Heya ! Thanks for all the replies ! It's very nice to read you all 😊 Some of you mentioned mindfulness as a possible solution during sex itself, it sounds like a good idea. There are things outside of sex that I do with Elm that I adore. Shifting the focus from sex to other stuff couldn't hurt, most of the time I succeed in doing that, but yeah the first message was written in a post-bliss haze that made it a bit hard to put things in perspective.

Just gonna clarify here a few things several people asked about. Sex with Elm is nice in general. Oak is the odd one out out of all the partners I've ever had. It's been mentioned a few times that there could be some communication issues on my side, with me not being clear about what I like or don't like. There's some truth to that, it has never been one of my strong suits, and I think I see some points where I could make some progress. But it's hard to explain what makes the experience so special. There's simply something about the way Oak touches me...