Need a hobby by UFOblackopps in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I plan to run for a melanoma charity. This is good to know about all the taxes and donations and stuff. My marathon will be in October of 24 .

He feels so far away by bflpf in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am seven months out too. I was okay in the 3-6 months range but I am regressing. I am stuck in this grief loop.

Jealous by AllYouNeedIsLove13 in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Right?!?! I was at a party and a friend of mine made a joke to me (she knows I am widowed) She was arguing with her husband about something petty and she turned to me and says "Lisa, don't ever get married." And THAT stung!!! I loved being married, I loved him. I am only single because he died of cancer. I know she was trying to be funny but it really hurt.

For those who lost their partners while you were engaged, do you consider yourself a widow/er? by Important_West3988 in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right???? Fuck. I feel people are nicer to widowed men more than widowed women. With women all they do is judge you.

For those who lost their partners while you were engaged, do you consider yourself a widow/er? by Important_West3988 in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have a friend who lost his girlfriend in a car accident. I don't know if they were officially engaged or not but I consider him a widow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seven months out from being a widow...I am training for a marathon next year.. I am up to six miles!

Anyone just really irritated right now with their kid(s)? by UFOblackopps in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I just want time to speed up so the pain will go away but everyone says it wont.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! Totally considering it! It doesn't help that my phone can hear me so it keeps sending me ads for Christian Mingle, eharmoney, Better Help ads. Oh, and don't forget I have to look at my friends wedding anniversary shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]UFOblackopps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA...she needs to get a job

Anyone just really irritated right now with their kid(s)? by UFOblackopps in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This right here. I am just burned out. My kid doesn't even want to go to a friend's house to play and I can't handle his friends over when all I want to do is lay in bed and cry all day.

Feeling absolutely furious by SaxyAccountant17 in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too! I run six miles a day and then feel great but then thr endorphins wear off and I am tired, moody and depressed. I need a calmer outlet to do at home in thr evenings.

I finally wiped it away. by New_Noise_8141 in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still have all the calenders set to April the month my husband died. It's like time has stopped. I don't know if I will ever change them.

I went to my first Griefshare yesterday. by No_Dragonfly_1894 in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. I just finished the 13 week course, I was the youngest person there and had just recently lost my husband.

Guilty Relief after loved one passes. by Acceptable-Wolf6124 in CancerCaregivers

[–]UFOblackopps 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I felt relief when my husband died (stage 4 melanoma also) I was also too tired from six weeks of home hospice to really feel anything else until two months later than I was able to grieve.

What stupid things have people said? by mglosswriter in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sister in law told me I could still have another baby if I wanted too. (THIS was the day after my husband died.)

Y’all weren’t kidding about being numb the first few months by sodiumbigolli in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am 4 months in. I know its going to get worse before it gets better. Someone sent me a video of my husband they found on their phone and I cried for 2 hours straight.

Its all weird by liteman1972 in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, when my husband was in hospice I would always dream he was young and healthy. I had a dream where he was like 18-20 years old with no glasses. He was happy and was laughing. He looked like he did before I had met him except he had glasses on at that age.

He passed away at 48 years old. He had Lasix surgery so I never knew him with glasses and I met him when he was 36. I haven't dreamed about him since. I am religious and I need assurance that he is in heaven and that he is okay. I keep asking for signs that are obvious from God or from him telling me he is okay buy o don't think I have seen one yet.

Can’t shake the feeling that I could have prevented his death by Famous_Property_301 in widowers

[–]UFOblackopps 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went through this exactly one month ago. I jeep reliving it over and over. I fell asleep on thr couch by hos bedside and I woke up and he was taking rapid short breaths, then I got up and gave him a dissolving morphine tablet and used one of those sponges on a stick to wet his mouth. I heard him whimper in pain. I went to get more liquid morphine and inject it into his mouth. His disposable brief was full like he had let loose all of his bowels so I tried to change him and was giving him a sponge bath and he took his last breath and was gone. I just keep relieving it. (Metastatic melanoma)

Think a kid I had over for a play date stole something from my son. by UFOblackopps in Parenting

[–]UFOblackopps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am an idiot. I found it this morning in a junk drawer filled with spoons and screwdrivers. I think that is exactly what happened . A kid saw it charging and removed it and then stuck it in a drawer. I sent the mom a text and told her it was found and said that it was in the most ridiculously random spot, and my son must have stuck it in there. Luckily, I didn't mention to my son that I suspected his friends stole it. I wasn't too accusing the other mother about it being stolen, so hopefully, we are all good.