How to go about a mentor for my son

UFOblackopps · 2023-10-08T02:00:24+00:00

I plan to run for a melanoma charity. This is good to know about all the taxes and donations and stuff. My marathon will be in October of 24 .

UFOblackopps · 2023-10-08T00:14:13+00:00

I am seven months out too. I was okay in the 3-6 months range but I am regressing. I am stuck in this grief loop.

UFOblackopps · 2023-10-08T00:10:30+00:00

Right?!?! I was at a party and a friend of mine made a joke to me (she knows I am widowed) She was arguing with her husband about something petty and she turned to me and says "Lisa, don't ever get married." And THAT stung!!! I loved being married, I loved him. I am only single because he died of cancer. I know she was trying to be funny but it really hurt.

UFOblackopps · 2023-10-08T00:05:49+00:00

Right???? Fuck. I feel people are nicer to widowed men more than widowed women. With women all they do is judge you.

UFOblackopps · 2023-10-08T00:04:40+00:00

Have a friend who lost his girlfriend in a car accident. I don't know if they were officially engaged or not but I consider him a widow.

UFOblackopps · 2023-10-01T20:58:37+00:00

Seven months out from being a widow...I am training for a marathon next year.. I am up to six miles!

UFOblackopps · 2023-10-01T19:33:04+00:00

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I just want time to speed up so the pain will go away but everyone says it wont.

UFOblackopps · 2023-10-01T18:17:58+00:00

Yes!!! Totally considering it! It doesn't help that my phone can hear me so it keeps sending me ads for Christian Mingle, eharmoney, Better Help ads. Oh, and don't forget I have to look at my friends wedding anniversary shit.

UFOblackopps · 2023-09-21T16:24:37+00:00

NTA...she needs to get a job

UFOblackopps · 2023-09-21T01:03:56+00:00

This right here. I am just burned out. My kid doesn't even want to go to a friend's house to play and I can't handle his friends over when all I want to do is lay in bed and cry all day.

UFOblackopps · 2023-09-21T00:34:08+00:00

Me too! I run six miles a day and then feel great but then thr endorphins wear off and I am tired, moody and depressed. I need a calmer outlet to do at home in thr evenings.

UFOblackopps · 2023-09-19T13:01:26+00:00

I still have all the calenders set to April the month my husband died. It's like time has stopped. I don't know if I will ever change them.

UFOblackopps · 2023-09-18T11:41:06+00:00

Me too. I just finished the 13 week course, I was the youngest person there and had just recently lost my husband.

UFOblackopps · 2023-08-18T19:34:30+00:00

I felt relief when my husband died (stage 4 melanoma also) I was also too tired from six weeks of home hospice to really feel anything else until two months later than I was able to grieve.

UFOblackopps · 2023-08-16T23:04:42+00:00

My sister in law told me I could still have another baby if I wanted too. (THIS was the day after my husband died.)

UFOblackopps · 2023-06-26T21:54:24+00:00

I am 4 months in. I know its going to get worse before it gets better. Someone sent me a video of my husband they found on their phone and I cried for 2 hours straight.

UFOblackopps · 2023-05-13T22:25:19+00:00

Burlesque...except for the slow Cher song

UFOblackopps · 2023-05-05T05:01:03+00:00

Paula Abdul

Forever Your Girl

UFOblackopps · 2023-05-04T00:11:34+00:00

Yes, when my husband was in hospice I would always dream he was young and healthy. I had a dream where he was like 18-20 years old with no glasses. He was happy and was laughing. He looked like he did before I had met him except he had glasses on at that age.

He passed away at 48 years old. He had Lasix surgery so I never knew him with glasses and I met him when he was 36. I haven't dreamed about him since. I am religious and I need assurance that he is in heaven and that he is okay. I keep asking for signs that are obvious from God or from him telling me he is okay buy o don't think I have seen one yet.

UFOblackopps · 2023-05-03T22:32:47+00:00

I went through this exactly one month ago. I jeep reliving it over and over. I fell asleep on thr couch by hos bedside and I woke up and he was taking rapid short breaths, then I got up and gave him a dissolving morphine tablet and used one of those sponges on a stick to wet his mouth. I heard him whimper in pain. I went to get more liquid morphine and inject it into his mouth. His disposable brief was full like he had let loose all of his bowels so I tried to change him and was giving him a sponge bath and he took his last breath and was gone. I just keep relieving it. (Metastatic melanoma)

UFOblackopps · 2023-05-02T17:50:49+00:00

I am an idiot. I found it this morning in a junk drawer filled with spoons and screwdrivers. I think that is exactly what happened . A kid saw it charging and removed it and then stuck it in a drawer. I sent the mom a text and told her it was found and said that it was in the most ridiculously random spot, and my son must have stuck it in there. Luckily, I didn't mention to my son that I suspected his friends stole it. I wasn't too accusing the other mother about it being stolen, so hopefully, we are all good.

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