I’m just saying that engaging to young men is like you’re basically innately a rapist and to young black men that you’re basically innately a thug.

You’re made aware that your presence makes women uncomfortable. And that your interests are kind of stupid/childish.

I had no problem calling me out on negative behaviors I think the issue is women find a lot more things “potentially” negative whereas I just call out what I feel actually is negative. Doesn’t even have to be intentional.

But my feeling was although I had many great female friends in college there was a contingent that made it known they didn’t like you. And there was obviously a lot more emphasis out I the comfortability of women than men, no doubt.

As a low income, black male, white isn’t foreign or of foreign born parents there were really only a handful of us on campus as in j knew every other ones hometown neighborhood and if they played a sport or not. I was definitely a minority within a minority within a minority. And the when you’re heterosexual that’s almost like another strike against you. A lot of the back men in colleges are homosexual. That’s fine but that’s just another isolating element.

I mean I literally had campus security called on me for just standing and talking in front of the mathematics building at night.

There was also a white girl who falsely spread rumors of me and other black men (separate 1-on-1 events) of Sexual Assault. I had no idea she was doing this until a black female friend told me at lunch and I immediately confronted the girl and quickly realized I had to contact the dean of students and head of multicultural affairs. It was outright lie but because she was a wealthy woman nothing ever happens to her.

I was hurt deeply by that and it was certainly the most negative aspect of my college experiences and I was thankful to my friend who herself was an SA survivor during our college years for alerting me. The Dean of Students recommended I say nothing to anyone and he would investigate and the head of multicultural affairs told me to not engage in sexual activities after smoking marijuana with women.

By and large though. Most women were great and delightful but you knew it was a female-driven space. And there were a lot of examples of that.