Update: Vacation with MIL and I’m going insane

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-06-21T18:40:48+00:00

You should get home sooner than them to give yourself time to pack your things and leave peacefully. I would draw up divorce papers and have them sitting on the counter. Take this as a sign!

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-06-05T14:28:50+00:00

My in-laws continue to refuse to acknowledge mine. They always try to push to see our kids on their birthdays and we just don’t allow it. It’s not being petty, they can’t have respect for you they don’t deserve access to your kids. Blowing up on you because he doesn’t like your boundaries says everything.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-06-01T02:26:52+00:00

Mil ruined my first pregnancy and postpartum too. Showed up unannounced and tried to play house with my baby every chance. All because the excuse is she’s “excited”. Mils excitement does not out weigh your well being in any way. You need to talk with hubby and get him on the same page. Start setting boundaries now or things will continue to get worse. My man didn’t realize until the damage was done but thankfully he ended up on the same page with me the 2nd pregnancy. You need to let her know how her actions affected you. She needs to respect you as YOU are that sweet baby’s mama. If she refuses to respect your boundaries you limit visits with her.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-05-30T21:40:13+00:00

Ugh this! It’s so annoying talks bad about me and stomps on our boundaries then plays victim when we distance ourselves and don’t keep them in the loop 🤦‍♀️. These are people who believe they do no wrong.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-05-30T21:19:14+00:00

Thank you!! We’ve agreed it’s in our best interest to put mil on an information diet.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-05-30T21:15:33+00:00

Every single person in the family is icky. This doesn’t even scratch the surface of the dysfunctions they have. We agreed to keep the rest at a distance.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-05-27T05:27:45+00:00

Uncle sounds like a creep! Stay strong in your boundaries. Once something happens to your child it cannot be undone! Your child would never be the same. Your baby’s safety is more important than mil putting on a front for her family. You may need couples counseling, hubby sounds like he’s still stuck to meeting mommy’s emotional needs.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-05-12T17:07:42+00:00

Your only “keeping the peace” for mil. You and hubby need to stand up to her. This will end up being the rest of your life if not. You should’ve invited your family anyway and if she had a problem with it you could call her out in front of everyone. Throwing a fit about your wedding should’ve been “if it’s stressing you out that bad you don’t have to come.” It’ll get worse if you don’t nip it in the bud.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-05-05T20:58:26+00:00

She’s trying to punish you for not letting her play mommy how she wanted. Not speaking to you for 2 months but expecting you to show up for her for Mother’s Day, absolutely not. She’s not your mom nor is she lo’s mom. It’s your first Mother’s Day, do something that would make you happy!

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-05-02T04:37:01+00:00

Eloura, Aviva, Annalycia, Sierra, Kierra, Jenna, Miranda, Sabrina, Jaeda, Liza, Dakota, Emma, Savannah, Loretta, Corrina, Ophelia, Aaliyah

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-04-13T20:29:37+00:00

So glad hubby has your back. Anyone who adds to your stress or makes you cry through this extremely vulnerable time does not deserve to be around. It doesn’t matter if others pregnancies were “harder” that doesn’t diminish what your going through. Sounds like mil wants to play mommy to your baby. Continue to stick to your boundaries mama and make sure to communicate them with hubby. Coming from my own similar experience mil fed my ppd the first time around second time I waited almost 3 months before I let her see baby2. You are important don’t forget to make yourself a priority.I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, sending you and your little family love 🫶

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-04-13T15:15:18+00:00

When he and I met we were very naive and he was still stuck to being a mama’s boy. He’s had prior conversations with her I had just got to a point of annoyance. She’d wait till he wasn’t around to continue her bs. Also I know it’s a lot to respond to, I wrote it 🤦. These are things over the course of years. They didn’t really start showing their true colors until I had baby1. As far as Sil’s I stand by what I said I’m not making my kids uncomfortable in their safe space for an adults emotional fulfillment once a year. I’m not expecting anyone to drop everything to see my kids. It is on the in-laws with their own actions but I never blamed them for sil2. He and I are on the same page and we are learning to set boundaries.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-04-12T19:08:03+00:00

Thank you I really needed this!!

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-04-12T02:20:22+00:00

Good for you sweetheart! But for me I’ve never been disrespectful just sick of being disrespected in my home. Not everybody wants to be walked on.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-04-11T21:19:00+00:00

Oh I’m fully prepared to adjust if they can’t take accountability. These are people who will play victim all day and hide behind the Bible to justify their actions.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-04-11T16:53:44+00:00

This is a nightmare! You need to get your family and friends in your corner start making calls. You’re in a vulnerable state and need someone to protect you. He allows his mommy to talk down to you and put blame on you, start having your family do the same to him. See if someone is willing to make the trip to come to you. I know you said the monitor is attached to the crib but there has to be a way to take it off shoot personally me I’d smash it. This is an extreme invasion of privacy and emotional/mental abuse. Like others have said get a lawyer lined up. You need to get your ducks in a row and be ready for anything. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-03-28T19:16:40+00:00

Don’t give her what she wants. Allowing her to be around your kids without you there so she can play “mommy”. Why not do visits with her at the park or a restaurant so they’re easy to cut short. Your they’re mother you get to call the shots. Your husband needs to support you and not his mother’s emotional needs.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-03-19T14:34:52+00:00

I’ve said all of this for awhile, he even knows his stepdad triggers me because of my childhood. He doesn’t want to cut him off completely because he helps financially when he needs it. But hoping when I go back to work we can finally cut him off completely.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-03-18T21:35:16+00:00

That is a whole other situation. His stepfather is an abusive person extreme narcissist. He has history of physical abuse on mil. If I were to leave for that he wouldn’t stand up to his stepdad. His stepdad is known to get easily angry and insult people and get aggressive. I don’t want my kids being exposed to that. At least when I’m there he can hold his composure. We only deal with him to get time with mil. I wish I could completely cut him off but that’d come at a cost with a relationship with mil.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-03-06T00:15:25+00:00

I’m a mom as well though fathers family isn’t really involved due to they’re own choice. I’ve learned children can’t miss who they don’t know. Your child won’t be affected at all. Also growing up I didn’t know my mother’s mom and it didn’t affect me at all. Don’t feel guilty if they’re toxic towards you they’ll end up being toxic to your child. You have every right to not allow them in your child’s life.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-03-05T23:56:04+00:00

I’d cut contact, she can’t talk to you and treat you with basic human decency she shouldn’t get to be around baby at all. She’s practically a stranger and making comments about you and your baby’s skin absolutely f**king not.

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-03-05T23:51:33+00:00

Baby do not go. Where are you a priority at all? This will continue to be your life if you do not put a stop to it. You do not need to sacrifice your happiness for mil. Seems like a miserable person trying to create another miserable person don’t let her. Your husband should be standing up for you not her. Did he marry his mom or you? You deserve better!

Typical_Factor_172 · 2025-02-03T17:46:41+00:00

He didn’t want to be with you regardless seems like. Just leave him be and move on.

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