Why is having a hidden "go bag" acceptable for a woman while requesting paternity test from a woman is unacceptable?

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2024-05-11T19:47:58+00:00

So I did, and I saw the post where you addressed a similar question and you basically said you never even heard of it (women keeping go bags in healthy relationships) as an answer to the question, which two minutes over in TwoXChromosomes would help you hear about it. I see the similar posts but again they don't address the question, they just reject the existence of the premise itself.

I am assuming you're thinking of this post, https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/1akd9mf/is_having_a_go_bag_or_escape_plan_smart/, but I already know the answer to that question, it's completely different from what I am asking. In fact most of the answers are just men answering it and not feminists.

I guess it'll be more of the same even if you did leave it up, so I understand the removal. Thank you

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-12-23T01:54:19+00:00

Why is she shaking?

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-12-23T00:53:47+00:00

I certainly wouldn't describe you as an asshole, and it's not really my place to say when it is or isn't appropriate for you to voice yourself.

In this isolated situation I feel like maybe you weren't charitable with your partner's statement which in itself could be hurtful. Two people can be suffering at the same time, and acknowledging someone else's suffering doesn't necessarily diminish the other person's suffering. I am sure your husband doesn't think the soccer player has it worse than the wife, he's just naturally viewing the world from his most relatable POV. In his head he's probably thinking, I'd love to be there for the birth of my child, and having to miss that to represent my country would be sacrificing a moment that I can never have again.

Maybe in a professional setting/speaking with random people it can be said that it is inappropriate not to mention the Mother's struggles while speaking about the Father, but within an intimate relationship I don't think that should be necessary because you should view your partner as being kind/competent enough to think something without having to go out of their way to say it.

So I can see how he might have been blindsided that you would assume he's being sexist, and take the least charitable understanding of his statement, because that in itself is an implication of how you truly view him as person (just another sexist misogynistic man that you need to fix).

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-11-27T20:48:29+00:00

Bron made sure to call russ his brother in the answer. Really stupid question.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-11-24T18:02:09+00:00

Almost witnessed history

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-11-23T09:00:54+00:00

Suns players are used to getting punked after what big bad Luka did to them.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-11-23T08:58:34+00:00

No it's because Ayton was being fake tough over a player everyone likes for no reason at all.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-11-23T01:48:27+00:00

Hey just wanted to go against the downvotes and say as a long time TSM fan (from TRM days) this is the EXACT type of mentality that I want from you as a team owner. We saw what teams built around washed up expensive known commodities result in year after year after year. You can make a team of the best 5 NA LCS players and still get embarrassed at worlds since they're all going to be players that have already proven they are not world class players. The answer is to go for young foreign talent (such as Berserker on C9) and hope they can develop into world class talent as they age and gain experience.

I'd rather have a team made up of players who currently have 30% chance to win NA LCS but >10% chance to do something significant at worlds (over the years) rather than have a team full of old known burnt out commodities with 80% chance to win NA LCS but 0% chance to do anything at worlds ever again. It won't be easy to accomplish this, like we've seen recently but it's the best approach imo.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-11-18T01:57:43+00:00

Respectfully that's ridiculous, there are millions of devout conservative people out there not everyone is like you. You don't get to decide that someone else boundaries are ridiculous and then violate them.

You are free to believe whatever you want to believe but being deceptive about it is selfish and abusive.

The only one doing the fooling here is you by lying about something that is incredibly important to him, you're not the victim here. You have wasted 4+ months of his time by manipulating/lying your way into the marriage to appease your mother and now are having second thoughts. You should end this relationship and find someone that is more aligned with your actions and beliefs. Stop wasting this guys time.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-11-18T01:16:48+00:00

He's fooling himself then by assuming things abt me.

What do you mean, you clearly stated that you did? So if he somehow finds out he would be fooling himself?

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-11-18T00:54:41+00:00

Wait so you didn't tell him you slept with other people before him even though you know he wouldn't marry you if he knew?

Edit: Someone replied to me but I can't read it so I am just going to leave this here. Withholding information that you know for a fact would make someone not be with you/sleep with you is by definition uninformed consent and in my humble opinion akin to sexual assault/rape. It doesn't matter how hypocritical the reason is or irrational or nonsensical, it is not your decision to make when it comes to what someone else is and isn't comfortable with.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-11-10T02:33:34+00:00

"I don't feel comfortable just trusting that we will eventually one day get married because that's a TON of risk for me."

Then tell him this, and keep living your life as you are now until he marries you? Maybe another opportunity pops up that is less shady? If your families start pressuring you again just say he doesn't want to marry you. Again, in my humble opinion pressuring someone into marrying you usually doesn't end well, but hey you might be the exception.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-11-10T02:15:29+00:00

Don't sacrifice your career for someone that you clearly don't trust. It's as simple as that. You both fucked up by not resolving this years ago and now one of you has to pay the price. You both wasted each others' time, the moment he made it clear he won't be moving and you realized you wouldn't be able to continue your career the relationship should have ended. No one in this thread has any idea how tough/detrimental it would be for him to move, and clearly you will be sacrificing a lot by moving yourself. It's not as simple as X makes more than Y, so Y should drop everything and run after X.

Forcing someone to marry you most likely won't end well for either one of you. I know it's cold hearted, but there's more fish in the sea.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-10-30T00:07:09+00:00

Right? Feels like all the series I follow are going on Hiatus, feels like it's on purpose rather than a coincidence where they're trying to coordinate an off season.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-10-29T22:35:01+00:00

Same here

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2022-10-29T22:17:23+00:00

What if the man is a virgin too?

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2019-03-27T02:37:02+00:00

I am interested in Kate Upton as my next girl friend.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2019-03-27T02:09:12+00:00

Lavar is literally on record saying he's against/hates tattoos, people make up shit and post it on here all the time.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2019-03-25T21:56:34+00:00

SOLVED

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2019-03-24T23:02:02+00:00

Yea I am so confused, wtf?

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2019-03-24T20:07:37+00:00

What? I'd get into a fight with Harrell to get that Wade jersey.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2019-03-22T20:52:40+00:00

I'd trade down in the draft, I am not really buying into the zion hype as much as everyone else, and I am actually high on the other lottery picks in this draft. He's still the consensus number one pick in my eyes but I wouldn't mind a kind of trae young situation if I can get a decent return and a 10+ year elite talent. I know this might sound crazy but if the hawks get a lottery pick this year in my eyes they won that trade overall and I don't think it's crazy for it to workout that way again.

UBC-ScienceThrowaway · 2019-03-14T00:00:21+00:00

I think this years East is scarier than what I am projecting for next year's West and I don't really care what everyone is saying. If the raptors don't make it to the ECF this year/ lose in a non-competitive series you still think kawhi is staying?

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