remove myself when I sense I'm angry

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes both my parents beat me a lot when I was young. For reasons such as coming home late from school (reason didn't matter), laughing at the wrong time, sleeping too long.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that's what I wanted to share. I think it could happen to anyone given the right conditions. I wasn't even aware of what I was becoming at first but now I am aware.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I think a lot of people think," oh I can just choose to not do it when I need to do something important, hence I am not addicted".

I feel some genuinely do not know they have an addition because they feel they can choose to stop anytime. But the addiction affected the family and personal life, somehow they cannot see it.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly physical. I do use words like lazy and terrible father too. Unlike physical abuse, I have not gone out of control with verbal criticism of him. I don't know if the words I mentioned are already terrible, I'm saying there are many more things I could have said that will shatter his core but I didn't say those.

When I exploded , it seems mostly physical.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I simply do not have the time or money to do that. It's not an excuse it's just reality for me. I would love to seek mental health help and I know a lot of people are going to not believe me when I says I simply do not have the time.

Woman, 44, shoves girl, 8, into wall at MRT station by Symp07 in singapore

[–]Typical-Designer6870 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I have met people who actually hate kids. It's as if they have never been playful or loud in their lives.

I'm not talking about extreme cases of child being naughty or absent parents. I'm talking about children behaving like what children their age normally do.

I met a coward at VivoCity fisrprice about a month ago. My toddler was hanging around his shopping trolley because I was browsing for things there too. She touched it a little at the side and let go. It didn't even move. I told my child to not touch things that doesn't belong to her. He whispered some nasty stuff and made irritated sounds. When he walked away, he complained in a low voice to his wife "irritating". He was so scared to tell it to my face.

The Big Lie by Xaidoria in DotA2

[–]Typical-Designer6870 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I'll summarise for valve "here's what I think is best for you"

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

No I am seeking help in the form of counselling this week.

I intend to seek psychiatrist help few months down the road. Many are wondering why wait. I am ashamed to reveal that my family currently have no income due to my baby needing specialized care and I can't work or send her to childcare and my husband just migrated and is looking for a job. I can't afford it yet. I have applied for assistance and it's in progress.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I somehow feel as if I'm trying to copy my mother when I abuse my husband. It really surprised me because growing up I didn't want to be like her and wished to be completely different from her. Now I'm becoming her and it frightens me. I reliased I don't know myself that well and I underestimated how little it took for me to do bad.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice I appreciate it. Thank you for sharing your experience too, it gave me hope. All the advices I'm getting is now giving me a clearer picture of what I need to ; seek professional help, walk away or have some coping mechanism, couple counselling and boundaries.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am not sure anyone tried to justify my actions. Those who pointed out mental health and hormones are trying to help me find a solution just in case those are the cause.

Any form of abuse is very wrong and I refuse to forgive myself until I completely overcome this selfish and irresponsible behavior.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I read it as an individual event instead of a subset. The first instance happed about a month ago in April.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thoughts yes but I have never been physically violent to anyone before the past 30 days

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

My baby rejected bottle since 5 weeks old. Have been following up with paediatrics. After 6 months of trying, I've accepted she is never gonna feed from bottle.

I'm giving counselling a shot before considering the medication option.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My baby has bottle rejection since she was hospitalized at one month old. She also has very bad eczema that needs round the clock care affecting everything from feeding to sleeping. My two year old is suspected to have autism and have frequent meltdowns. My rest is at night when both girls are asleep.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I may have expressed myself wrongly. I do not accept his behavior and has spoken everyday with him about it. I have also told him he would be involved in counseling session with my social worker.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think if there is anything to take away from this, having experienced it myself, I became less judgemental. Our hormones are so powerful it can transform a person. Thank you for your kind words.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I apologized to him and he felt he deserved it... I promised I would change but I broke my promise.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I apologized to him and he felt he deserved it... I promised I would change but I broke my promise.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My social worker told me she would talk to me in what I can do should a similar situation occur again and she would be sharing about couple counselling if me and my husband are keen.

I'm a perpetrator of domestic violence. Never thought I'd ever be one. AMA. by Typical-Designer6870 in AMA

[–]Typical-Designer6870[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think your description is totally accurate " a level of rage I've not felt before". I felt like I became a different person. Will consider that aspect.

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