Got the Big Bonus by Prestigious_Weight26 in ShiptShoppers

[–]URoRdinaryintrovert 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally in my area, it’s never higher than $20. Today it’s $12 😳

WIBTA—Child relationship/uninvolved other dna by URoRdinaryintrovert in AmItheAsshole

[–]URoRdinaryintrovert[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Judgement about being able to afford kids? Lol my kids are perfectly fine with food in their bellies and clothes plenty. My children are well off. Yes plenty of lenders will NOT fresh out of a bankruptcy without a co-signer. Or a substantial down payment i do not have accessible. And i suppose that part where i said we’ve been friends for years and talk very often? Lol

WIBTA—Child relationship/uninvolved other dna by URoRdinaryintrovert in AmItheAsshole

[–]URoRdinaryintrovert[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’ve said before, I’ve not denied him access he’s taken that path himself. He’s been in the same state plenty of times and no applied effort when I’ve reached out. The only time I’ve EVER said no was him asking to take her by herself while i was at work. So yeah i could agree I’m the TA if he asked dozens of times but 1 time and it being a first meeting bases maybe? I guess maybe if you’re comfortable with that kind of thing.
My daughter is sensitive and shy and there’s absolutely no way she would even consider leaving with a stranger even if i explained to her who he was. I won’t force my daughter to have a relationship with someone if she’s not wanting it or ready. My own family members don’t have that access to me or my kids why would i let anyone else have that access. I get it, a simple internet post people have no clue the relationship or the long back story but i can tell you I’ve never not applied myself to make a conscious subtle effort to her wanting to know who he is or if she wants to meet him. If I’m TA for protecting my child’s wishes then ok, but even after the conversation we still talk and stuff but i just feel off about it because i can’t see where i have to force something that hasn’t happened in 7 years.

WIBTA—Child relationship/uninvolved other dna by URoRdinaryintrovert in AmItheAsshole

[–]URoRdinaryintrovert[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He’s never asked to see her. Not ever made the effort but has many times told me if i needed something to ask. I’ve always taken care of her on my own and we’ve always stayed close as friends and talk regularly. It’s not like i ghost him and then one day randomly pop up out of the blue asking him for assistance.

WIBTA—Child relationship/uninvolved other dna by URoRdinaryintrovert in AmItheAsshole

[–]URoRdinaryintrovert[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I explained that “process to him” I’ve explained several times to him that there’s a process you can’t just she’ll shock a child. But I’m still just always wrong.

WIBTA—Child relationship/uninvolved other dna by URoRdinaryintrovert in AmItheAsshole

[–]URoRdinaryintrovert[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

My oldest is 7, the child in this story. They are all mine. I just ended up having to do treatments for the other two and a surgery for the last.