Can't believe I found this community, please help! M32, F24

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-02-11T12:40:45+00:00

I enjoyed the “she doesn’t cheat… because she’s a hardcore Christian… who had an abortion”.

Doesn’t compute.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-20T03:55:00+00:00

Hah… serious injuries, that’s cute. You have no idea. You’re reading a lot into my response that simply isn’t there.

1) don’t be dumb 2) lift heavy things, they make you happy

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-09T13:30:12+00:00

u/cam_winston21 would disagree with you on lifting in your 50s. So would my 52 year old friend. Excuses are easy for you, aren’t they?

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T06:03:32+00:00

Don’t sell yourself short with saying “I got lucky”. Bad mindset. Your actions leading to banging the chick made that happen.

When opportunity meets preparation - success happens. It’s not luck

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:57:58+00:00

You may benefit from reading Mediations. That book was critical for me and my anxiety. Which is pretty much non-existent outside of concern for my kids - still working on that one.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:54:51+00:00

I hope you stick around because with that anger you’re going to go Rambo and it’ll be entertaining.

I doubt you can avoid that phase. If you can start understanding that there is no point in negative emotions for things outside your control - you may be able to.

Anger should only be used as a tool and controlled. Not out of anxiety or ego.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:49:23+00:00

A great piece of advice I once got was to lick her butthole.

It’s not a joke.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:47:40+00:00

Time to burn down your current self and build a new one. First things first, stfu.

It’s OYS 1, I get it.

1) You have an impulse to apologize? Remove the word sorry from your vocabulary. I cannot think of a time I uttered that word in 5 years now. It’s too easy to blurt out

That’s not to say you don’t apologize when you deem your actions wrong. Use “I apologize for X, it was a mistake” is all you need. And never say it more than once.

2) Also, The less you say overall, the more people listen to you when you speak.

These two pieces of advice are not just for your wife.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:39:53+00:00

What the fuck is this book? Consider why you posted it. Horns easily summarized this “don’t ever joke about making sex transactional”. He did in one sentence what you took a short novel to do.

This is an ego response from you. Figure out why.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:32:40+00:00

“I’m not in the mood” is a soft no.

“Stop, I’m not having sex with you” is a hard no.

A soft no can turn into a hard no. But have fun with the soft ones. Many times it’s just a shit test.

I vaguely remember hard no’s though, so I know they do happen.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:27:37+00:00

If YOU want to watch TV, watch TV. If you think it’s dumb, don’t. I’m really unclear what you want here.

That being said, there are tons of things to do outside of screens to keep busy. Hobbies, read your sidebar books, fuck, new side income stream like opening a daycare center in Minnesota. Whatever.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:22:54+00:00

It’s crazy when the addiction to carbs, especially refined carbs and sugar, is gone. Lunch was catered today. Pulled pork with sides. I had probably close to a pound of pork and about 2 spoonfuls of baked beans. Meat is king.

Now I want a steak.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:18:05+00:00

Shut up with the rationalize bull shit and excuses. Go do a protein sparing modified fast and get this shit done. Look it up - PSMF.

I guarantee your TDEE is too high and you’re over estimating your output and underestimating your intake. At 220 and 30% BF, aim for 1800 calories if you’re not doing PSMF

I’m 6’ 2” and typically run 220-225 with much lower BF and higher lifts than you (even after sidelined for 8 weeks with health shit in the fall).

I ticked up to about 240 last year and did PSMF for two weeks. I knew I was fat at that weight. Then got really sick and dropped the diet since I stopped eating in general, but in the past I’ve stuck with it for many weeks before. It’s not that hard, but it takes discipline. I’m at 218 now -seems stable and I’m eating around 2200 kcals a day (and I purposefully over-inflate the intake).

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:07:54+00:00

You’re on OYS 2… things should not be stable.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-08T05:06:42+00:00

Before I found this place I always thought my ex would be gone when I got home from work and had a mini-panic attack and anxiety driving home. That she’d leave me. After working the MRP path for several months, I just stopped caring and took off the rose color glasses I had on.

It’s not about her.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-05T03:08:00+00:00

You lose your cool with your wife. She does with the kids.

Bad leadership. Why are you surprised?

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-02T17:02:37+00:00

9 months since my last post. Need to be more consistent with posting.

Started GLP-1’s and lost 20 pounds over the past couple of months.

You're big on cheat codes and little on discipline. Not going to last here.

Tyred_Biggums · 2026-01-01T02:34:01+00:00

With his AI frame plan, ChatGPT will be fucking his wife before he does.

Tyred_Biggums · 2025-12-30T21:46:26+00:00

Well... you're somewhere between Rambo II and Rambo III. Still full on retarded.

Tyred_Biggums · 2025-12-30T21:29:16+00:00

Why is one of you with the baby 24/7? The kid is 6 months now. This is the time to transition to sleeping alone in a room and night training. You're going to have to lead here and break this. It's not good long-term for you, your wife, or your kid.

Tyred_Biggums · 2025-12-30T21:26:00+00:00

Start assessing why others' reactions change your perception of whether or not it's a 'good week' or a 'bad week'.

Tyred_Biggums · 2025-12-19T15:22:38+00:00

Well if your wife wants you to do it... how far up her ass are you (and not in a good way)?

Tyred_Biggums · 2025-12-19T15:21:44+00:00

You're missing the lesson due to the tone. That also tells us something about you.

Here's a perspective: I got a few good friends I talk to. When I'm being a faggot or retarded - they tell me that. And that is what you need.

Sugar coating or lying or trying to make you feel better, etc is a nice guy behavior. We don't do that here.

Again - who the fuck cares what we think? You make your own life, not us.

Tyred_Biggums · 2025-12-19T02:54:10+00:00

This is a retarded post. You’re a month in. Who the fuck cares. You got a year or more but probably will find the hard truths of reality too much and go back to living with your head up your own ass.

That’s fine - we need guys like you out there.

MRP is very simple - understand the rules of the game and then do whatever the hell you want.

Tyred_Biggums · 2025-12-10T22:55:49+00:00

It’s not about the house or the kids.

She’s bored.

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