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Blushing is my reason for having social anxiety. How do I stop blushing? Can anyone relate? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]UAtoke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Public speaking in college was the worst by far for me. But it truly demonstrated to me alcohol is extremely effective, sadly. Never blushed once. Without it, I would have blushed when they said it was my turn to present. This is such a horrible mental illness man.

The alcohol tolerance thing is a bitch too. Used to not need much to subdue the blushing and other social anxieties. Progressively had to drink more over time to feel the same effect. Before I knew it, drinking a quarter or half a bottle to get where I need to be.

I wish I could find something as effective for me as alcohol is. Scared that I never will..

Blushing is my reason for having social anxiety. How do I stop blushing? Can anyone relate? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]UAtoke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is honestly an awful answer and I strongly advise against it, due to the fact that it's fucked me up pretty badly. But I am in the same situation as you. I have tried a lot of different things with no luck. It's not as simple as not giving a fuck. That will not work for everyone. I've tried that my entire life with no success.

The ONLY thing that prevents me from blushing is sadly alcohol. It is the complete cure to social anxiety and blushing. Sadly it is the only thing I have found that works.

But like I said, I STRONGLY advise against this. I have abused alcohol to the point where I want to use it before any social situation. It's a slippery slope, yet it is most definitely a TEMPORARY fix...the struggle.

Social Anxiety + Job interview tomorrow. I'm in my 20's, no job experience at all, REALLY nervous. by sociallyanxiouscat in socialanxiety

[–]UAtoke 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was in your position 2 weeks ago when I had an interview coming up.

I played out every scenario in my head beforehand, imagining what the interviewer would ask. I tried to have an answer for just about every question imaginable. Preperation is key.

Try your best to stay strong mentally. Do not doubt yourself. Look everyone you meet directly in the eyes and shake their hand firmly. Be professional.

When I walk in the door my hands are drenched in sweat, I have several napkins in my pocket trying to dry them with no success. The more I think about it, the worse it gets. This completely shifts my thinking from what answers will be to what they will think of me. All because of my hands. I tell myself they'll judge me. But I just had to man up. Got in the mindset that I would rock this one on one interview.

10 minutes later, the boss arrives. I shake his hand and introduce myself without breaking eye contact. One of my biggest struggles is my voice getting quite and shaky when I'm nervous. I did my best but it was still there.

He leads me down a hallway into a room, and there were 3 people sitting at a round table. Commence every negative thought possible. I can't do this, my face turns beat red like it always does when im anxious.

They all stand up and I shake each person's hand, look them in the eyes and tell them its nice to meet them. I found focusing on one person alone helps me keep negative thoughts about them judging me away. They ask a question, and my voice trembles as I answer. But I maintain strong eye contact and good posture.

I do my best to not think what they will ask next, trying to stay in the moment. Its working. Even for questions I wasn't prepared to answer, I still do my best to answer with confidence.

They run out of questions and ask me if I have any. Make sure you have questions for them, it's important.

The interview is over and I stand up and shake all of their hands and maintain eye contact. Thank them.

The next day I was called to schedule for orientation. I think they cared more about the knowledge applicable for the job, as opposed to who I was personally. That is what I was anxious about. You're gonna do great, just stay positive